2020 done and dusted...what a year!
Let’s hope 2021 brings us some peace and rest ❤️
Interconnect Counselling - Therese Elsey
Therese Elsey - Credentialed Mental Health Nurse | Clinical Hypnotherapist | Master NLP Practitioner Along with the joys of parenthood come the challenges.
Parenting has been considered one of the hardest jobs in the world, and the struggles often go unrecognised. The impact of poor parental mental health is becoming well known. The perinatal period (typically pregnancy to age three) is a time of enormous growth and development for an infant/child and having a parent with a mental illness can significantly impact on a child’s emotional, mental and ph
Operating as usual
Hold the mamma!
Hold the mother, not the baby.
Because the baby’s being taken care of—
fed, snuggled, and given all the love in the world—
by not only the mother,
but her partner, grandparents, siblings, cousins, and friends.
But the mother,
may have gaps in her mind from lack of sleep,
may be mechanical in her motions as she’s healing,
may feel more like a mess than a mother,
may be sitting in bed, crying, feeling overwhelmed in her body and life,
may be full of mom guilt because in her mind, "she's not good enough,"
and she’s bleeding, wincing in pain, swollen and emotional.
And the mother’s that baby's whole world and needs to be seen, so she doesn't disappear into that postpartum fog.
So, hold the mother, not the baby.
A mother agrees that her baby matters more.
But she’s hurting, while she’s the person behind the baby,
in the background, making it all happen:
feeding her baby at all hours,
snuggling her baby close to comfort newborn cries,
and being that baby’s everything.
So, it’s the mother who needs your love.
And a mother will remember who held her up.
So instead of “I’m coming to see the baby,”
try saying, “I’m coming to see you 𝘢𝘯𝘥 meet the baby, too.”
Because the mother needs to be held more.
Day 2 of the Australian College of Mental Health Nurses conference with a theme of Mental Health Nursing in a Climate of Change!
I really enjoyed hearing Shame Fitzsimmons (commissioner for Resilience NSW) talk about ‘What is Resilience’
He doesn’t agree that being resilient is “bouncing back” following adversity…he believes it is about learning from the experience and coming out the other side recognising our vulnerability and how to mitigate the changes that can come with adversity!
Australian College of Mental Health Nurses
It's important to set healthy boundaries so that you can feel safe and contained
Healthy Boundaries: More Important Than Ever - Center for The Empowerment Dynamic Why is it so hard to set healthy boundaries? The answer is unique to each person. One thing is for sure, the pandemic and global disruption has made it
Take the pressure off!
Simply accepting that with a new baby in the house you will have less control over the details of things than you used to can be a relief, take the pressure off, and feel liberating. Constant change is the reality of early parenthood and doesn’t mean you’re not keeping up or you’re doing it badly! In fact nothing could be further from the truth. Be comfortable with the fact that things don’t have to be perfect – the floors don’t need to be mopped and the laundry doesn’t have to be folded and put away every single day – that’s how most people’s houses are in reality!
It helps to learn to stay flexible, be a bit open-minded, and expect that changes will happen.
Caring for a new baby requires new knowledge and skills. It is common to feel clumsy and a bit incompetent at the start. Learning these new things and getting to know your baby take time and experience. Over time you will feel more self-confident and competent.
Visit https://www.mumspace.com.au for more information.
Important to listen to their words!
When parents ignore these requests it sends messages to ignore one's sense of self and agency.
Happy Birthday Florence! Happy International Nurses Day!
The theme for the 2022 International Nurses Day is Nurses: A Voice to Lead - Invest in Nursing and respect rights to secure global health. Mental health nurses are at the forefront of mental healthcare, but are yet to receive the support and recognition they deserve. Despite our level of education, experience and skill, Credentialed Mental Health Nurses are still not able to access the Better Access to Mental Health program which enables people to access sessions with a mental health clinician. The Australian College of Mental Health Nurses expresses its support for mental health nurses finding their ‘voices to lead’.
