14/12/2025
💛🧡💚 Perimenopause & Late-Identified AFAB Neurodivergent Women
For many AFAB women, perimenopause arrives without warning — and for those who are autistic or ADHD, it can be the moment everything quietly unravels. When everything hits the proverbial fan.
It’s not something many of us were ever taught to expect.
Women’s health was spoken about in whispers, behind closed doors. Some of us don't have our crones around to share wisdom, and advice around what is happening.
So when shifting hormones begin to disrupt cognition, regulation, energy and executive functioning, it can feel frightening — even identity-shaking.
For high-masking women, this stage of life can be especially confronting.
When estrogen and dopamine shift, the systems we’ve relied on for decades — the coping, the pushing through, the functioning at all costs — stop working the way they always have.
And suddenly we’re left asking:
Why can’t I do what I used to?
What’s wrong with me?
At the same time, many of us are holding careers, caring for children, supporting aging parents — while our own internal operating system feels like it’s crashing.
The expectations don’t slow… but our capacity changes.
For many women, this becomes a time of unmasking.
A time of recognising our own neurodivergence.
A time when the past finally makes sense — and the present asks us to do things differently.
This is not failure.
This is biology meeting burnout meeting decades of invisible labour.
💛🧡 It’s also a time when we need community more than ever.
When the carers need care.
When the ones who’ve always held it together need support holding themselves.
Learning your neurology later in life, making peace with what was missed, and rebuilding with compassion is no small thing.
You don’t have to do it alone. Especially when you are faced with blockages when you ask for help, as medical specialists barely know how to address your fluctuating hormones.
If this resonates — you are seen, you are valid, and you belong here.
