Anchoring Your Life Counselling

Anchoring Your Life Counselling Debra is an experienced Marriage Therapist & Counsellor, specialising in helping women and couples navigate challenges and rediscover connection.
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Using evidence-based approaches, she provides support tailored to suit you. Sessions in Cleveland & Online

09/10/2025

Ever feel like you’re stuck in a loop of asking… and asking… and asking again? 🔄

In this video, I break down why it happens and share practical relationship tips for:
✨ Expressing needs without blame
✨ Feeling supported in partnership
✨ Reconnecting instead of arguing

If you and your partner want to feel closer, rebuild trust, and improve communication, start by shifting the small patterns today. 🌿

Therapy isn’t just talking - it’s about rewiring your brain.It helps your brain respond differently, reconnect, and rela...
07/10/2025

Therapy isn’t just talking - it’s about rewiring your brain.

It helps your brain respond differently, reconnect, and relate in healthier ways, forming new neural pathways. When you feel seen, understood, and gently challenged, you start to build new patterns in how you think, feel, and act. This process, known as neuroplasticity, supports real, lasting change. You’re not just processing what’s happened - you’re creating new ways of being and experiencing safe, meaningful connection 💛

Many of us grow up with ideas about relationships that simply aren’t true - and holding onto them can make connection fe...
03/10/2025

Many of us grow up with ideas about relationships that simply aren’t true - and holding onto them can make connection feel harder than it needs to be.

Disagreements are normal and can actually help you understand each other better when approached with curiosity and respect. Conflict doesn’t always need immediate resolution; sometimes it requires space for reconnection to occur. Similarly, intimacy and s*x don’t always come easily - desire and closeness can ebb and flow, and that’s okay. Spending every moment together or agreeing on everything is neither possible nor necessary.

💏 What truly matters in a relationship is mutual respect, emotional safety, and a consistent effort to understand and support each other. Focus on connection, not perfection, and your relationship can thrive even when life feels complicated.

30/09/2025

✨ Feeling stuck under the weight of “shoulds”?

That’s the should trap — a common mindset pattern that can drain motivation, add unnecessary guilt, and make life feel heavier than it needs to. 💛

In this short video, I share a simple mindset shift to help you:
🌿 Lower pressure and build self-compassion
🌿 Reduce self-criticism and overthinking
🌿 Move forward with clarity and calm today

💾 Save this for the next time your “shoulds” start piling up.
🔄 Share it with someone who could use a little relief from their own self-pressure.

💛 Counsellors play such an important role in our communities. The recent census highlights the impact we make in support...
26/09/2025

💛 Counsellors play such an important role in our communities. The recent census highlights the impact we make in supporting mental health, relationships, and emotional wellbeing.

In my work, I specialise in counselling for women and couples who feel disconnected in their relationships, who feel stuck in life, and who are ready to reconnect with themselves, with each other, and with life. 🌿

Counselling provides a safe, supportive space to rebuild trust, improve communication, and find new ways of feeling closer, more secure and confident.

📊 ACA 2024 Counselling Workforce Census – Areas of Practice

Counsellors support clients across a wide range of needs, and the Census highlights the top five practice areas in the profession. Anxiety, stress, depression and self-esteem remain the most common focus, followed closely by trauma, grief, family and relationships, and communication support.

These findings show both the breadth of specialisation within counselling and the central role counsellors play in addressing mental health and wellbeing.

Read the ACA 2024 Counselling Workforce Census here: https://theaca.net.au/viewdocument/2024-aca-workforce-survey-report

23/09/2025

Ever feel like you and your partner are just passing each other in the hallway?
Like you’re sharing a house… but not really sharing life? 🏠💔

You’re not alone - and it doesn’t have to stay this way.

Here’s what’s really going on when a relationship starts to feel more like roommates than partners, and how to gently start finding your way back. 💛

🌱 As a child, you carried things that were never meant for your shoulders. You did what you had to do to survive, but th...
19/09/2025

🌱 As a child, you carried things that were never meant for your shoulders. You did what you had to do to survive, but those roles were never truly yours.

It makes sense if, as an adult, you still feel the weight of them - showing up as anxiety, self-doubt, or always putting others first. None of this means you are broken. It means you adapted in ways that kept you safe back then.

✨ One step you can take today is to gently remind yourself: “I am allowed to put this down now.” Then notice one small way you can practice that - maybe by saying no without guilt, letting yourself rest without earning it, or allowing someone else to take responsibility.

These small acts help you loosen the grip of old survival patterns and begin to step into the freedom you deserve 🤍

🌿 As a counsellor, I know that ​r​eceiving reviews can feel tricky. It's not the same as most businesses.  After all, co...
17/09/2025

🌿 As a counsellor, I know that ​r​eceiving reviews can feel tricky. It's not the same as most businesses. After all, counselling is personal, private and often emotional. So when a client shares their experience, it’s truly special 💛

Whether a review, referral or sharing a post - these are all like providing a business card for others who might be searching for support with a trusted counsellor and so I just want to take this opportunity to thank each of you who take the time to do just that 🙏

This week I received an email from a lovely couple​ who have been seeing me due to high conflict....

My heart is full 🥰

15/09/2025

💡 Feeling stuck? The secret isn’t waiting for motivation to appear!

👉 Watch the video to find out some simple tips you can try today.

💭 Start small. Stay consistent. Notice the shift.

🌿 Hi, I'm Debra, I help women and their partners find their way back to connection - with each other, with themselves and with life.

🧠If this resonates with you, follow me for more insights or share with someone you know who might need this.

09/09/2025

💭 How much space is too much or not enough in a relationship?

The secret lies in finding that right balance 💕

✨ In this video, I share how personal needs play a role, what balance really looks like, and how couples can discover the “sweet spot.”

If this resonates with you, follow for more relationship tips or share this video with someone who might need to hear it.

05/09/2025

Studies using brain scans show that children exposed to intense parent or family conflict can develop brain patterns similar to those found in combat veterans.

The hopeful news? 💙 Brains are resilient - healing and change are always possible. Listen to my short video to learn more.

🔗 Read the UCL study here: https://www.ucl.ac.uk/news/2011/dec/maltreated-children-show-same-pattern-brain-activity-combat-soldiers

✨ If this resonates with you, follow for more tips or share this video with someone who might appreciate it.

02/09/2025

Sometimes the ‘small’ arguments in a relationship aren’t really about the dishes or the groceries. They’re signs of deeper needs. In this video, I share how to look beyond the surface to understand what’s really happening underneath, and how that shift can change the way you connect. If this resonates, follow along for more relationship insights or reach out if you’d like support 💕

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