
30/06/2021
💡YOU DON’T HAVE TO SUFFER THROUGH NATURAL CHILDBIRTH!
I often hear mums saying that they fear natural childbirth because they don't want to suffer.
Childbirth does normally involve some level of pain for most women. Even though some mums choose to change the word pain for pressure or intensity, the reality is that most of us will experience what we know as pain.
But when we think about suffering, it is normally associated with a negative emotional reaction, and includes any of the following factors:
🛑A perceived threat to the body and/or psyche;
🛑Feeling helplessness;
🛑Loss of control;
🛑Distress;
🛑Inability to cope with the distressing situation;
🛑Fear of death.
Just because you are experiencing pain, you're not necessarily suffering. As long as you feel:
✨Supported
✨Safe
✨Held
✨In control
✨Loved
✨Encouraged
A woman who understands her journey, and feels emotionally and physically supported in childbearing can still experience pain, but she ain't suffering.
Life is a journey fulfilled with intense experiences that give us opportunities to develop and grow in different levels of our beings. As a woman, we experience the most significant ones often around our 'Rite of Passages' such as childbirth. These experiences will teach us important things about ourselves, that will become essential tools through the next stages of life.🤍
When I hear birthing partners especially dads, saying they felt helpless to see their partners "suffering" through childbirth, it becomes clear that they simply didn't understand the birthing process, and by that they missed a unique and powerful opportunity of transforming themselves, through the process.🖤
You are stronger than you will ever know before you become a mother, no matter how you birth your baby.
Having pain medication or not, isn't what defines you as a woman. What matters is, WHY and HOW you made that choice. ✨😍