Shawn Matthews

29/05/2025

➡️Conflict Isn't Always About The Present — it’s often about the past. ⬅️

😢In couples, arguments can mask deeper emotional wounds: feelings of rejection, abandonment, or not being enough.

🖤It’s not the conflict itself that damages relationships — it’s the disconnection that follows.

💚When partners practice vulnerability and share what’s underneath the reaction —
💬 “When you pulled away, I felt unseen. It reminded me of how I felt as a child.” —
they invite emotional closeness, not just resolution.

💚This kind of honesty creates safety. And safety is the foundation for deeper emotional and sexual intimacy.

💚When we feel truly seen and accepted, we’re more open, more trusting, and more connected — in every part of the relationship.

Real connection begins with real vulnerability.☺️🌟

27/05/2025

Open Arms Health Therapy Practice - Where Compassion meets Conversation💚

27/05/2025

If you are a person that is a high achiever and you are feeling tired, run down and had enough of work.. You could be burning out.

🖋️ “Burnout isn’t just about long hours—it’s about feeling unsupported and unseen.”

Take care

- Shawn Matthews 💚

22/05/2025

💚I work with clients on a weekly basis who go through the fear of endings.. It can be a challenge to acknowledge that something is gone or someone has left your life however the truth is what...?

The truth is:
👉Something may be gone — but you are still here.

👉Endings can feel like identity shifts. It’s not just the loss of a person or situation — it’s the loss of the future you imagined with them in it.

But the deeper truth is:
✨ You can grieve and grow.
✨ You can miss someone and still move forward.
✨ You can feel afraid of what's next and still choose to begin again.

Endings don’t have to mean you’re broken.

They can mean you’re becoming — slowly, painfully, beautifully — someone wiser, softer, stronger. 🙏🌟

18/05/2025

Why You Keep Avoiding Simple Tasks (And How to Stop)

You’re not lazy. That 3-minute task you keep putting off? There’s more going on beneath the surface.

We often avoid small tasks not because they’re hard—but because they’re emotionally loaded.

Here’s what might actually be going on:
✅ Emotional weight (guilt, fear of judgment)
✅ No immediate payoff
✅ Decision fatigue
✅ Perfectionism
✅ Feeling overwhelmed

How to manage it?
🔹 Name the emotion behind the avoidance
🔹 Try the 2-minute rule – If it takes less than 2 minutes, do it now
🔹 Break it down into a smaller first step
🔹 Pair it with something pleasant (coffee, music, sunshine)
🔹 Practice self-compassion – You’re not broken. You’re human! 💫

Avoidance isn’t a flaw. It’s feedback.

The solution? Gentle action.

What’s one task you’ve been avoiding—and how could you make it easier today?

Share in the comments 💫

13/05/2025

🌟 The Science of Happiness: What Really Makes Us Thrive? 🌟

Happiness isn’t just a mood—it’s a skill we can strengthen with science-backed habits. Here’s what research says truly boosts well-being:

🧠 1. Practice Gratitude
Daily gratitude rewires the brain to focus on positives. Try writing down 3 things you're thankful for each day.
👥 2. Nurture Relationships
Strong social connections are the #1 predictor of long-term happiness. Spend quality time with those who uplift you.
💪 3. Move Your Body
Exercise increases serotonin and dopamine—natural mood boosters. Even a 20-minute walk can make a difference.
🎯 4. Set Meaningful Goals
Progress toward goals gives us a sense of purpose. Aim for progress, not perfection.
🌱 5. Practice Mindfulness
Being present reduces stress and increases joy. Try meditation, mindful breathing, or just a tech-free walk.
💞 6. Help Others
Acts of kindness—big or small—boost happiness for both the giver and the receiver.
💤 7. Sleep Well
Lack of sleep affects mood and emotional resilience. Prioritize 7–9 hours of quality rest.

💡 Happiness isn’t a destination—it’s a daily practice. Start small, stay consistent, and share the joy.

😍

10/05/2025

💛Mother’s Day Reflection💛

As Mother’s Day approaches, I find myself reflecting deeply on the incredible impact my own mother had on my life. She taught me the value of independence, how to make thoughtful decisions, and the importance of standing up for myself. Thirteen years ago, I lost her to cancer—one of the most difficult experiences I’ve ever faced. Her memory continues to shape the person I am today.

👉Mother’s Day can bring up a wide range of emotions. For some, it’s a joyful celebration. For others, it’s a day of complex feelings—grief over a mother’s passing, the pain of a strained relationship, or the heartache of dreams unfulfilled, such as the journey to motherhood that hasn’t come to be. Even for mothers themselves, the day can be filled with exhaustion and unmet needs.👈

Whatever you're feeling this Mother’s Day, know that it’s valid. Give yourself permission to reflect, to feel, and simply to be. You are not alone. 🙏🌟

22/04/2025

💙 Navigating Grief, One Day at a Time

Grief isn’t something you “get over.” It’s something you learn to carry, to walk with, and eventually, to soften.

✨ Some days will feel impossible.
✨ Some days will feel a little lighter.
✨ And both are okay.

Here’s how to gently move through it, one day at a time:

🌿 Give Yourself Permission
To feel it all — the tears, the anger, the numbness, the memories. There’s no wrong way to grieve.

🕊️ Take Small Steps
You don’t have to “fix” it. Focus on tiny moments of care: a deep breath, a short walk, a warm drink, or simply getting out of bed.

💬 Talk About It
With someone you trust. With a journal. With yourself. Your story matters.

❤️ Hold on to the Love
Grief exists because love did too. Let their memory become a quiet, steady light inside you.

✨ Believe in Hope
It doesn’t mean forgetting. It means living again — when you’re ready — with them still in your heart.

You are stronger than you feel right now. One breath, one day at a time. 💙

20/02/2025

This man is no longer on this earth but his teachings can be treasured forever! 😍

What are you working on improving today? Personal growth and development is no overnight fix. We must set clear intentions each day to identify where we can always be, do and have better!

It's time to bring your full potential to the surface! What is really holding you back from starting that goal or living the life you have always dreamed of?

It starts with you, make the decision today that you will only commit to things that only serve and grow you. If you don’t have enough of what you want in your life, you have to make room for it by letting go of the things you no longer need.

Start by identifying what YOU want, not what other people or the world wants from you. What do you REALLY want?

23/07/2024

🌟" Successful people are not gifted; they just work hard and succeed on purpose" - G.K. Nielson 💯🌟

28/05/2024

“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” Nelson Mandela😍🧠😍🧠