Mindfulness techniques to take some stress and anxiety out of raising kids.
Mindful Parenting The Child Mind Institute discusses mindful parenting and how to use techniques to take the stress and anxiety out of raising kids.
“Toxic positivity is the extreme preference for positive emotions while ignoring or rejecting anything negative. It is looking at the spectrum of emotions that people experience and stating that the happy ones are okay, but the unpleasant ones are not.
Toxic positivity is rampant in motherhood.
Yes, there are periods of joy and they should be celebrated. But ignoring the hard stuff, asking each other to only talk about the positive, and shaming people when they acknowledge the bad are all symptoms of toxic positivity”
Toxic positivity doesn’t fix how much moms are burnt out—it only makes things worse Toxic positivity surrounding motherhood—insisting that mothers be happy and positive all the time—does not fix the burn out.
Some very helpful ideas when visiting a newborn 😊
10 Crucial Rules for Visiting a Newborn - Motherly Read up on these essential rules for visiting a newborn to make sure your visit is welcome and not a strain (or worse, a health risk).
Bigger, Stronger, Wiser & Kind 💕
Being With and having a secure attachment doesn't mean being overly nice all the time. It means offering no-nonsense tenderness that says, “I am here for you and here to take charge and keep you safe. You can count on me” (86).
Hoffman, Kent, Glen Cooper, Bert Powell, and Christine Benton. Raising a Secure Child: How Circle of Security Parenting Can Help You Nurture Your Child's Attachment, Emotional Resilience, and Freedom to Explore. Guilford Press, 2017.
Some truth in this one! 😊
On point 😂
Happy International Women’s Day!
International Women’s Day is celebrated to recognise the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women.
Imagine a gender equal world.
A world free of bias, stereotypes and discrimination.
A world that's diverse, equitable, and inclusive.
A world where difference is valued and celebrated.
Together we can forge women's equality.
Collectively we can all .
Celebrate women's achievement. Raise awareness against bias. Take action for equality.
Here’s To Strong Women: May We Know Them, May We Be Them, May We Raise Them!
Yesterday 5/3/22 was my 9 year anniversary since I saw my first private practice client.
Over the last 9 years my private practice has grown, developed and gone through some amazing changes into what it is today. Today I have a very healthy practice and am now working solely as an online practitioner from a home office.
Thank you to all of you for your encouragement, support and belief in me. I appreciate you whether you’ve been my family, friend, mentor, colleague or client.
Without you I wouldn’t be where I am today.
I am grateful to all of you 🙏🏻
“Every morning you are handed 24 golden hours. They are one of the few things in this world that you get free of charge. If you had all the money in the world, You couldn't buy an extra hour. What will you do with this priceless treasure?”
Therese Elsey Photography
I worked with Di many years ago when I worked in the public health system. I’m happy to support the work she is now offering privately to provide women centred care in a wellness framework
Hi, I’m Di Longworth.
I am an endorsed midwife providing private midwifery services including Homebirth, on Awabakal, Worimi, Wonnarua and Geawegal country (Newcastle, Lake Mac, Port Stephens, and Hunter Valley).
I have been a midwife since 1997, and practiced primarily in women centred, midwifery models of care and more recently, in rural, remote, and regional settings across NSW and Qld.
I have launched back into Private Practice Midwifery in 2022 (after 12 years away from homebirth!) as I am finding that women are emerging damaged, physically, and psychologically from the standard medical model of care. Working within that system doesn’t align with my beliefs and philosophy of birth as a normal life event that should be viewed in a wellness paradigm.
I practice within the Australian College of Midwives Guidelines for Consultation and Referral and aim to be clear about any developments during pregnancy and birth that may fall outside of my scope of practice. As endorsed midwives we are required by law to hold professional indemnity insurance. I am insured by MIGA the only company that offers midwives insurance, however as there is no insurance product available for intrapartum care at home, I work under the federal government exemption for this component of your care. I am fully covered for pregnancy and postnatal care.
