19/06/2024
It’s school formal time…
… an out-of-routine event that some of our neurodiverse folk might love to attend, yet sensory or social considerations may make it seem unviable.
Here is the plan developed with one young person this week in the clinic, whose concerns were about the feel of fancy clothing, the noise levels, and how to make conversation during formal.
1/ Choosing comfortable clothing to wear:
- Look online at a local store for styles that look nice. Young person knows they can tolerate the feeling of linen clothing, so can search for those specifically on the website. Try to select two outfits from the photos on the site. Screen shot these. This store has a good ‘change of mind’ policy.
- Make the store trip the shortest possible; have the saved photos to show the salesperson once there. Locate and touch the clothes to see if the texture feels nice. If so, parent will purchase these to bring home and try on there.
- Try on both outfits at home and if they feel nice on the body, considering keeping. Take photos of self in each outfit. Have trusted people look at the two photos and help with decision of which one to wear (if uncertain just based on the feel of the clothes).
2/ Coping with noise:
-Plan to arrive early so noise slowly builds at the venue instead of walking into busy, loud room. - -Take AirPods so can listen to white noise app when necessary.
- Being within first arrivals, position self near exit (not the same as the entry) to easily walk out to fresh air if needed.
3/ Knowing what to say:
- Know that as there is music playing, people may not be conversing much.
- Nevertheless, have pre-prepared topics ready. We identified in session the peers with shared school subjects (psychology) and similar sporting interests (Australian Rules) and what they might talk about. These are the young persons passions and will be easy to talk about.
- Use observational learning; when peers go on phones this could also be used as a welcome escape, when needing a ‘rest’ from conversation.
The right level of social input:
The young person chose not to get ready with a peer that invited them to the peers’ home, rather just meet at the front of the formal to walk in together.
The young person also chose not to attend the after party (although invited), and
Recovery time:
With parental permission decided to have the next morning off school to recover from the social input.