Child-Centred Sydney

Child-Centred Sydney Play Therapy and Adolescent Counselling Specialising in child-centred play therapy and person-centred counselling.

Child-Centred Sydney is a specialist counselling service for children aged 3 to 11, and adolescent girls between 12 and 16 years old.

These questions/comments are also (usually unintentionally) condescending. If you wouldn't say it to a friend, don't say...
21/12/2025

These questions/comments are also (usually unintentionally) condescending. If you wouldn't say it to a friend, don't say it to a child. It's not about treating children like adults, it's about showing them the same level of respect.
Also remember, questions are not great for connection and quizzing can make kids anxious. They're having to perform at an age when they should be learning organically through natural exchanges and modelling by their safe adults.

"In early childhood, intelligence is often reduced to what is easiest to observe and measure. Labeling colors. Reciting ...
21/12/2025

"In early childhood, intelligence is often reduced to what is easiest to observe and measure. Labeling colors. Reciting sequences. Repeating symbols on command. These performances reflect exposure and repeated drills, not the kind of learning that actually reorganizes the brain.

The developing brain does not learn best through isolated facts. It learns through experience, movement, emotion, and problem solving.

Play is the mechanism through which this happens. During play, multiple systems in the brain are activated at once. Sensory input, motor planning, emotional regulation, memory, and executive function are all working together.

When a child builds a structure and adjusts it after it collapses, negotiates roles in pretend play, or experiments with materials to test cause and effect, the brain is strengthening neural networks that support attention, flexibility, persistence, and reasoning.

These experiences drive synaptic growth and integration between brain regions. This is what allows learning to transfer later into reading comprehension, mathematical thinking, and self-directed problem solving.

Rote drills operate very differently.

When children are asked to memorize symbols or sequences without meaningful context, learning stays superficial. Information is stored in isolation, without the rich neural connections needed for retrieval or application. This is why children can identify letters yet struggle to read, or count fluently without understanding quantity, relationships, or patterns. Memorization creates performance. It does not build understanding.

Play, by contrast, creates meaning. It embeds learning in the body. It engages emotion. It requires decision making, error correction, and sustained attention. This is the kind of learning the brain is biologically designed to do, especially in the early years when neural plasticity is at its peak."

We hear this all the time...

“My toddler is so smart. They know their colors, numbers, and letters. I don’t want them to be bored and need to challenge them!"

Or from teachers: “How do I get my class to learn their letters and numbers?”

This is where our definition of intelligence quietly goes off course.

In early childhood, intelligence is often reduced to what is easiest to observe and measure. Labeling colors. Reciting sequences. Repeating symbols on command. These performances reflect exposure and repeated drills, not the kind of learning that actually reorganizes the brain.

The developing brain does not learn best through isolated facts. It learns through experience, movement, emotion, and problem solving.

Play is the mechanism through which this happens.

During play, multiple systems in the brain are activated at once. Sensory input, motor planning, emotional regulation, memory, and executive function are all working together.

When a child builds a structure and adjusts it after it collapses, negotiates roles in pretend play, or experiments with materials to test cause and effect, the brain is strengthening neural networks that support attention, flexibility, persistence, and reasoning.

These experiences drive synaptic growth and integration between brain regions. This is what allows learning to transfer later into reading comprehension, mathematical thinking, and self-directed problem solving.

Rote drills operate very differently.

When children are asked to memorize symbols or sequences without meaningful context, learning stays superficial. Information is stored in isolation, without the rich neural connections needed for retrieval or application. This is why children can identify letters yet struggle to read, or count fluently without understanding quantity, relationships, or patterns. Memorization creates performance. It does not build understanding.

Play, by contrast, creates meaning.

It embeds learning in the body. It engages emotion. It requires decision making, error correction, and sustained attention. This is the kind of learning the brain is biologically designed to do, especially in the early years when neural plasticity is at its peak.

This is exactly what we unpack inside our in-depth, self-paced course: ALL ABOUT PLAY! https://www.weskoolhouse.com/courses

The course breaks down how play shapes brain development, how different types of play support different cognitive and regulatory systems, and why experiences like risky play, outdoor play, and even destructive play are not optional extras but essential for healthy development. It explores play schemas, stages of play, and the adult role in protecting the learning process without hijacking it through over-direction or premature academics.

This work is for parents and educators who want to move beyond surface-level achievement and understand how learning actually takes root in the brain. Because when we understand how children learn, we stop rushing outcomes and start supporting development in ways that last.

Wishing all children and their families peace 🕊️The practice will reopen on Tuesday 20 January 2026.
21/12/2025

Wishing all children and their families peace 🕊️

The practice will reopen on Tuesday 20 January 2026.

One example of how play therapy works.
05/12/2025

One example of how play therapy works.

05/12/2025

"When we lose our playfulness, we're in trouble. Children need to play, adults need to play. We have become a work-oriented society, an outcome-based society. When a child plays a game only to win and doesn't enjoy the activity — that is no longer play, it's work." — Dr. Gordon Neufeld

True play isn’t about performance or outcomes. It’s expressive, not evaluative. It creates emotional safety and freedom — not pressure to succeed. But in today’s culture, true play is vanishing.

This clip is from Dr. Neufeld’s Keynote: 'Making Sense of Kids' from the 2018 Neufeld Institute Vancouver Conference. If you want to listen to the whole keynote, then you can find it under our free resources at neufeldinstitute.org/free

Child-Centred Play Therapy (CCPT) Facts.Source: CCPT International
03/12/2025

Child-Centred Play Therapy (CCPT) Facts.
Source: CCPT International

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05/11/2025

Real-Life Toys:

This category consists of toys that are directly representative of real-world items including doll families, doll's house, pretend food, baby bottles, blankets; doctor kit; miniature figurines; cars, boats, airplanes; cash register and play money; pretend/fantasy play items, such as dress ups, masks and magic wands; puppets and puppet theatre, among other things.

Something to bear in mind: 'What looks frivolous might actually be a child learning where control begins. And ends.When ...
05/11/2025

Something to bear in mind: 'What looks frivolous might actually be a child learning where control begins. And ends.

When a child wraps tape around their arm, they’re doing more than playing with a material. They’re experimenting with autonomy.

How tight is too tight? What happens if I pull? How does it feel to choose something uncomfortable, and undo it myself?

This is sensory exploration and self-regulation in motion. It’s the body asking questions the brain doesn’t have experience for yet.

Play like this isn’t about craft or product. It’s about agency. And when we interrupt too soon, “Don’t waste that tape!” “That will hurt!” we cut off the very process that teaches kids how to recognise, test, and trust their own limits.

So the next time you see something that looks like nonsense, stay curious. You might be witnessing the first draft of self-control.'

Source: Rooted in Play

Play therapy provides an opportunity for children to develop their narratives and make meaning of their experiences. The...
04/11/2025

Play therapy provides an opportunity for children to develop their narratives and make meaning of their experiences. The therapist's role is to support children through reflection and co-regulation so that they can develop coherent narratives of their lived experiences.

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