Anita Narayan -Life Coach

23/11/2025

It's a whole new world and the youth are leading the way. A recent report by the published on World Kindness Day, November 13th shows a growing shift in the value systems of Australian youth between the ages of 16 to 45. Listen to the reviews from experts in Mental Health professionals such as and Udawat who evaluate this trend in the context of digital overload and its impact on mental health...

https://www.sbs.com.au/language/hindi/en/podcast-episode/new-study-finds-kindness-at-the-heart-of-australian-identity/qqajss20p

10/08/2025

1. Be Present: Experience the present moment to the fullest, without judgement and aware of your needs. e.g. It is ok to say no to communicate your need for space and time.

2. De-Clutter: Clearing physical clutter helps organize your thoughts and stay focused on the task at hand, it helps bring harmony to your environment and within the self.

3. ME Time: Make time for self care and self reflection one hour a day for 28 days to make it a habit i.e. go to bed at 10.00 pm . Some of these sessions can also include self-refection what is working and what is not working in alignment with my future goals.

4. Self - Compassion: Practice self compassion. If we make mistakes it's easy to dive into self judgement, self- compassion however is realising every day is a new opportunity to do better.

5. Measurable Goals: Set small measurable goals for the future i.e. spend 30 mins trice a week to learn a new skill, save $10 a week, apply to one job a week.

6. Invest in a Support System: Invest in reliable friendships or build sustainable financial habits

7. Be Patient: Loving yourself is a long term commitment and will take time and steady progress acknowledge this, be patient with progress, forgive minor setbacks and continue moving forward.

We encourage you to like and share your own stories of struggles and triumphs with sustainable self-care.

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[Video Credit: Tanya D'mello, Caption Credit: Anita Narayan & Tanya D'mello]

19/10/2023

The term ‘ ’ was new to me when I heard it several years ago but now it is getting quite common amongst families, friends and those who are in romantic relationships too. Ghosting is a colloquial term used by someone when they are abruptly cut out of relationships, and when the person who was ghosted reaches out for an explanation to get closure, they are met with complete unresponsive silence. Basically by vanishing in thin air, the ghoster on the other hand could be avoiding an awkward and difficult conversation and is not in a position to face the ghostee’s feelings.

Being on the receiving end the ghostee could experience a severe impact on their emotional and mental well-being, mainly because they lose the opportunity to talk through and understand the reason, which can help them heal. Without a clarifying conversation, it can lead to abandonment issues in some while some may even question their self-worth. In the long term the person who got ghosted could display lack of trust in all their future relationships.

Now let us consider the other side of the coin and play devil’s advocate to the ghoster. The ghoster could suffer from social anxiety and/or could lack the necessary communication skills to explain the reason for their actions. Having difficult conversations could stir some buried emotions, which they are still not ready to face. Studies have shown that ghosters have displayed guilt and remorse and have found it difficult to let go of their past experience.

Tips to heal…

Grieve, it can give you an opportunity to work through your own emotions, which will help in getting closure.

Focus on where your presence is valued. Your family and friends who truly care about you will remind you how valuable you are to them.

If you feel you are not coping well, then do make sure you are reaching out for help from a trained professional.

25/09/2023

Getting Good Angry!

What is anger and when was the last time you got really ? The American Psychological Association ( ) defines as “A basic that arises from , injustice or injury”. Whenever we hear about anger, our mind immediately connects to it’s negative effect on our body, mind and our with our friends and associates doesn’t it; but in recent years, researchers and experts have recognised that this emotion could have a positive outcome if used appropriately. While anger can be misused to control and tyrannise others both in personal and professional life. In this article, I will try to address how we can channelise this energy towards our and .

To elaborate this further, anger is a powerful emotion,which requires to be managed in a very mature manner, because if it is externalised, it can escalate into aggression and violence and on the other hand, internalising can cause depression or other health issues. Hence maintaining a balance is necessary to allow this powerful emotion to empower us. While often triggered by an external factor, this emotion aids in protecting us from things that hurt and also helps us challenge any injustice or discrimination we are experiencing at the moment. For example, when we feel angry or triggered by a particular incident, it empowers us to make a shift from an undesirable to a desirable position, mainly because it encourages to focus on what we would like to achieve, rather than focusing on feeling about something, we channelise this feeling towards identifying a problem or the trigger and focus our energy on protecting ourselves, thus providing us with a sense of control and optimism to handle the situation in a manner.

Experts are still learning and working on techniques to use anger in a constructive manner, however, it is good to understand when experiencing destructive forms of anger or when having trouble expressing our emotions, to seek help from a and processing immediately.

26/06/2023

Have you ever heard your inner voice saying “I am not good enough, and what if others realize that I am faking it?” You could be experiencing . A Feeling of , or experiencing internal in response to . This feeling could stop one from experiencing the joy associated with their success. Imposter syndrome can be summarized as doubting one’s own , associated with a feeling of shame.

Imposter Syndrome was identified by Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Imes, way back in 1978. Though this syndrome is not listed in the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) clinical psychologists Clance and Imes have research evidence showing that both men and women experience this phenomena; specially if they have been high achievers they start judging themselves for not being able to contribute at the same pace.

