Sarah Tolmie Life&Love - Holistic Therapy, Coaching & Courses

Sarah Tolmie Life&Love - Holistic Therapy, Coaching & Courses

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Conscious parenting, sitting in circles, listening to feelings...it’s a bit ‘weird’!.

Why would you want to sit around talking about feelings, expressing emotions, listening to peoples’ anger, sadness and grief, learning about children’s unmet needs and listening to their feelings?

It’s all a bit ‘deep and emotional’ isn’t it??

Yes it is emotional! Yes it is communication with more depth. And not everyone is ready (including me even a few years ago). But for those of us who feel called, it’s because we know that life needs to be done differently.

It’s because we see suffering and fear and anxiety and mental health issues and we want to change a little piece of our humanity. It’s because we want to grow more into ourselves and build capacity to support our children’s emotional health from a place of empathy and connection, not threats and punishment.

It’s because our children have behaviors that challenge the very core of us and we react in ways that might feel scary - to both them and us. And so we start to question....why do I react like that? Where did that anger come from? Why can’t I take part in small talk? Why do I want to express my feelings so much? Why do I feel lonely even around friends? What even are these feelings and does anyone else feel like me?

This work is not for everyone. But for those who are ready, it can be transformational.

Circles and events coming up this month:

Monday 21 June, 10.30-12.30
Rise Mama Circle
The Landing Space , Forresters Beach

Saturday 26 June, 12-4pm
Mothers Rise - Healing Circle and Conscious Parenting Intro (1 space left)
Modern Organic , Long Jetty

Sunday 27 June, 10.30-12.30
Gather Mama Circle
Luna Physiotherapy , Daley’s Point
Special guest: Sarah Tolmie, family therapist and relationship coach Sarah Tolmie - Life & Love

Links to events at https://linktr.ee/Alitabee
NEW // The marriage of the mermaid and the mountain goat...on the blog tonight is the fabulous tale of Benji and Jasmine’s secret elopement, accompanied by Kings & Thieves glorious images.

Grounded and intentional;
“Our commitment is to honour our independent elements, and to commit to meeting at the shoreline, to share the treasures we have found from our own journeys.”

https://lessstuffmoremeaning.org/the-marriage-of-the-mermaid-and-the-mountain-goat-a-non-traditional-elopement-story/

Thanks so much Sarah Sarah Tolmie - Life & Love for writing this piece for us, for creating this special ceremony, and Ben from .es for capturing the spirit of the day.
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There are many couples now experiencing relationship stress as the effects of COVID-19, home isolating and separation from family, friends and their usual schedules and support structures take its toll. It is putting new pressures on their relationship, not to mention, triggering some old wounds.

I have a number of ways I am supporting couples during this time. Reach out and connect with me. These products, packages, courses and resources will help:

1. On demand online couple counselling with Zoom video calls. I am offering a COVID-19 Work From Home (WFH) special 30% discount off normal session rates!

2. ‘Love in Lockdown’ – A bespoke couple mentoring package include first exploratory call + Gottman Relationship Online Assessment + Feedback & Goals session + 4 x 1hr Weekly Mentoring Video Calls (6hrs total). + FREE access to the couples course: Creating a Miracle Marriage worth $250.

3. My signature online course CREATING A MIRACLE MARRIAGE or her unbundled ‘Miracle Marriage Toolkit Series’. Now 70% off! Plus you can also download for FREE my e-book Miracle Marriage Manifesto (www.miraclemarriage.com.au)

4. Or follow my Sarah Tolmie - Life & Love page where I post weekly videos tracking our days of COVID-19 challenges and daily support for our holistic wellbeing with free resources and practices.

Here is a page to all the information and links to the different offers: http://sarahtolmie.com.au/covid-19-relationship-couple-support-specials/

