29/01/2023
Birth partners….why are you so important? 🤔
The power of a supportive birth partner is not to be underestimated but to often we hear that many birth partners feel a little useless, a little in the way and generally very lost with what they can do to help in the birth space.
I want to reassure you firstly that you are just as important to the birthing person as their breath but just in case that doesn’t help here are some suggestions….
🤰Talk talk and talk some more about the small things and the big things. Then listen….try to understand what is their ideal birth, what fears or worries are they potentially carrying and understand what is important to them. This will not only help you understand your partner better but build intimacy and trust.
📚Delve deep into any reading/listening/watching any material you can (together) to understand the physiological process of labour and birth and to discover different options that may be available
🍽 food is life right but healthy nutritious food and drink is pivotal for labour and birth to give your partner the energy they need as their body works hard. Offer food and drink that is going to sustain them and also don’t you forget to eat and drink too!
✨take responsibility for setting up the space where your partner is going to labour by hanging fairy lights, photos, affirmations etc plus also bringing in some sounds and smells that are going to make her feel calm, safe and loved.
💆♀️ believe it or not but you are the most effective source of pain relief for the birthing person by just being present and supportive. However other techniques such as light touch or massage, beautiful hip squeezes and counter pressure to the sacrum will be highly appreciated and helpful
🧘♀️encourage position changes and movement which will not only assist with pain but also help the baby to navigate through the pelvis safely.
♥️ words have power and especially during birth so use your words to encourage, empower and reassure them they are safe, supported and loved.
🎤advocating doesn’t need to be confrontational like most people think. Instead think of it as being the voice in the room when the birthing person may not be able to speak or ask questions. Be brave
😮💨 it may sound silly but you may need to remind the birthing person to breathe. Do it with them if they can’t remember how to do it.
🥰 finally just be present…this generally includes not being distracted by your phone, chatting with other people or watching TV. Being physically and emotionally present is often all the birthing person needs…so just be….
Is there anything you would add? Please share anything your partner did for you that helped
*Photograph shared with permission and taken by the incredible Elana Mullaly Photography