Research has pointed towards a combination of factors which could be contributors. They are:

on being an overachiever, being raised by excessively critical parents or family members who are explicitly connected to a higher level of whether in academics or in any extracurricular activities associated with school during growing years.

status, , difference, physical appearance, ethnicity that make a person feel cast out, can also fuel imposter syndrome, because it causes an individual not to experience a sense of belonging even after situations have changed in their favor.

To overcome imposter syndrome, we must first gain of the adverse impact it is creating on our mind and body. To identify triggering thoughts journal them into two columns, one “ ” and the other “invalidating”. This will help refocus on , and aiding the development of a . Lastly, be kind to yourself, practice self-compassion which will empower you to grow.

19/06/2023

12/06/2023

04/06/2023

Feeling and experiencing an array of different kinds of emotions is a normal part of life for many, how we are able to manage these plays a crucial role in our physical and mental well-being. Many of us are very aware of our body’s reaction when there is an increase in stress, shallow breathing, increased heart rate or even an acidic reaction in the stomach.

A person could be experiencing , or however, their ability to recognize these feelings and to be able to self soothe or themselves enough where they feel that they are in control is called emotional . Managing strong emotions is a skill many of us must learn to master throughout our childhood and all the way into our adulthood. Lack of emotional self regulation, can cause negative reactions, which could lead to social repercussions such as damaging relationships with others due to an emotional outburst.

When we look at little children throwing tantrums, we do notice the guidance they receive from their caregivers or peers to help them understand if they are being reasonable in getting what they want or not. As the child grows older, they get encouraged to learn from similar situations, that help them make a well grounded behavioral choice, and this pattern in turn becomes second nature. For young people with developmental delays or adults who find it challenging to self-regulate emotions, this awareness can be achieved with the guidance of therapists and regular coaching as they encourage practice and repetition, while throwing light on the positive benefits.

Some tips to improve emotional self-regulation…

the disempowering thought that comes with the feeling, gradually shift it towards an empowering one. Be mindful and remember that changing a thought is easier, hence pay special attention to keeping the change.

in activities that help maintain the change and provide a sense of growth and achievement.

of your emotional needs but make time to take care of your physical needs too! Make sure you eat healthy and keep hydrated; doing at least 40 minutes of walking in the open; and getting a restful night of sleep. A healthy body is a fertile host to a healthy mind.

22/05/2023

We all are worth it! It might often surprise us, the reaction people display when they give or receive compliments. This could be because many of us are conditioned from an early age to be modest and not ‘show off’, which could be a reason why we tend to idolize others, instead of taking the time to celebrate our personal accomplishments or abilities to win over our own challenges.

Deflecting a compliment doesn’t make a person modest, whilst there are several other ways of displaying humbleness. Instead of cringing, gracefully accepting what other people feel about our appealing personal qualities, can be seen as a sign of modesty. In fact, by negating compliments, we may be dismissing our own ability and self-worth. A New York based social worker Lisa Schuman sums it well by saying, “sometimes it is hard because of social anxiety or low self-esteem.”

Hence:

By responding with a , we are showing respect to the person who has made an effort to observe what is special about us, a valuable trait that may have gone unnoticed by us too.

our negative self-talk, and our inner self-beliefs. This is not possible overnight, but as we become aware of our physical and emotional cues when our mental monologue begins, it could help us make a shift and accept compliments.

Accepting compliments can prove to be a very powerful motivational tool to building relationships and improve communication which in return will boost self-esteem and self-confidence. Hence developing such positive feelings can act as a pillar to healthy growth, both in our personal as well as professional life.

Each one of us works hard on whatever we undertake, then why should we dismiss the feedback that comes our way through complements. Let us all make a pledge to ourselves, as we read this article, to give ourselves a chance to see what others see and admire within us. I am sure this is going to empower us in an amazing way!

14/05/2023

Happy Mother's Day to all the proud mommas out there!

03/05/2023

and existing are philosophical perspectives on the lives we live and what we want from them, a perspective usually adopted or experienced in mid-life and towards the 60s, 70s and 80s.

Living can be associated with doing things that we always wanted to such as chasing and fulfilling our . When we decide to live, we decide to take full control or ownership of our life and emotions, with a conscious effort of not letting negative interfere with the we make.

On the other hand, is akin to breathing and being alive. By choosing to exist, the individual may not prescribe to a specific purpose in life and may be content regular mundane chores. Someone who has chosen to exist is more inclined to not take ownership for their decisions and could be more likely to let anger, fear and resentment dictate what they can and can’t do.

There are times when we all oscillate between living and existing but if we make a and take , focus on the present, recognize the power of NOW and take ownership of our decisions in the present then we would be living in the true sense of the term.

Enjoy and savor every moment by creating with clarity; allocate frequent breaks for , so that life does not become mechanical, and wake up with a purpose that could help build new meaningful memories.

In order to make the shift from existing to living we need to be able to

ourself the “why” question, “why am I doing this?” Or “why am I feeling this way?”

the skill of saying “No”. If you don’t want to or feel like doing something with a group or an individual, master the art of saying “no”, and don’t worry about what 'they' feel. Get in touch with your 'inner-self' instead and check on how you are feeling. Because that will help you find true as it will give more clarity and perspective to what needs to change.

go of many things that cause us stress could help overcome our triggers.

Now it is time to ask yourself…”Am I living or existing”

16/04/2023

Live life to the fullest. Enjoy the journey with all its bumps and inclines. It will teach you the skills you need to adapt on the go.