Kyssanda Robinson Holistic Counselling Services

19/12/2025

Christmas has a way of dragging old wounds to the surface.

Not because you’re “not healed enough” —
but because your nervous system remembers
who you had to become to survive.

I grew up with a narcissistic mother.
Love came with control.
Affection came with conditions.
Silence came with punishment.

So of course I walked straight into relationships that felt the same.
Because we don’t seek what’s healthy —
we seek what’s familiar.

Until one Christmas season changed everything.

I found myself sitting in my GP’s office —
toddler on the floor, heart pounding —
finally whispering the words I’d been carrying alone:

“I think I’m in a domestic violent relationship.”

My doctor didn’t hesitate.
“You are.”

That moment didn’t just wake me up.
It split my life in two.

What followed wasn’t pretty.

⚡️ Being cast out of a community I raised my children in
⚡️ Being shunned for speaking the truth
⚡️ Police escorts
⚡️ Two years in court
⚡️ Learning how to survive before I could heal

And eventually —
⚡️ Rebuilding my life from the ground up
⚡️ Building two businesses (one global)
⚡️ Reclaiming my voice
⚡️ Becoming unapologetic for the woman I fought to become

But here’s why I’m telling you this now —
not as a success story…
but as a lifeline.

If Christmas feels heavy this year,
if your body is already bracing,
if you’re wondering how you’ll hold it all together —

You’re not broken.
You’re responding exactly how someone with your history would.

This isn’t about “getting through Christmas perfectly.”

It’s about staying anchored to yourself while everything around you pulls at old versions of you.

Today:
⚜️ I’m in a safe, secure, emotionally available relationship
⚜️ I protect my nervous system fiercely
⚜️ I run a global trauma + relationship recovery practice
⚜️ And I’m the woman I once needed when I was silently drowning

I say the things that once got me stonewalled —
because now they call in the women who are ready.

If you’re heading into another Christmas inside this story —
I see you.

You’re not crazy.
You’re not overreacting.
You’re waking up.

And if you don’t want to do this one alone?

I’m here.
White-knuckling Christmas is not healing. 🖤

18/12/2025

🎄 Holiday Closure Notice 🎄

As we move into the Christmas and New Year period, I want to let you know that the service will be taking a short pause to rest and reset.

📅 Last day open: 22 December
📅 Reopening: 5 January

I wish each of you a safe, gentle, and restorative festive season. Thank you for trusting me with your journey this year — I look forward to supporting you again in the new year 🤍✨

15/12/2025

She used to be a daydream.
A version of you you admired… but didn’t quite trust yourself to become.

Not because you weren’t capable —
but because choosing her meant disappointing the old rules, the old roles, the old you.

So you waited.
You coped.
You told yourself “after Christmas.”

But she didn’t disappear.
She got clearer.

Calmer.
Stronger.
Less willing to repeat what you already survived.

One way or another —
you meet her.
By choice… or by exhaustion.

⚡️Two ways to choose her now:
• 6 weeks — break the cycle and stabilise your nervous system
• 6 months — deep identity, trauma + relationship rewiring

This is the moment you stop circling one way or another.
⚜️Decide and 📲DM now.

15/12/2025

Let’s stop blaming the season.🎄

It’s not the crowds.
It’s not the family dinners.
It’s not the expectations.

It’s what happens inside your body when:
• you’re around people you learned to stay small for
• love still feels conditional
• silence still feels unsafe
• you’re expected to perform connection instead of feel it

So you regress.
Not because you’re broken —
but because your nervous system recognises the terrain.

You don’t “rise above” this with boundaries you don’t enforce.
You don’t heal it by explaining yourself better.

You heal it by stopping the roles:
– the peacemaker
– the emotional manager
– the one who doesn’t rock the boat

If being yourself feels dangerous around people who say they love you —
that’s not tradition.
That’s trauma.

If you want this to be the last Christmas your body dreads — book in.
We don’t manage triggers here. We dismantle them.

⚜️ Book here ⬇️
https://www.halaxy.com/book/kyssanda-robinson-coach-and-counselling-services/location/564611

15/12/2025

Don’t let the fear of what could happen stop you from making anything happen.

15/12/2025

You might be functioning.
Working. Parenting. Showing up.
Smiling in photos and keeping everything moving.

But underneath that, many people are quietly bracing themselves.

Bracing for:
🌪️ family dynamics that still activate old wounds
🌪️ emotional expectations you’re meant to meet
🌪️ conversations you don’t want to have (or avoid entirely)
🌪️ the pressure to be grateful, joyful, and “together”

When the year has already taken a lot from you, December doesn’t add rest — it adds load.

From a nervous-system perspective, this time of year is intense:
✨ routines change
✨ boundaries get tested
✨ sensory input increases
✨ emotional labour multiplies

Even resilient, self-aware, high-functioning adults can feel dysregulated, exhausted, or emotionally flat.
This isn’t weakness.
It’s your nervous system responding to sustained demand.

⚜️One gentle tip:
Choose one non-negotiable each day that supports regulation — a walk, a quiet coffee, breathwork, an earlier night.
Consistency matters more than intensity right now.

If you feel like you’re holding it together on the outside but running on empty internally, support can make this season steadier.

I currently have limited 1:1 counselling spots available before Christmas, and January sessions are open from 5th Jan for those who want support lined up without pressure over the holidays.

You don’t have to do December alone. 🖤

Steady is enough. Supported is better.

Book here ➡️ https://www.halaxy.com/book/kyssanda-robinson-coach-and-counselling-services/location/564611

13/12/2025

Not because you’re failing.
Not because you’ve “regressed.”
But because your nervous system is carrying more than it was ever designed to hold.

This time of year:
• Your calendar fills, but your capacity doesn’t
• Old wounds surface through family, relationships, expectations
• High-functioning people keep showing up — and crash quietly behind closed doors

You might notice:
– more irritability
– emotional numbness or overwhelm
– sleep disruption
– the urge to withdraw or over-function even harder

None of this means you’re broken.
It means your system is overloaded.

Support doesn’t mean falling apart.
It means not carrying it alone.

I have limited 1:1 counselling spots left available before Christmas, and January sessions are open from 5th Jan for those who want support lined up without pressure.🤍

Book here ➡️ https://www.halaxy.com/book/kyssanda-robinson-coach-and-counselling-services/location/564611

You don’t have to white-knuckle your way through December.

11/12/2025

Be who you are, not what you think others want you to be.

09/12/2025

The last Carers group for the year will be on tomorrow.
Be sure to go along to the walk, or come to the self care hub in the afternoon at High St.
Call Carolyn to register your interest.

08/12/2025

Maybe you didn’t miss the red flags because they were ‘hidden’.

08/12/2025

It’s not what you are that holds you back. It’s what you think you are not.

03/12/2025