Much love
Sarah Tolmie
www.sarahtolmie.com.au
0419 640 901
[email protected]
Sarah Tolmie - Life & Love is offering an amazing 70% discount on her online relationship course for couples. Details are here!
Sarah Tolmie - Life & Love writes yet another amazing article - this time.....Staying calm in uncertain times. Well worth a read. For the full article, go to:

https://view.joomag.com/on-the-coast-families-aprmay20/0202158001585692548
Dear Doula colleagues.
Looking for - Cooling Bed - for near Cootamundra, NSW
I have a friend dying and we have a death plan in place that we hold a 2-day vigil after death. I am on Central Coast and have access to a cooling bed supplier but should things happen that either the bed I can access is in use, or time frames require one gets to her quicker than I can achieve, is there anyone in the local area with a cooling bed I can reach out to help as an alternative/back-up? Please PM me or call me on 0418 640 901
Many thanks, Sarah Sarah Tolmie - Life & Love
Hi Lovers - This year I am returning to my every day practice of posting my DAILY LOVE messages, this time on Instagram and reposted on my Sarah Tolmie - Life & Love page. To follow on Insta, find me at
xx Sarah Tolmie xx
Dear Sarah
Steve and I would like to thank you for giving us the most individual ,beautiful service at our wedding on saturday 17th of November.From start to finish we felt like the only ones in the world being married on that day!!! It was such a pleasure getting to know you and be guided by you in this amazing process of arranging our ceremony and helping us in a way to personalise our day.
Many of our guests commented on how wonderfully the service was arranged and they were all captivated by your beautiful voice.There was lots and lots of raw emotion and tears that afternoon.The sun shone there was a light breeze the music was perfect,we could not have asked for a more wonderful day.
Love from the Gilberts ###
This is the fab team I partner with to deliver bespoke, real, transparently costed and family driven funeral care for my community. With Picaluna I can provide holistic and complete funeral and ceremonial care as your Funeral Director & Holistic Celebrant. If you find yourself facing the terrible trauma and distress of a death of a loved one, allow me to help and guide you with love, time, choice, preparation, participation and authenticity. Much love, Sarah Tolmie Sarah Tolmie - Life & Love
MEET SARAH - Sarah Tolmie is one of our six panellists for our upcoming Q&A discussion, "Co-Designing The Funeral of the Future".

Sarah Tolmie - Life & Love is an end-of-life consultant, bespoke funeral director and holistic celebrant. Sarah assists individuals, couples and families to celebrate, navigate, heal and grow through life & love’s milestones, rites of passage, challenges, changes, crises and losses. Sarah brings a unique set of professional skills and services to support individuals and their families as they pathway through the practical, emotional and spiritual journey of illness, dying and death. This includes 13 years as an independent funeral arranger and holistic celebrant; qualifications in grief & bereavement counselling; and practise in clinical pastoral care (including 4 years as a non-religious hospital ward chaplain). Sarah can also support families with in-home vigils and after death body care and rituals. And just to keep life busy and interesting, Sarah is also a Marriage Therapist, Love & Relationship Educator, Mentor and Coach.

Join us on Wednesday August 29th, 6.30pm, at UTS Aerial Function Centre, 235 Jones Street Ultimo Sydney 2007.

Email your questions for the panel to [email protected]

Buy your ticket here: https://www.stickytickets.com.au/73938
Podcasts!!! I'd love to tune into more of your interviews and discussions. I'm super keen to see what your course is going to be all about too. x how exciting!!
Stewart & Nicole’s Wedding Day we were so proud to be part of this lovely couples special day!
Hire of Wedding Arbour, Furniture, Centrepieces, Ceiling Drapery, Chandeliers, Bridal Backdrop, Gift Table Props, Bar Table Covers design, styling, decorating, install &
pack down by us The Event Decorators - TEDs
Ceremony Venue The Pines Avoca Beach
Celebrant Sarah Tolmie - Life & Love
White Kombi Kombi Event Hire
Reception Venue Avoca Beach SLSC
Music DJ Magoo Party Hire
Food HandH Catering
Table planner, place cards, invites Creative Escapade
Wishing you both a lifetime of love laughter and happiness together Sarah and the team

Also Independent Community Funeral Director & End-of-Life Consultant and Death Doula. Her funeral partner is Picaluna Funerals.

