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03/03/2026

“Turn your pain into purpose” is often shared as encouragement.

And sometimes, it really is inspiring to witness what people create from their suffering. But pain doesn’t need to become productive in order to be valid.

Because not all grief is a lesson or a calling. Sometimes pain is simply an experience the body and heart are moving through. It’s enough to survive it, breathe while it moves, or let yourself be supported.

Purpose may come in time or it might not. And that’s ok. Neither outcome determines the meaning of your lived experience.

You don’t owe the world a transformation story. You’re allowed to rest inside your grief, exactly as it is.

If you’ve experienced this, you’re not alone. 🤍

Save this when you need a reminder and share your experience in the comments below.

Yesterday marked 26 years since my Popop died. My Mum's Dad.James Joseph Carr. He loved gardening, pudding, his family, ...
01/03/2026

Yesterday marked 26 years since my Popop died. My Mum's Dad.

James Joseph Carr. He loved gardening, pudding, his family, travelling, learning new things, and singing in a Festival Choir.

This is her altar to honour his memory, express her love, and keep their connection alive.

We both remember bright blue sky and big clouds on the morning he died.

I was in the first year of my nurse training, and had driven from London to Oxford to spend the weekend with him at the hospice. I slept next to him holding his hand, and on Monday morning, quietly slipped out of the room at 5am to drive back to London for lectures.

I paused at the foot of his bed, watching him sleep. Loving him intensely. I quietly thanked him for being my Popop. I remember that moment so clearly.

I planned to drive back down again that afternoon - we knew the end was close.

No sooner than my bottom had touched my chair in the lecture theatre, my phone rang. It was my Mum. He'd just died.

On the Tube through London, 2 changes, sitting behind a large newspaper, crying. Wondering how people could just be going about their lives so normally when my world had just been tipped upside-down.

My boyfriend driving us down the M40. Massive clouds scudding across the bright blue sky. Thinking, what a beautiful day to die.

Finally arriving at the hospice and into the arms of my family. Cups of tea. Hugs. Sitting with my Popop for a while. Holding his hand. Talking to him. Thinking he didn't look quite right and then realising what it was - the nurses had done his hair wrong!

He was the 1 consistent and grounded male presence in my life for 25 years.

And 26 years later, sometimes my grief still feels as deep and raw as it did that day. But mostly now, it feels like glitter.





27/02/2026

Have you ever felt anticipatory grief before a change, death, loss or life transition?

If your answer is yes, you’re not alone.

Anticipatory grief is completely normal when something meaningful is changing or when we know a chapter is ending. Even if whatever is happening may have been an active choice.

Anticipatory grief doesn’t only follow a diagnosis or death.

Feeling grief before a move, before an illness progresses, or before a child leaves home is more common than we talk about.

It can appear in quieter transitions too, like ending breastfeeding, your children going to college,
or even moving house. Rites of passage like matrescence (motherhood), menarche (a girl’s first period), or menopause also fit here.

Even if the move is chosen, for example, or when a change feels right, there can still be a sense of loss. The familiar walls and daily rhythms. The corner you used to sit in. The dining table where meals were shared. A favourite spot that held ordinary and meaningful moments.

In these quieter transitions you can feel hopeful about what’s ahead and still grieve what you’re leaving behind. These truths can exist together.

If this resonates, our latest article on the blog explores anticipatory grief in more depth, including how it shows up in illness, expected loss, and both significant and smaller life changes.

The link is in my bio 🤍

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Grief often doesn’t fade or completely disappear with time.It can linger in small and ordinary ways, showing up when we ...
26/02/2026

Grief often doesn’t fade or completely disappear with time.
It can linger in small and ordinary ways, showing up when we least expect it.

Grief is like glitter - it gets everywhere. And at some point, when you think it’s all gone, you find some - in your book, or in your car. And it brings it all back - but in a sparkly way, instead of the messiness of before. Because it reminds you of the good things.

