Kyssanda Robinson Holistic Counselling Services

30/07/2025

Stop scrolling.Pause.
Look up.
What’s one thing you’re grateful for right now?
Name it. Feel it. Let it land.

29/07/2025

You don’t need another self-help book.
You need safety.
You need self-trust.
You need someone who sees through the sabotage — even when you still call it “coping.”

That person is me.

Not because I read it in a textbook.
But because I’ve lived it.
Over and over.

I’ve been the strong one.
The high-functioning mess.
The woman who could carry the weight of everyone else’s world — while quietly falling apart in her own.

I’ve done the self-help book binge.
The journaling.
The mindset work.
The spiritual bypassing.
The “just be positive” circus.

I’ve gaslit myself better than any therapist ever could.
Told myself it wasn’t trauma — just a rough patch.
That I was too sensitive. Too dramatic. Not trying hard enough.

But trauma doesn’t heal through performance.
Or perfection.
Or pretending you’re over it just because you left.

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The truth?
The healing began when I stopped performing strength and started building safety.
When I stopped consuming more tools and started trusting my own knowing.
When I found people — and became someone — who could hold my truth without flinching.

This work?
It’s not surface-level.
It’s soul-deep.

It’s the quiet revolution where your nervous system starts to believe:
I don’t have to chase, fix, over-give, or disappear to be loved.

I’m not here to watch you spiral in your sabotage.
I’m here to walk beside you while you burn it down —
and build the version of you that no longer needs to recover from herself.

I don’t just know the way.
I am the way — because I’ve walked it, crawled it, cursed it, come back from it.

More than once.

🌀 This is your comeback too.

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✨ DM me “READY” or explore 1:1 sessions, one-month intensive, or Revolutionise You — my signature 6-month container for rebuilding from the soul out.

29/07/2025

29/07/2025

You’re fkn kidding me.
You escaped. You left. You survived.

But the DV didn’t stop.
It just got cleverer.
Colder.
More socially acceptable.

It’s not fists anymore.
It’s financial sabotage.
It’s weaponising the legal system.
It’s smear campaigns dressed up as “concerned co-parenting.”
It’s your name being dragged while they play calm and calculated.
It’s you rebuilding in silence while they scream with a smile.

And everyone around you says, “But at least you’re out now.”

But they don’t see:
🧠 The hypervigilance
💸 The fear of opening your emails
📞 The dread every time the phone rings
🧍‍♀️The isolation
🩻 The shame that you still feel like it’s your fault

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Here’s the truth:
Leaving wasn’t the end.
It was the beginning — of the comeback maze.

Where you’re juggling money, court, broken systems, and identity confusion
While trying to breathe in a nervous system that doesn’t believe safety exists yet.

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But then… the healing starts to whisper.
🧠 When you realise this isn’t who you are — it’s how you survived.
💥 When the popcorn moments drop like emotional landmines —
“I didn’t imagine that.”
“That was abuse.”
“I’m not dramatic — I was dismissed.”
“I was never crazy — just controlled.”

⚡ And your nervous system begins to believe…
Maybe I can feel safe again.
Maybe I can belong to myself.
Maybe I don’t have to explain my truth to be valid.

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That’s the revolution of you.
Where you stop shrinking.
Where you stop shape-shifting.
Where you stop proving.

And they?
They wilt.
Because all you’ve ever had — and still have —
is everything they never did and never will.

💥 Depth.
💥 Integrity.
💥 A fkn soul.
💥 And a nervous system that’s coming home.

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You’re not just rising.
You’re reclaiming.

This is the new era of you.

This is what we do in my world, we create Your Revolution. There is no turning back, once you step inside - you will be obsessed🖤

📲DM to begin The Revolution of You.

29/07/2025

Just because you don’t remember it clearly… doesn’t mean your body forgot.

Childhood trauma doesn’t disappear with age — it shapeshifts into your patterns, your people-pleasing, your panic in safe spaces.

But here’s the truth:
What was once survival… can become your awakening.

Healing isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about finally meeting the version of you that never got to feel safe enough to be.

✨ Your healing doesn’t start with who hurt you.
It starts with who you choose to become next.

🌀 Ready to rewrite it?
DM me to explore my 1:1 sessions, one-month intensive or 6-month Revolutionise You container. Or check out the link in the bio. 🖤

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29/07/2025

“High-functioning isn’t healing — it’s hiding.”

There’s a dangerous myth out there — and it’s costing people their lives quietly:

“If you’re still working, parenting, socialising… you must be okay.”
“If you’re high-achieving, you can’t be traumatised.”
“If you’re performing well, it’s not that bad.”

Let’s make this uncomfortable but honest:

⚠️ Some of the most traumatised people you’ll ever meet are the most put-together ones.