Sarah is a holistic marriage therapist, relationship coach, life & love coach, emotional resilience & wellbeing coach, grief educator and bereavement & loss coach. Sarah Tolmie is a life and love coach and therapist asissting individuals, couples and families navigate, heal and grow through all their life and love transitions, changes, challenges and losses. As a life and love celebrant, Sarah cre

5 Foundations for Healthy Relationship
In my Creating a Miracle Marriage workshops and online couples course, I outline 5 core foundations that offer a clear framework for a healthy, thriving and life long love, I call it 'playing the A-Game':
1. Authentic Self (continuing to evolve, grow & gift yourself to your beloved)
2. Awareness (of self and your beloveds feelings, needs & desires)
3. Agreements (on the beliefs & behaviors & values that are important to maintain the relationship environment)
4. Accountability (for self and the relationship)
5. Adapt & Apply Skills (to meet each other’s needs and desires)

“The key in relationship is firstly maintaining an ever evolving sense of authentic self. It is YOU that your beloved loves and wants, so keep growing and developing your SELF and gifting that to your partner”

“Couples in thriving relationship develop a highly attuned awareness to their own needs and desires and how to communicate them and as well as being aware of their partners. They agree to be accountable to attending to those, and where they have to develop new skills and behaviors to meet theirs and their partners needs & desires, they adapt and learn and consciously apply those skills.”

“In a healthy relationship, couples are clear on their relationship agreement. This may sound a bit dreary but think of these agreements as what is contained within the heart of the marriage vows. Vows encapsulate what you promise to create, share, believe and do for yourself, your beloved and your relationship”. 

x
Sarah

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#hypnotherapycentralcoast 01/10/2022

5 Foundations for Healthy Relationship
In my Creating a Miracle Marriage workshops and online couples course, I outline 5 core foundations that offer a clear framework for a healthy, thriving and life long love, I call it 'playing the A-Game':
1. Authentic Self (continuing to evolve, grow & gift yourself to your beloved)
2. Awareness (of self and your beloveds feelings, needs & desires)
3. Agreements (on the beliefs & behaviors & values that are important to maintain the relationship environment)
4. Accountability (for self and the relationship)
5. Adapt & Apply Skills (to meet each other’s needs and desires)

“The key in relationship is firstly maintaining an ever evolving sense of authentic self. It is YOU that your beloved loves and wants, so keep growing and developing your SELF and gifting that to your partner”

“Couples in thriving relationship develop a highly attuned awareness to their own needs and desires and how to communicate them and as well as being aware of their partners. They agree to be accountable to attending to those, and where they have to develop new skills and behaviors to meet theirs and their partners needs & desires, they adapt and learn and consciously apply those skills.”

“In a healthy relationship, couples are clear on their relationship agreement. This may sound a bit dreary but think of these agreements as what is contained within the heart of the marriage vows. Vows encapsulate what you promise to create, share, believe and do for yourself, your beloved and your relationship”.

x
Sarah

#marriagetherapistcentralcoast
#couplecounsellingcentralcoast
#relationshipgoals
#healthyrelationships
#holisticcoaching
#marriagetherapycentralcoast
#grief
#livingwithgrief
#emotionalresilience
#emotionalwellbeing
#nlpcoachingcentralcoast
#lifecoachingcentralcoast
#lovecoachingcentralcoast
#hypnotherapycentralcoast


5 Foundations for Healthy Relationship
In my Creating a Miracle Marriage workshops and online couples course, I outline 5 core foundations that offer a clear framework for a healthy, thriving and life long love, I call it 'playing the A-Game':
1. Authentic Self (continuing to evolve, grow & gift yourself to your beloved)
2. Awareness (of self and your beloveds feelings, needs & desires)
3. Agreements (on the beliefs & behaviors & values that are important to maintain the relationship environment)
4. Accountability (for self and the relationship)
5. Adapt & Apply Skills (to meet each other’s needs and desires)

“The key in relationship is firstly maintaining an ever evolving sense of authentic self. It is YOU that your beloved loves and wants, so keep growing and developing your SELF and gifting that to your partner”

“Couples in thriving relationship develop a highly attuned awareness to their own needs and desires and how to communicate them and as well as being aware of their partners. They agree to be accountable to attending to those, and where they have to develop new skills and behaviors to meet theirs and their partners needs & desires, they adapt and learn and consciously apply those skills.”

