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27/12/2025

ENDING THE BATTLE BETWEEN THE SEXES
~ Frances Amaroux
.....So as all the old systems topple around us, what a perfect time to change the game forever… for both women and men to put down our swords and shields and look each other in the eye and Avatar-like say, ‘I see you!’ I see you for all your difference, and all our sameness, and all our magnificence and all our faults. My heart breaks when I feel your pain, and I’m sorry from the depths of my being. I commit to creating a sacred, succulent, conscious relationship with you — a relationship based on egalitarianism, authenticity, transparency and trust — a relationship where we come together, not as two halves that make a whole, but two emerging whole beings ready to create synergy together, ready to co-create a world to which we all want to belong.

Article written in 2011 for Insight Magazine Australia

03/12/2025

RELATIONSHIPS: WHERE WE RISE TOGETHER...
TWO WINGS: ONE FLIGHT
By Frances Amaroux

For centuries, the relational architecture between men and women has been shaped not by mutuality, but by distortion. At its core, this distortion isn’t personal—it’s systemic. A patterned imprint that recycles itself through institutions, media, and even our most intimate connections. What we often experience as relational conflict is, more deeply, a symptom of systemic incoherence—a system that taught men to suppress and dominate, and women to adapt and endure.

This chapter is not an indictment. It is a compassionate excavation.

We begin by naming the invisible architecture: what I call the “Dominator System.” This is not a person or a gender. It is a field—an inherited operating system that disempowers everyone in different ways. While it has long been acknowledged that this system suppresses women, what is less understood is how profoundly it also undermines men.
From early boyhood, many men are taught that their worth is proven through control: control over their emotions, over outcomes, over others. Vulnerability is cast as weakness; presence is mistaken for passivity. Sexual energy becomes distorted—no longer a sacred current of connection, but a fragmented drive for conquest, validation, or escape. These distortions do not make men bad. They make them imprisoned. And many don’t even realize they’re behind bars.

In parallel, many women, rising into long-awaited empowerment, have been forced to navigate the same system—often using visibility, s*xuality, or emotional labor as their currency of value.

The result? A dynamic where both sides feel unsafe, unseen, and misunderstood. The very structure meant to hold relationships becomes a battlefield, not a sanctuary.

Yet there is hope—and it begins with the principle of Win-Win.
Win-Win is not a compromise. It is not “meeting in the middle.” It is a complete re-patterning of how we relate—a new architecture rooted in sovereignty, transparency, and mutual upliftment.

In this new system:
· Power is not held over another, but shared with.
· Attention is not scattered, but directed.
· Intimacy is not transactional, but devotional.
· Masculine energy becomes a steady container, not a suppressive force.
· Feminine energy becomes radiant intelligence, not reactive strategy.

To arrive here, both wings must strengthen. We cannot fly into peace, connection, or co-creation with one wing armored and the other overextended. Systems transformation begins within: in the way we attend, respond, and choose.

This is a call to all of us—not to blame, but to rewire. To step out of the invisible prison and into a field of conscious co-creation. It will require courage, grief, and humility. But the outcome is not just better relationships. It is a whole new blueprint for human connection.

Win-Win is not a fantasy. It is a system upgrade whose time has come. From Power Over to Power With.

SUBSTACK: https://francesamaroux.substack.com/p/two-wings-one-flight
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Relationships Where We Rise Together

22/10/2025

One of the most profoundly difficult things we are asked to do in healthy relationships/friendships, is 'Sit in the Fire' when your friend/partner is feeling angry. As long as they do not insult or...

22/10/2025

SIT IN THE FIRE 🔥
One of the hardest things in love or friendship is to stay present when someone’s angry, or you feel triggered.
As long as there’s no abuse or harm—
breathe, ground, and stay.
Don’t fix. Don’t flee. Don’t give advice unless asked.
STAY!
Their anger is often a valid response to pain you don’t yet understand.
So listen. Feel. Empathise.
Anger can be a gateway to deeper trust when met with presence…
or a wall, when met with fear.
Sit in the heat, not in the harm.
That’s where real intimacy grows.

One of the most profoundly difficult things we are asked to do in healthy relationships/friendships, is 'Sit in the Fire' when your friend/partner is feeling angry. As long as they do not insult or...

17/10/2025

Ever heard the phrase, “talking until you're blue in the face?” When people don't want to listen to you, they won't. Ignoring you might be their superpower.🫠

Learn when to accept that someone is intentionally disregarding what you're saying.

17/10/2025

Here’s a truth that might change everything: boundaries are not punishment. They’re clarity. And clarity is what allows love to actually work. Without it, relationships become a guessing game—full of resentment, frustration, and hurt.

