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So much of our identity is shaped by seeking approval — from parents, teachers, partners, colleagues.It’s human to want ...
28/10/2025

So much of our identity is shaped by seeking approval — from parents, teachers, partners, colleagues.
It’s human to want to belong. But when approval becomes oxygen, disapproval becomes suffocation.

As parents, this pattern often repeats.
We worry about what others think of our choices, our children’s behaviour, or how “put together” our family looks.
But growth — both ours and our children’s — requires tolerance for being misunderstood.

Parenting from approval means parenting from fear.
Parenting from alignment means parenting from values.

When we stop chasing approval, we make space for authenticity, repair, and real connection — not performance.
That’s how both parent and child grow: by standing steady in who they are, not in who others need them to be. 💛

This is attachment.This is a survival need.As children, we all needed that one person — the one whose love felt unshakab...
28/10/2025

This is attachment.
This is a survival need.

As children, we all needed that one person — the one whose love felt unshakable.
The person we believed would protect us from anything, who made the world feel safe just by being in it.

That belief isn’t about physical protection alone.
It’s about psychological safety — knowing someone would fight for you, choose you, and not turn away when things got hard.

Some of us had that person.
Some of us didn’t — and we spend years trying to become the adult we once needed.

As parents, caregivers, and healers, our role isn’t to be perfect.
It’s to be that safe presence — the one our child truly believes would never let harm come to them, emotionally or physically.

Because that belief is the foundation of resilience.
From safety, children explore.
From safety, they grow.
From safety, they love. 💛

A little about me...☕ Thrives on early-morning coffee and late-night reflections💬 Believes real growth happens in messy ...
28/10/2025

A little about me...
☕ Thrives on early-morning coffee and late-night reflections

💬 Believes real growth happens in messy conversations

👩‍👧 Mum first, therapist second

🌻 Spends weekends outdoors

🧠 Fascinated by what helps humans regulate, connect & repair

✍️ Writing, teaching, and creating resources that feel human

🎓 Psychologist + Positive Behaviour Support Practitioner

💛 Believes calm is contagious — and connection heals

They don’t.They hate that they don’t yet have the power and autonomy that you do. They hate that they still depend on y...
28/10/2025

They don’t.
They hate that they don’t yet have the power and autonomy that you do. They hate that they still depend on you whilst wanting to break away from you. And sometimes, they hate that you’re a safe place to unload all the feelings they can’t express anywhere else.

During adolescence the teenage brain is essentially (temporarily) hard-wired for emotion and impulsivity. So, they will come back to you, but only if you don’t let their words and moods change how you treat them.

So, your love needs to be bigger than their anger.

Your anger looks like you becoming petty and argumentative, rolling your eyes at every exchange, every moment of connection becomes another chance to teach, correct, or control, or worse, if your responses to them are unpredictable - sometimes just right and sometimes over the top.

Your love looks like presence. It is patient, grounded and reflective of where your teen is at. It is sitting in silence with them if they don't want to talk, and driving them places without insisting on emotional conversations.

Your teen will come back to you, but only through your presence, not your pressure. 💛

For young children in daycare or early primary school, drop-off isn’t just a routine, it’s a handover of safety.When you...
28/10/2025

For young children in daycare or early primary school, drop-off isn’t just a routine, it’s a handover of safety.

When your child leaves your arms or the car, they’re moving from one attachment figure (you) to another (their teacher or educator). If that handover isn’t direct, it can feel like stepping into a huge, scary gap. And all without a “safe person.” For a small child still learning to regulate, that can feel enormous and cause anxiety.

The goal isn’t to rush the goodbye or be overly positive, but to make the transition between you and the educator close in proximity, strong, and predictable.

💡 How to make drop-offs easier:
• Hand over directly to the educator or teacher. Greet them together : eye contact, calm tone, confident body language. If this is not possible, drop off as close to the classroom door as possible. Long separations from a “safe adult” can heighten anxiety.
• Create a consistent handover plan with the educator and repeat it daily for a few weeks.
• Expect variation. Some children settle in days, others in weeks. Both are normal.
• Keep goodbyes calm and brief. Your confidence tells your child, “You’re safe here.”

Safety for young children transfers through relationships. When parents and educators work together, children adapt faster, regulate more easily, and feel confident to explore.

If this doesn't work consider alternative explanations. DM me for an appointment to support you with this.

The most important thing we can teach our children isn’t obedience, intelligence, or success. It’s emotional maturity.So...
28/10/2025

The most important thing we can teach our children isn’t obedience, intelligence, or success. It’s emotional maturity.

So what is emotional maturity?
It’s the ability to contain your emotions. To feel deeply without shutting down, exploding, or making your feelings someone else’s responsibility.

When boys don’t learn emotional maturity, they often grow into men who either shut down or explode.

When girls don’t learn emotional maturity, they often grow into women who can’t sit with their own insecurities: not pretty enough, not smart enough - just not enough.

Boys learn to externalise.
Girls learn to internalise.
Neither truly learns to contain.

And this happens long before adulthood, in homes where emotion wasn’t modelled safely or where love came with performance or pressure.