“In a healthy relationship, couples are clear on their relationship agreement. This may sound a bit dreary but think of these agreements as what is contained within the heart of the marriage vows. Vows encapsulate what you promise to create, share, believe and do for yourself, your beloved and your relationship”.

x
Sarah Tolmie















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5 Foundations for Healthy Relationship In my Creating a Miracle Marriage workshops and online couples course, I outline 5 core foundations that offer a clear framework for a healthy, thriving and life long love, I call it 'playing the A-Game': 1. Authentic Self (continuing to evolve, grow & gift yourself to your beloved) 2. Awareness (of self and your beloveds feelings, needs & desires) 3. Agreements (on the beliefs & behaviors & values that are important to maintain the relationship environment) 4. Accountability (for self and the relationship) 5. Adapt & Apply Skills (to meet each other’s needs and desires) “The key in relationship is firstly maintaining an ever evolving sense of authentic self. It is YOU that your beloved loves and wants, so keep growing and developing your SELF and gifting that to your partner” “Couples in thriving relationship develop a highly attuned awareness to their own needs and desires and how to communicate them and as well as being aware of their partners. They agree to be accountable to attending to those, and where they have to develop new skills and behaviors to meet theirs and their partners needs & desires, they adapt and learn and consciously apply those skills.” “In a healthy relationship, couples are clear on their relationship agreement. This may sound a bit dreary but think of these agreements as what is contained within the heart of the marriage vows. Vows encapsulate what you promise to create, share, believe and do for yourself, your beloved and your relationship”. x Sarah #marriagetherapistcentralcoast #couplecounsellingcentralcoast #relationshipgoals #healthyrelationships #holisticcoaching #marriagetherapycentralcoast #grief #livingwithgrief #emotionalresilience #emotionalwellbeing #nlpcoachingcentralcoast #lifecoachingcentralcoast #lovecoachingcentralcoast #hypnotherapycentralcoast

Ever had a date with yourself? Ever planned a day of complete pleasure and relaxing and beautifulness? Celebrate being on your own. The idea of being on their own for many people is equated with loneliness and sad alone feelings. Some things feel better when shared with another, I know, but some things are best just all for yourself! It's all a matter of perspective . You could look at it as though it is the most indulgent adventure ever. Lavish yourself with all the things you like. Be mysterious. Notice other 'on their own' people.....see if there is a connection. What is your ultimate on your own day? For me.....it looks like beach, swim, meditate, read under a tree in a park, art gallery or stroll a boho vintage market, journalling, a movie and then finishing with glass of wine at a funky place where I can people watch and daydream! 

x Sarah 30/09/2022

Ever had a date with yourself? Ever planned a day of complete pleasure and relaxing and beautifulness? Celebrate being on your own. The idea of being on their own for many people is equated with loneliness and sad alone feelings. Some things feel better when shared with another, I know, but some things are best just all for yourself! It's all a matter of perspective . You could look at it as though it is the most indulgent adventure ever. Lavish yourself with all the things you like. Be mysterious. Notice other 'on their own' people.....see if there is a connection. What is your ultimate on your own day? For me.....it looks like beach, swim, meditate, read under a tree in a park, art gallery or stroll a boho vintage market, journalling, a movie and then finishing with glass of wine at a funky place where I can people watch and daydream!

x Sarah


Ever had a date with yourself? Ever planned a day of complete pleasure and relaxing and beautifulness? Celebrate being on your own. The idea of being on their own for many people is equated with loneliness and sad alone feelings. Some things feel better when shared with another, I know, but some things are best just all for yourself! It's all a matter of perspective . You could look at it as though it is the most indulgent adventure ever. Lavish yourself with all the things you like. Be mysterious. Notice other 'on their own' people.....see if there is a connection. What is your ultimate on your own day? For me.....it looks like beach, swim, meditate, read under a tree in a park, art gallery or stroll a boho vintage market, journalling, a movie and then finishing with glass of wine at a funky place where I can people watch and daydream!

x Sarah Tolmie














Ever had a date with yourself? Ever planned a day of complete pleasure and relaxing and beautifulness? Celebrate being on your own. The idea of being on their own for many people is equated with loneliness and sad alone feelings. Some things feel better when shared with another, I know, but some things are best just all for yourself! It's all a matter of perspective . You could look at it as though it is the most indulgent adventure ever. Lavish yourself with all the things you like. Be mysterious. Notice other 'on their own' people.....see if there is a connection. What is your ultimate on your own day? For me.....it looks like beach, swim, meditate, read under a tree in a park, art gallery or stroll a boho vintage market, journalling, a movie and then finishing with glass of wine at a funky place where I can people watch and daydream! x Sarah

