
23/11/2021
"What if...?"
Two words anxiety loves! π
To protect you, anxiety wants you to be prepared for every possibility. It will run through many scenarios to predict how a situation might turn out, and at times can be based on bad experiences from the past. However, anxiety doesn't tend to predict balanced or even positive outcomes. It goes straight to the worst case scenario and convinces you that that will be what occurs, often leading people to decide to avoid the situation altogether. This feels relieving in the short term (I avoided something bad happening - phew!), but unfortunately prevents the person seeing that often none of the worst case situations occur, and they can cope way better than they anticipated with what actually happens.
Rather than only thinking of the worst case, try asking, what happened last time? Is there reason to believe things may work out okay? What are the ways I can cope if anything I don't like occurs? Are there any ways the past is different from now? Assess the situation through a factual lens, and if possible, take one step toward facing your fears. Anxiety can be your friend, it doesn't have to be your master.