So, the greatest gift we can give our children is to model emotional maturity. Through how we handle conflict, how we repair, how we speak to our partner, and how we recover from our own triggers.

You will save them a lot of pain by showing them that emotions don’t have to destroy relationships but that they can deepen them.💛

Let’s be honest… everyone’s confused.This isn’t a gender war, it's the fallout of generations trying to heal.Both men an...
28/10/2025

Let’s be honest… everyone’s confused.

This isn’t a gender war, it's the fallout of generations trying to heal.

Both men and women are reacting to generations of conditioning, expectations, and hurt, and we’re all just trying to get it right while carrying the weight of what came before us.

Men are told:
- Work hard, but not too hard, you still need to be home for dinner and bath-time.
- Provide for the family, but don’t make her feel dependent.
- Lead, but only when it’s convenient.
- Be a co-decision maker, but she might have the ultimate say (she probably knows more).
- Be strong and stoic, but also vulnerable and emotionally fluent.
- Share your feelings, but not too many as no one likes a man who overshares (that’s pitiful, right?).
- Protect your partner, but don’t be controlling.
- And whatever you do… don’t forget the dishwasher (she’s not your maid!).
So men are clueless about what they should be doing to be “good.”

Women are told:
- Make sure your children are perfectly behaved and exceed their milestones (it’s a reflection of your parenting, you know!).
- Have a successful career and be there for your children 24/7.
- Keep the house spotless, the fridge full, and the vibe zen.
- Be independent, but not intimidating.
- Give your partner what he needs sexually.
- Don’t let a man tell you what to do or be subservient.
- If there’s a problem in the home, you can fix it (you don’t need no man!).
- Oh, and stay youthful forever (don’t let that toxic stress affect your skin, girl).
So women are under enormous pressure to do it all, and do it perfectly, to be a “good” woman.

No wonder everyone’s tired.

We’re all trying to live up to a rulebook that changes by the hour.
The result? Exhaustion, confusion, and relationships that feel more like performance art than partnership.

The solution isn’t to go back to the “good old days” or throw the script away entirely. It’s to write a new one built on authenticity, balance, and teamwork.

And when your kids are old enough, have the conversation. Tell them what changed, what confused you, and what you hope they’ll do differently.💛

In teen conflict, your calm is the real power.When conflict with your teen escalates — voices raised, doors slammed, ten...
28/10/2025

In teen conflict, your calm is the real power.

When conflict with your teen escalates — voices raised, doors slammed, tension thick in the air — it’s easy to show the version of yourself you later regret. Guilt and shame can creep in fast. But those moments don’t define you.

Your goal isn’t to win the argument or stay perfectly composed.
Your goal is to be the one who can calm down first.

Calm is what makes regulation possible. Regulation is what makes reconnection possible.

When you steady your own system, you model emotional safety and show your teen that it’s okay to come back from rupture.
When you pause, repair, and apologise, you model strength — not weakness.
You teach that love can hold conflict, and still return to safety.

Parenting isn’t about being perfect; it’s about leading the way back to calm. 💛

Understanding how the brain learns changes how we parent, teach, and support children.Before roughly age 10, a child’s e...
28/10/2025

Understanding how the brain learns changes how we parent, teach, and support children.

Before roughly age 10, a child’s emotional brain (limbic system) is in charge. The thinking brain (prefrontal cortex) which is responsible for empathy, reasoning, and self-control is still developing and won’t fully mature until the mid-20s.

That’s why parents and caregivers often need to act as their child’s external prefrontal cortex — guiding, modelling, and regulating until the child’s brain can do this on its own.

Learning occurs through repetition and relationship. Each time a behaviour or skill is modelled, practised, and reinforced, the neural pathways responsible for it grow stronger. This is the process behind the phrase “neurons that fire together, wire together.”

Children learn through three main pathways:
1️⃣ Observation (modelling and mirror neurons)
2️⃣ Experience (direct engagement and feedback)
3️⃣ Social influence (information from trusted others)

Because 95% of learning happens through modelling, what children see in us has far more impact than what they hear from us.

In my practice, I integrate neuroscience-based behaviour support with parent–child intervention, helping children learn safety, regulation, and prosocial behaviour through repetition and play, while guiding parents to model consistency and calm.

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🙌🏻 Relational practices like these - being family focused rather than just parent or child focused - set children up for success in every area of life.
Because our lives are built on relationships: with family, friendships, colleagues, and partners.
When children grow within a system that values respect, collaboration, communication, consideration over control or entitlement they learn empathy, cooperation and emotional safety - the skills that will carry them through every relationship they’ll ever have. 💛

Worried your child might have ADHD — or feeling unsure where to start? 🧠💛Sometimes behaviours like inattention, big emot...
10/04/2025

Worried your child might have ADHD — or feeling unsure where to start? 🧠💛

Sometimes behaviours like inattention, big emotions, or restlessness have other causes underneath (like poor sleep, low iron, or sensory needs). Before jumping into a diagnosis, it’s helpful to check the full picture first. 🌿

✨ For personalised support, head to consciousconnectionstherapy.au
OR send a DM — I’m here to help you find the right path, with calm, clarity, and compassion.
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