Every Moment Matters - Dementia Care, Training and Consultation

01/04/2026

This is my beautiful, funny and talented grandson Benji.
Please help if you can. Thank-you.

12/03/2026

***Canceled***
My apologies, I am in Vancouver with my 5 year old grandson Benji, going through final testing for Neuroblastoma.
We have a gofundme page if you can help (any amount, small or large, share the gofundme and/or prayers). From the bottom of this Nana's heart for my Benji Boop, thank-you!

https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-ben-bernard-and-his-family/cl/s?utm_campaign=fp_sharesheet&utm_content=amp20_t1&utm_medium=customer&utm_source=copy_link&lang=en_CA&attribution_id=sl%3Aa8f8b8d4-c541-4ac5-9a27-aa9d0a16b853&ts=1775050854
March 31st, St. Peter's Church, Comox.
10am-12pm
$35 for this 2 hour program.
(250) 207-3733
heather@everymomentmatters.
Hope to see you there!

09/03/2026

Statistics from alzheimers.ca

24/02/2026

19/02/2026

Great class on Tuesday at St. Peter's Church in Comox.
Thank-you to those who attended and I hope you'll keep in touch! More classes to come!
This question is a common one, about 'Shadowing'.

18/02/2026

What a wonderful class on Dementia today!! Thanks to everyone who showed up!

12/02/2026

Normal vs Not Normal Aging (Typical vs A-typical Workshop.
February 17th, 10am 'til 12pm, St. Peter's Church Comox.
Register at heather@everymomentmatters.ca or call
(250) 207-3733

February 19th, St. John the Divine Workshop CANCELED.

07/02/2026

People living with Dementia can no longer come to where we are. We need to meet them where they are.
They are not 'giving us' a hard time, they are 'having' a hard time.
Heather, Dementia Navigator
250-207-3733
heather@everymomentmatters.ca
Classes February 17th and 19th, 10 am. Message for details and registration.

03/02/2026

To register, email heather@everymomentmatters.ca.
Feb. 17th, St. Peter's Church, Comox 10am - 12pm
Feb. 19th, St. John the Divine, Courtenay, 10am - 12 pm.
$35.

24/01/2026

I have exciting news!
How do I know if it's just aging or if it's something to be concerned about?
Caring for someone living with Dementia can be very challenging.
Join me for "Typical vs. A-Typical Aging" in person classes to experience and learn what is typical as we age and what may be something to investigate further.
We will share, engage in video clips and practice skills so come prepared with an open mind and heart.
February 17th, St. Peter's Anglican Church, Comox, 10am - noon.
February 19th, St. John the Divine Courtenay, 10am - noon.
$35, e-transfer, cash or PayPal. Seats are limited so reserve yours today!
Email heather@everymomentmatters.ca for more information.
Hope to see you there!

15/01/2026

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For Lewy body dementia, night waking is usually driven by REM sleep disruption, hallucinations, vivid dreams, and fluctuating alertness.

Here’s how you manage night waking specifically in Lewy body dementia.

First: believe what they’re experiencing
If they wake frightened or talking about people, animals, or threats, do not correct them.
Don’t say: “There’s nothing there.”
Say: “That sounds upsetting. You’re safe. I’m here.”

In Lewy body dementia, hallucinations feel real so arguing increases fear and agitation.

Second: keep lighting soft but clear
Darkness makes hallucinations worse, but bright lights overstimulate. Use lamps or night lights and avoid sudden overhead lights

Third: slow everything down
People with Lewy body dementia process information slowly and fluctuate.
Slow speech
One sentence at a time
Long pauses
Rushing can tip them into panic.

Fourth: offer grounding, not activity
This is not the time for folding towels or “keeping busy”.
Sit beside them
Hold a warm drink
Gentle reassurance
Too much activity can worsen confusion and hallucinations in Lewy body dementia.

Fifth: don’t force bed immediately
Trying to push sleep often backfires.
Sit first
Calm the body
Let sleep come after regulation
In Lewy body dementia, calming the nervous system matters more than bedtime rules.

Sixth: watch medications carefully
Some sleep meds/antipsychotics
can seriously worsen Lewy body dementia symptoms.
Any increase in night distress after medication changes is a red flag and needs urgent review.

Seventh: consistency is your secret weapon
Same staff approach.
Same words.
Same tone.
Same routine.

15/12/2025

This is a question I’m asked often—and even more so during the holidays:
“My dad keeps asking where my mom is. She passed away years ago. What do I say to him?”
As care partners, we want to protect the people we love. We don’t want to retraumatize them by repeatedly delivering painful news, and we also don’t want to feel like we’re lying. So what can we do?
One gentle approach is to respond with curiosity and compassion rather than correction.
You might say something like,
“You’re wondering where Mom is. Are you missing her right now?”
Listen closely, and reflect back what you hear.
“Ah, you’re missing Mom. What are you missing most about her today?”
This opens the door for connection. It gives your dad the opportunity to talk about her—to share memories, feelings, and love. You can even join in and share what you miss about her too.
Sometimes, through the conversation, he may come to realize she’s no longer here. And sometimes he may not. Either way, you’ve offered him something deeply important: the chance to feel seen, heard, and comforted.
By speaking about her—her kindness, her laughter, her beautiful qualities—you may help lighten his emotional load, even if just a little. After all… how could anyone not miss her?

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