They show up on time.
They hit deadlines.
They organise the group gift and say “I’m fine” when their voice cracks.
They’re praised for coping — while quietly disassociating in plain sight.

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💡 Because here’s the truth they never tell you:

You can be productive… and completely disconnected from yourself.
You can smile… while your body’s in shutdown.
You can succeed… in the exact system that taught you to abandon your needs.

That’s not wellness. That’s survival on autopilot.

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In my work as a trauma counsellor and coach, I see it daily:

People who were never not functioning — they were just never allowed to fall apart.

So they buried it.
Excelled through it.
Spiritual bypassed it.
Called it ambition. Or independence. Or resilience.

But inside?
✨ Exhausted.
✨ Numb.
✨ Afraid that if they stop, everything will unravel.

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Healing doesn’t always look like a breakdown.
Sometimes, it looks like finally choosing not to perform anymore.

Sometimes, it’s the quietest rebellion:

Resting.
Asking for help.
Feeling your own body.
Saying no — without an essay of justification.

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If this post made something ache inside, it’s because it’s naming what you’ve lived.

🌀 Healing starts here.
I offer:
✔️ 1:1 Counselling Sessions
✔️ One-Month Trauma Recovery Intensives
✔️ 6-Month Revolutionise You Coaching Package

You’re allowed to function less and feel more.
You’re allowed to come undone in safe hands.
You’re allowed to heal without earning it first.

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29/07/2025

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28/07/2025

💥 The version of you you’ve been craving?
The one who feels calm in her bones.
Who laughs without scanning the room.
Who doesn’t flinch at kindness or apologise for her needs.

She’s not found in another self-help book.
She’s not waiting on “the right time.”
She’s not showing up once you’ve fixed everything and everyone else.

She’s on the other side of that decision.
The one you keep pushing down with busy.
The one that feels selfish, scary, or too disruptive.
The one you tell yourself you’ll make after one more sign, one more conversation, one more nudge.

But here’s the truth:

✨ Peace costs you your patterns.
✨ Healing costs you your hiding.
✨ Growth costs you the life that made you sick but looked good on paper.

The version of you you’re craving?
She’s not a fantasy.
She’s a reclamation.

And she’s waiting for you to finally say:

I’m done surviving. I’m ready to live.

This is the work I walk you through —
1:1 Single Sessions
1-Month Intensives
Or 6 months of Revolutionise You — the full fkn return.🔥

📥 DM REVOLUTION or hit the link in bio to stop circling the same decision.

28/07/2025

You’re not too hard to love.
You were just loving people who needed you to bleed for it first.

That’s not love — that’s survival.
And you don’t have to keep proving your worth to be chosen.

📥 DM REVOLUTION or hit the link in bio to begin your return to self.

28/07/2025

The little things make a big difference.

You don’t need grand gestures to show love. Small, everyday moments like holding hands, offering a kind word, or simply being present can mean more than you think.

Big moments still matter. But "small things often" is your reminder to show love in everyday ways.

💌 So here’s your nudge. What small thing can you do for your partner today?

The Gottman Institute

28/07/2025

A history of chaos isn’t a life sentence.

But I get why you think it is.

You’ve spent years — maybe decades — with your nervous system wired for war.
You don’t know how to rest without guilt.
You don’t know how to be loved without proving.
You don’t know how to be still without feeling like you’re doing something wrong.

You say you want peace…
But when it knocks? You flinch.

Because chaos is what raised you.
It was in the air you breathed.
The silence before the yelling.
The walking on eggshells.
The “good days” you clung to that only ever came after punishment.

So now?
You mistake stillness for boredom.
Kindness for manipulation.
Consistency for a trap.

Because trauma taught your body that chaos = connection.
That unpredictability = passion.
That peace = danger.

So even now, when things are better —
you self-sabotage.
You pick fights.
You run.
You freeze.
You create drama just to feel alive again.

And then you wonder why you can’t “just be happy.”

But here’s the thing no one tells you:

Peace isn’t a reward for surviving.
It’s a practice for the body.
A re-learning.
A re-patterning.
A nervous system revolution.

You don’t just think your way there.
You heal your way there.

You learn to stop mistaking emotional whiplash for intimacy.
You start noticing what safety actually feels like — and not running from it.
You build a life where your body doesn’t have to constantly scan the room for danger.

And yes, it feels uncomfortable at first.
Because chaos was your normal.
But peace is your birthright.

You’re not broken.
You’re not too damaged.
You’re just wired for survival — and now you’re ready for something more.

Not perfect. Not passive.
Just… peaceful.

And I can help you get there.

This is what I do.
Every damn day.
For people just like you — who are tired of being at war with their own life.

You don’t need to earn peace.
You just need to stop mistaking the absence of chaos as a red flag.

Let’s rewire that together.

28/07/2025