Think about it: when someone consistently crosses a line you never define, they don’t know where you stand. They don’t know what you’ll allow, and they don’t know what you won’t. And if they don’t know, they can’t respect it. The burden falls back on you—and that’s when you end up drained, angry, or silent.

But the moment you attach a consequence to a boundary—“If this happens, here’s what I will do”—everything shifts. It’s no longer about controlling someone else. It’s about controlling yourself.

That kind of clarity doesn’t push people away—it creates the possibility for real respect, responsibility, and connection. If you’re tired of feeling taken advantage of or silenced, start here. Boundaries backed by consequences are the bridge to freedom.

Want practical steps? Comment HELP to learn how to enforce boundaries with confidence!

17/10/2025

SITTING IN THE FIRE
Most people run from anger — theirs or someone else’s. But real friendship, real love, asks something harder: to sit in the fire when another person’s hurting.

You don’t have to fix it. You don’t have to agree. Just breathe, stay grounded, and listen without judgement.
Their anger often hides pain you don’t yet understand.
If you can stay present — without defending or fleeing — that fire can become the forge where trust and intimacy deepen.

Sit in the heat, not in the harm. ❤️‍🔥

— Frances Amaroux -Relationship Architect | Social Alchemist | Win–Win Visionary

One of the most profoundly difficult things we are asked to do in healthy relationships/friendships, is 'Sit in the Fire' when your friend/partner is feeling angry. As long as they do not insult or...

09/10/2025

GENEROUS LISTENING
The people we cherish most are rarely the loudest or flashiest.
They’re the ones who made us feel seen. Heard. Held.
Generous listening isn’t a soft skill. It’s a superpower.
I just shared some reflections on how to listen in a way that builds trust, connection, and resonance.

A Powerful Key to Being Liked and Appreciated

30/09/2025

Stop Tracking Your Partner’s Phone, FFS People want to be seen, not watched.

People want to be seen, not watched.

30/09/2025

The differences between stressful worrying,
effective worrying and risk management

1. Worrying Without Aiming for a Solution
This kind of worrying is like spinning your wheels in mud. You keep thinking about what could go wrong, but you're not actually doing anything about it. It drains your energy, makes you feel anxious, and often gets worse the more you think about it. You’re stuck in a loop of fear, not action.
Think: “What if this happens? Oh no. And then what if that happens?”—but there’s no plan, just spiraling.

2. Worrying in Order to Create a Plan
This is more productive. You’re still concerned, but you're thinking ahead to try to fix or prepare for the problem. You're asking: “What can I do about this?” instead of just “What if?”
It might feel like worry at first, but it becomes useful once it leads to a decision or action. It turns emotion into focus.
Example: “I’m nervous about my presentation next week. What can I do to feel ready? Let me outline my key points and practice.”

3. Risk Management
This isn’t really worry at all—it’s clear-headed preparation. You're looking at what could go wrong, not to dwell on it, but to make sure things go right. It’s logical, calm, and grounded.
Think: “What are the possible issues here? How can I prepare so those don’t become problems?”
It’s the difference between panicking about rain and checking the forecast so you pack an umbrella.

In Short:
The key is what the worry leads to:
* • If it paralyzes you, it’s unhelpful.
* • If it motivates planning or action, it’s a signal guiding you toward something to take care of.
* • And if you’re already in “risk management” mode, you’re likely two steps ahead—seeing the full picture and acting from steadiness, not fear.

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12/07/2025

As a 34 years experienced Relationship Counsellor who has worked with 1000s of couples, it is abundantly clear that the vast majority of relationship problems are caused by men's ignorance of themselves and how relationships work.

It's about 80/20 men/women

Most relationship counsellors and educators will attest to this.

Another way to know, is to note the statistics on WHO reads the personal development and relationship books... predominately females. Therefore more knowledgeable of self and others. Not perfect, just better.

And when you come across a woman who is an abuser, its usually because she is young and been brainwashed by woke ideology... and/or she has been damaged and traumatised by.... men.

So, it’s time for men to take responsibility for their part in the downfall of relationships.
And that means unravelling and undoing millennia of conditioning from the Patriarchal era…
to learn to move through the shame and imposed ignorance …to become the truly magnificent beings they are... potentially.

Until they do, things are not looking rosy on the relationship front.

Call now to connect with business.

30/06/2025

How’s this for an outrageous dating idea!
Meet someone, don’t have s*x with them.
Get to know them, still don’t have s*x with them.
Realise you are not compatible?
Break up happily and easily because you haven't chemically and emotionally bonded thru s*x.
OR... keep getting to know them because they seem to have real merit.
Then maybe have s*x with them.
Keep getting to know them.
Find out their values and interests and wants and needs, and emotional intelligence.
Then commit.
Commit as if your life depends on it, because it does.
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