23/04/2026
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Hear us out - it’s ok to feel attached to your therapist
We see so many clients carry shame about the connection they feel with their care team - whether that’s their psychologist, GP, psychiatrist, dietitian, or other providers. This vulnerability can feel especially intense if past attachments led to hurt or disappointment, or if people have indicated that you were too much or too needy.
Maybe the people you were attached to in the past were unpredictable, making it feel risky to let yourself care again.
A big part of what makes therapy work is building a safe, consistent relationship. When you feel attached, it’s actually a sign that the relationship is working. Your therapist becomes someone who helps you feel understood and supported in ways you may not have experienced before.
It’s also completely natural to worry about your therapist leaving or your work together ending. That fear just shows you value the relationship.
Sure, if you find yourself unable to make any decision without checking in with your care provider first, that level of dependency can become limiting. Not because it’s shameful, but because it can hold you back from building the self-confidence you deserve. There’s a difference between something being unhelpful and something being wrong or shameful.
And the truth is, as psychologists and dietitians, we’re deeply invested in your wellbeing. We’re attached to your progress and growth. It makes complete sense that you’d feel attached too.
Credit to Danica Harris for the idea behind this post