Heather McPherson

09/05/2026

03/05/2026

03/05/2026

'Every spiritual advance that you will make in your life will very likely be preceded by some kind of fall or seeming disaster.'

24/04/2026

Anger in relationships gets a bad reputation because of what it can look like when it's expressed poorly. But underneath most relational anger is information that's been waiting to be heard. And when you shut it down instead of listening to it, you usually just end up carrying it longer.

A boundary that's been crossed but never enforced. A need that's been communicated but not taken seriously. A pattern of accommodating that's quietly become resentment. Anger tends to show up loudest when something important has been minimized for too long. It's not asking you to react. It's asking you to pay attention to what you've been letting slide.

Your anger is not the problem. What you do with the information it's carrying is where it gets interesting.

24/04/2026

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2025/05/why-emotional-safety-in-relationships-matters-more-than-we-think-damini-grover/?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQKNjYyODU2ODM3OQABHt8fovuz9Atr0qcuCvR7hLeuqMhJ8a7tReA9xsXVGwpy8ZBhxey-JW0mOw6V_aem_V4HDseIGwoWjb5-As7RHLA

You will always encounter some people in your life with whom you'd be able to talk about anything under the sun except your emotions and emotional needs. Have you ever experienced that?

23/04/2026

If your relationships feel hard, it’s probably not just because of other people.

It’s what your body is holding when you’re with them.

A client came in today dreading a visit with her family. Overwhelmed. Bracing for judgment, criticism… not feeling valued.

Because when hurt has built up over time, your nervous system starts treating people as a threat.

Not consciously. But in the body.

Underneath that was something clearer.

Anger. Not reactive. Not messy. Clean. The kind that shows up when a boundary has been crossed.

At one point she said, “I just want to cut them off at the knees.”

So we gave that impulse somewhere safe and contained to go.

She hit a metal post with a stick—hard, repeatedly—letting her body complete what it had been holding back.

And despite the noise and intensity, the horses moved in close. No alarm. No withdrawal.

They weren’t responding to the force. They were responding to the clarity.

Because anger—when it’s clean—doesn’t break connection. It restores the boundary that makes connection possible.

Afterwards, she was calm. Relaxed. Smiling. And then she said, “I’m actually looking forward to seeing them.”

Same family. Different state.

This is what changes relationships. Not more insight. Not trying harder. But resolving what your body is still carrying into the space.

If you’re tired of working this hard for connection, there’s another way.

16/04/2026

Are we listening?
Even human to human…are we doing what feels right to us only or are we honouring what someone else might need or like?

When we create safe spaces and do what’s more natural we have the opportunity to build meaningful connections. Safe spaces. Trust. A bond.

08/04/2026

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