Anchoring Your Life Counselling

09/02/2026

Ever feel like life is on autopilot and you’re just reacting to everything around you? 💛

In this short video, I share how being intentional - even in small ways - can shift your choices, your relationships and how you feel in your day-to-day life. ✨

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28/01/2026

When couples stop feeling like a team, everyday challenges can start to feel overwhelming.

This week’s blog explores why being a team matters in relationships, how that sense of partnership can quietly break down and what helps couples rebuild connection, communication and trust. 💛

If you’ve been feeling like you and your partner are on opposite sides lately, this one may really resonate.

👉 Read the full blog here:

One of the most common things I hear from couples is, “It feels like we’re on opposite sides.” When this happens, even small issues can turn into ongoing conflict, distance, or resentment. At the heart of many relationship struggles isn’t a lack of love - it’s a breakdown in teamwork.Being...

23/01/2026

Ever catch yourself thinking, “I’m not enough,” or comparing yourself to everyone else and feeling like you fall short? 🙋‍♀️ We've all been there. Many women quietly carry this feeling of inadequacy, and it can quietly affect your confidence, relationships, and how you show up for yourself each day.

The good news? Feeling inadequate doesn’t define you and there are small, practical steps you can take to shift how you see yourself.

Start by noticing when these thoughts arise without judging yourself. Then, remind yourself of your strengths and what you’ve already achieved. Even tiny wins like saying yes to something you’ve been avoiding or speaking up for yourself help build self-worth over time. Over weeks and months, these small actions compound into building confidence.

Imagine feeling lighter in your own skin, showing up authentically in your relationships and trusting yourself to make choices that feel right for you. That’s the outcome we’re aiming for - less self-doubt, more clarity and a stronger sense of self. 💛

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19/01/2026

Old pain shows up in new arguments for a reason - and it doesn’t have to control your relationship.

In this short video, I talk about why old wounds get triggered and what couples can do to move forward together.💛

16/01/2026

“Why are we arguing about this again?”
If old hurts keep resurfacing in present-day arguments, it’s rarely about the moment you’re in - it’s about something that never fully healed.

I’ve just shared a new blog on why the past shows up in current conflicts, what it’s really trying to tell us, and how couples can break these cycles with care and understanding.

If this feels familiar for you or your relationship, this blog may offer some clarity. 💛

Have you ever found yourself in an argument with your partner thinking, “Why are we talking about this again?” or “That happened years ago - why is it coming up now?”This is one of the most common questions I hear in couples counselling in Brisbane and the Redlands, and it can feel confusing...

14/01/2026

Have you ever felt so angry, anxious, or overwhelmed that you can’t see straight?

In those moments, it’s easy to say things we don’t mean, feel completely stuck, or make decisions we later regret. When our emotions take over, our world can shrink down to this one moment, this one feeling and everything feels urgent and intense.

One simple but powerful tool I often talk about with clients is psychological distancing.

It’s the ability to pause, take a step back, and look at a situation from a wider lens instead of reacting straight from the heat of the moment. It doesn’t mean dismissing your feelings. It means creating just enough space to ask, “What’s really happening here?”; "What button has just been pushed of mine and why" or “How might this look a week, a month, or a year from now?”

When we zoom out, emotions often loosen their grip. Perspective returns. Choices feel clearer.

Think of it like switching from a zoom lens to a wide-angle one - suddenly you can see the bigger picture, not just the sharp edge of what hurts right now.

And that space? That’s where calmer, more grounded responses live.

09/01/2026

Financial infidelity doesn’t always look dramatic, but its impact can be deeply painful.

It happens when one partner hides spending, debts, accounts, or financial decisions and the secrecy, not just the money, is what hurts most. Many people describe the emotional toll as similar to physical or sexual infidelity because it breaks the same core foundations: trust, safety, and partnership.

Money is tied to security, future plans, and shared values. When financial truth is hidden, it can leave the other person feeling blindsided, anxious, and questioning what else they don’t know. The sense of betrayal isn’t about dollars - it’s about being excluded from decisions that affect both lives.

Like any betrayal, financial infidelity can create shame, defensiveness, and disconnection. Healing requires honesty, accountability, and space for the emotional impact to be acknowledged - not minimised.

If this resonates, know that you’re not overreacting. Trust can be repaired, but it starts with bringing the hidden into the open and working through it together.

05/01/2026

As the new year begins, I find myself feeling deeply grateful.

Grateful for the work that has brought me here. For the clients who showed up - not perfectly, but honestly. For the hard conversations, the meaningful moments, the goals reached, and the quiet shifts that changed everything.

This work holds the good, the heavy, and the messy and it’s exactly why I do what I do. Because growth isn’t neat. Healing isn’t rushed. And showing up for yourself takes courage.

As 2026 unfolds, I’m looking forward to meeting people exactly where they are. To walking alongside new and returning clients through whatever this year brings. To holding space for reflection, repair, hope, and forward movement.

A new year doesn’t ask us to be different - just willing.

Here’s to beginning again 💖

18/12/2025

Anchoring Your Life Counselling will be closed over the Christmas and New Year period.

If you’d like to book an appointment for January or beyond, online bookings remain open and can be made at any time on my website:
👉 https://www.anchoringyourlife.com

However you spend this time, I hope it’s filled with kindness, love, and moments that feel meaningful to you 💖

16/12/2025

💬 Why “just moving on” after an argument isn’t so simple for women

Even when an argument is technically over, a woman’s nervous system may still be on high alert. The loss of emotional safety or lingering uncertainty in the relationship keeps the body in a heightened state. This isn’t stubbornness or a choice - it’s a biological response.

While many men may be able to move on quickly, women often need emotional reassurance to truly let go. What helps?

✔ Acknowledgement of feelings
✔ A soft, calm tone
✔ Repairing the connection
✔ Following up on the conversation
✔ Consistent behaviour after the conflict

For many women, moving on isn’t about logic - it’s about connection. Once the emotional safety is restored, the nervous system can finally relax, and real resolution happens.

💡 Conflict isn’t just about words, it’s about how the body and connection feel. Repairing, validating, and following through are what truly help women move forward.

Please note that while this reflects a common pattern observed in my experience, emotional safety is not gender-exclusive, and there are also situations where men need reassurance and repair after conflict.

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15/12/2025

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This is such a devastating time for so many.

Please reach out to those who might need your support and wrap your arms around one another.

If you need to share information with children, this might be helpful to you.

My heart is with everyone affected ❤️

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