17/12/2025
Waiting for him to apologize.
Waiting for him to fix it.
Waiting for him to notice I was hurt.
And while I waited, my mind turned into a battlefield:
🙉 I’d overthink every word
I’d spiral into worst-case scenarios
I’d ruminate until I was exhausted
I’d look for more things to prove I was right and my partner was wrong
It felt justified… but all it ever did was deepen the disconnection.
Because those are the behaviors of a wounded ego, not a regulated heart.
Ego says 👇🏽
“He should reach out first.”
“If he cared, he’d fix it.”
“I’m right — he needs to admit he’s wrong.”
“Don’t soften… you’ll lose power.”
But your Higher Self 💫 is whispering something completely different:
“Connect, don’t protect.”
“Love can’t flow through tension.”
“Your partner isn’t the enemy — your fear is.”
“You heal the moment you stop waiting and start leading with truth.”
Because the truth is ❄️
Being your true self means tending to what YOU need first — not waiting for your partner to guess it.
And the real power moment isn’t reaching out first.
It’s getting regulated before you do.
Because when you take 2–3 minutes to calm your body…
your message changes.
your energy softens.
your partner feels safer.
your connection shifts from avoidance → secure.
This is the belief shift that changes everything:
🛑 Stop waiting for your partner to go first, and start healing the part of you that’s afraid to lead connection.
And when you do?
✨ You stop spiraling.
✨ You stop assuming the worst.
✨ You communicate as your grounded, true self.
✨ Your partner responds with openness instead of defense.
✨ You heal the pattern — instead of repeating it.
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