23/04/2026
As I was driving home yesterday, I started reflecting on how different we all are, yet at the core, we’re all the same.
So, why is it that so many of us see the exact same situation differently, and appear almost oblivious to different viewpoints, and even competitively territorial about our own viewpoint?
I find this so interesting and have no judgement for anyone with a different view because, well we all have a lifetime of encountering s**tty people, phenomenal people, stark raving mad people and people so visionary we can only be in awe.
All of them have taught us something about ourselves, about the world and about what we need to be, do or have in order to be accepted, successful or loved.
After stopping halfway home for coffee, sadly decaf (because late in the day I’d be a menace at 2am if I got the high octane stuff), something else occurred to me.
We are all very, very, very, very, very committed to proving our limitations.
That no one gives a % #!&.
That we’ll look stupid if we …
That no one wants us.
That we’re the problem.
That we’re doing it all alone.
That we’re failing.
That we’re not safe.
That we’re not attractive.
That love comes with a catch.
That we don’t get a say.
That we’re better than others.
That everyone’s better than us.
That we’re too fat.
That no one gives a toss.
That we’re no good at ...
That we need control.
That we’re not valued.
That the good stuff won’t last.
That happy is unsafe.
That we’re no good at …
That it’s all too hard.
That we’re s**t.
That they’re s**t.
That it’s all going to s**t.
It’s bloody exhausting.
For us and for those around us.
We should stop that.
Imagine what could be possible for us if we stopped being so committed to collecting evidence that we’re isolated, lonely, better than others, not as good as others, unsafe, inept, powerless, defective, superior, useless etc.
You know what would be possible?
We’d finally see all the opportunities, the ideas and the meaningful connection that is all around us every single day, that our commitment to lack, makes us blind to.
How do we do it?
We simply become prepared to shift our perspective.
In those times you feel angry, lonely, unheard, not enough ask yourself: what am I committed to proving right now?
And if it doesn’t feel good, shift your perspective til it does, or at least until it feels a little better.
Because the heavy things you’re believing are true … just might not be.