When grief is understood in this way, you can see that it doesn’t need to be hidden or rushed. It can exist alongside living, held gently, without asking us to move on or be okay.

With the sparkles may come gentle smiles, memories, or even tears - welcome it all.

If grief has been appearing quietly in your life, and you’d like a gentle space to explore it, our Making Sense of Loss and Grief workshop series begins this April. It’s an online workshop designed to help you better understand your grief, without rushing, fixing, or needing to be okay.

You’re welcome, exactly as you are.
The link is in my bio 🤍

Thanks for the inspiration:

Grief often doesn’t fade or completely disappear with time.It can linger in small and ordinary ways, showing up when we ...
25/02/2026

Grief often doesn’t fade or completely disappear with time.
It can linger in small and ordinary ways, showing up when we least expect it.

It’s like glitter - it gets everywhere. And at some point, when you think it’s all gone, you find some - in your purse, or in your car. And it brings it all back - but in a sparkly way, instead of the messiness of before. Because it reminds you of the good things.

When grief is understood in this way, you can see that it doesn’t need to be hidden or rushed. It can exist alongside living, held gently, without asking us to move on or be okay.

With the sparkles may come gentle smiles, memories, or even tears - welcome it all.

If grief has been appearing quietly in your life, and you’d like a gentle space to explore it, our Making Sense of Loss and Grief workshop series begins this April. It’s an online workshop designed to help you better understand your grief, without rushing, fixing, or needing to be okay.

You’re welcome, exactly as you are.
The link is in my bio 🤍

Thanks for the inspiration:

21/02/2026

What happens on a Saturday night in our house when the big kids are doing improv for their theatre elective!





When I hear minimising words,I remind myself:People are often trying to soothe their own discomfort - not diminish my lo...
19/02/2026

When I hear minimising words,
I remind myself:
People are often trying to soothe their own discomfort - not diminish my love or its meaning.

Still, it can really hurt.

If you’ve been told
“At least…”
“You can try again.”
“Aren’t you over it yet?”

Please know this:
Your grief is not too much.
Your love is not replaceable.
And you are not alone here.

Minimising language is common in grief and pregnancy loss - but that doesn’t make it ok.

Together, we can build greater grief literacy and more thoughtful ways of responding to loss.

If this resonates, you’re welcome to save or share.

13/02/2026

We don’t move on from grief. We grow around it.

Some time ago, my family and I celebrated my father-in-law’s birthday after his death. We played the music he loved, ate the food he enjoyed, shared his memories out loud, re-told his terrible Granddad jokes, and spent time in his favourite places.

This is what coping with bereavement has come to mean to us - not shrinking our grief, but growing around it.

And these are ways that we support our children in understanding life after loss and how to keep memories alive across space and time.

Save this for the days you feel pressure to ‘move on’.

“I’m afraid I’ll open a Pandora’s box of doom if I start working on my grief…” they say.If this is you too, you’re not a...
12/02/2026

“I’m afraid I’ll open a Pandora’s box of doom if I start working on my grief…” they say.

If this is you too, you’re not alone in feeling this.

You may carry this concern quietly, afraid that even acknowledging your grief might lead to intense emotion, physical pain or a loss of control that feels difficult to come back from.

But your body has its own innate intelligence, responding with care, allowing your feelings to surface gradually, as you have the capacity to meet them.

Even if it doesn’t feel like it, your body won’t ask you to carry more than you can hold.

Have you noticed this fear? And how does it tend to show up for you?

Puppy pose invites a gentle emotional release - a place to soften, breathe, and let the body speak.Longer-held Yin Yoga ...
07/02/2026

Puppy pose invites a gentle emotional release - a place to soften, breathe, and let the body speak.

Longer-held Yin Yoga shapes offer a space to meet your edges with mindful care, and to notice and process deep emotions.

Sometimes the path to healing isn't about understanding or fixing. It's about allowing emotions to move.

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