I hope to be able to provide my community with an alternate model of care which is tailored to their needs and remains a safe alternative to the medical model of care.
Please message or email me for further info!
And so my work year of 2021 comes to a close…it’s been a big year for so many of us and a nurturing couple of weeks rest and relaxation is definitely well deserved!
I will be away on leave until Tuesday 11th January, and will return in 2022 to a lot of changes in the way we do things…(More about that later)
Thank you to all my clients, friends and colleagues for another great year. It would not be possible without you, and I really appreciate your flexibility and understanding throughout a difficult couple of years!
Wishing you all a Safe and Happy Christmas and New Year 🎄
See you in ‘22 😊
Dr Kristy Goodwin, digital wellbeing & productivity researcher/speaker/author/consultant, provides some helpful tips on helping wean your child from technology devices
How to wean the screen: emerging from lockdown with your kids’ digital wellbeing - Dr Kristy Goodwin After our longest round of lockdowns yet, parents everywhere are celebrating as our kids are settling back into school to finish term four. But after a challenging few months of trying to juggle work and school, reliance on technology has increased and our kids are using screens more than ever, affe...
Motherly’s recent study showed 93% of mums report burn out and 92% report that society doesn’t do a good job of supporting new mothers
Your burnout is not your fault.
Society is asking you to nurture in an environment that does not nurture you back.
'Self-care' is not enough to fix how much moms are burnt out Society is asking you to nurture in an environment that does not nurture you back.
Sage advise from this dad…
I’ve worked in private practice as a fully qualified and credentialed mental health nurse for the past 8 ½ years without the full recognition from the government for my qualifications, experience and expertise as a psychotherapist.
This needs to change!
Appropriately qualified Mental Health Nurses deserve the same access to MBS as our other colleagues in practice!!
Please sign and share! 🙏🏻
Sign the Petition Unlocking the potential of Mental Health Nurses by enabling access to the MBS
An important reminder at this time of year…
Holding all of you in my heart 💕
To all of the women who have left the hospital broken hearted without your baby in your arms
To all of you that have cried yourself to sleep for nights on end after wearing your brave face everyday
To everyone who has heard the words ‘I’m sorry there is no heartbeat’
To all of you who silently watch on in agony as friends & loved ones babies are carried and born
To every single one of you who has been met with ‘at least it…’
To the ones who one minute was excitedly planning your babies arrival then to be told they won’t survive
To each of you who’s endured life saving surgery after your precious bub grew in the wrong place
To those who experience a natural loss & birthed alone terrified
To those who silently remember your due dates whilst the world carries on
To everyone of you that loss keeps happening to & with each loss a deep seated fear that now resides inside of you
To the partners holding us up silently grieving alongside us with no one holding them up
To those who don’t get cute baby pics to cherish instead just a grainy ultrasound or just two blue lines
To each of you who feel silenced by societies lack of empathy & understanding around baby loss.
The ones who can’t find the words to describe the unbearable, the unnatural.
To all of the women who feel betrayed by their bodies
To those brave enough to try again after loss terrified of falling pregnant & terrified of not
To every woman enduring the persistent anxiety of pregnancy after loss, the fear of another loss robbing you of the innocent joy of pregnancy
We are the ones that will forever carry a baby gone too soon in our hearts. We are the ones that have to walk two lives one before & one after, a life of ‘what if’s’ & ‘they would be’s’ that we silently endure.
You do not deserve to be silenced
Your baby existed
Your experience mattered
You deserved so much more
Together we stand tonight at 7 pm
Together we light a candle and remember our babies gone too soon
Today is World Mental Health Day – October 10 – and the message is simple: “Look after your mental health, Australia.”
What can you do today to care for yourself?
I’m looking after my mental health by engaging in daily exercise and taking some time out for me! I learnt a long time ago that I can’t be there for others if I don’t start with caring for myself. Self care is not being indulgent, its not a luxury! Rather its a conscious thing that I do in order to take care of my own physical, mental and emotional health. My favourite self care activity is finding moments of stillness 💕
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