11/05/2026
How was your Mother's Day?
I chose, many years ago, that my child's birthday always came first.
This year, that child turned 21!
This year, I stepped it up, as we agreed, this is the last year, that he's the sole priority on this weekend.
So this year, we had a somewhat joint celebration, however the focus was still 99% on him.
This year, I also decided, enough was enough & we invited his dad & step mum, to come and join us, in our house, amicably & have some fun.
I texted his step mum the 2 pictures at the end - so she knew we were serious.
It's been over 16yrs
The anger, upset & animosity has been gone for MANY years - but that's next step, I've been trying towards for the last 5 yrs, never landed, until this year.
We shared a meal, out at a restaurant, for my youngest son's 18th in January - so I knew that this was a evolution of that.
We had a wonderful afternoon, sharing food, playing card games, having a laugh, a celebratory drink π·π» and everything & everyone was calm, happy, peaceful and relaxed.
It was a beautiful & wonderful experience, day & moment in time.
Time really does heal, especially when YOU do the work on the parts of YOURSELF that need the healing & have true accountability and acceptance of your own BS & NOT keep going with the old patterns of projection.
We didn't get a picture of us all together, we lived in the moment.
However, it was witnessed, in real time, live streamed to the birthday boy's GF, who unfortunately couldn't be with us in person. But we made sure that she was included, in all parts of the day & evening, as much as possible.
It's at times & moments like this, both in the moment & upon reflection, that you really do see the rewards of your own efforts, especially in the hardest of healing experiences that you have faced - you see the results & positive benefits in real time, rippling through your entire family.
Peace
Love
Harmony
Kindness
Inclusion
- Kinesiologist Cassandra