Joy and grief are absolute opposites on the emotional spectrum but they can only exist because of each other. And their common link is love...love lived, love lost. How would you know JOY and recognise it for the beauty of that feeling if you didn't have the contrast of GRIEF to compare it to. They actually, paradoxically, naturally coexist together......quite comfortably.....like beautiful lifelong friends who know everything about each other, warts and all, and still love each other. 
x Sarah

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#picaluna 29/09/2022

Joy and grief are absolute opposites on the emotional spectrum but they can only exist because of each other. And their common link is love...love lived, love lost. How would you know JOY and recognise it for the beauty of that feeling if you didn't have the contrast of GRIEF to compare it to. They actually, paradoxically, naturally coexist together......quite comfortably.....like beautiful lifelong friends who know everything about each other, warts and all, and still love each other.
x Sarah

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Joy and grief are absolute opposites on the emotional spectrum but they can only exist because of each other. And their common link is love...love lived, love lost. How would you know JOY and recognise it for the beauty of that feeling if you didn't have the contrast of GRIEF to compare it to. They actually, paradoxically, naturally coexist together......quite comfortably.....like beautiful lifelong friends who know everything about each other, warts and all, and still love each other.
x Sarah


















Joy and grief are absolute opposites on the emotional spectrum but they can only exist because of each other. And their common link is love...love lived, love lost. How would you know JOY and recognise it for the beauty of that feeling if you didn't have the contrast of GRIEF to compare it to. They actually, paradoxically, naturally coexist together......quite comfortably.....like beautiful lifelong friends who know everything about each other, warts and all, and still love each other. x Sarah #centralcoastcommunityfunerals #newcastlecommunityfunerals #centralcoastfuneraldirector #newcastlefuneraldirector #centralcoastfuneraldirector #centralcoastfunerals #personalfunerals #funeraldirectorscentralcoast #funeraldirectorgosford #funeralcelebrant #alternativefunerals #holisticfuneraldirector #greenfunerals #centralcoastcommunity #holistichomefunerals #communityandfamilyledfunerals #picalunafunerals #picaluna

How to thrive, not just survive, the life of your love? Be radically committed to the full exploration, expression and evolvement of yourself and share and delight in journeying with another who is also doing the same! 

Much love, Sarah 

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#couplecounsellingcentralcoast
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#healthyrelationships
#holisticcoaching
#marriagetherapycentralcoast
#griefcounselling
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#emotionalresilience
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#lovecoachingcentralcoast 29/09/2022

How to thrive, not just survive, the life of your love? Be radically committed to the full exploration, expression and evolvement of yourself and share and delight in journeying with another who is also doing the same!

Much love, Sarah

#marriagetherapistcentralcoast
#couplecounsellingcentralcoast
#relationshipgoals
#healthyrelationships
#holisticcoaching
#marriagetherapycentralcoast
#griefcounselling
#healingthroughgrief
#livingwithgrief
#emotionalresilience
#emotionalwellbeing
#nlpcoachingcentralcoast
#hypnotherapycentralcoast
#lifecoachingcentralcoast
#lovecoachingcentralcoast


How to thrive, not just survive, the life of your love? Be radically committed to the full exploration, expression and evolvement of yourself and share and delight in journeying with another who is also doing the same!

Much love, Sarah















How to thrive, not just survive, the life of your love? Be radically committed to the full exploration, expression and evolvement of yourself and share and delight in journeying with another who is also doing the same! Much love, Sarah #marriagetherapistcentralcoast #couplecounsellingcentralcoast #relationshipgoals #healthyrelationships #holisticcoaching #marriagetherapycentralcoast #griefcounselling #healingthroughgrief #livingwithgrief #emotionalresilience #emotionalwellbeing #nlpcoachingcentralcoast #hypnotherapycentralcoast #lifecoachingcentralcoast #lovecoachingcentralcoast

Keeping the passion alive in a marriage is about cultivating DESIRE. The nature of love in marriage is about caring, belonging, family, security and commitment; it is all about what we KNOW and already HAVE. The nature of desire however is about wanting something new, the novelty, the mystery, the excitement, even the naughty. It is all about what we DON'T KNOW and WANT. This is the paradox between love and desire. There is no care-taking or needing or responsibility in desire. To cultivate desire, it is about creating a want. Continue to grow and create yourself so you are an unfolding mystery to your partner. Try to look at your partner with new eyes, maybe how others see them. See them from a comfortable distance; see them when they are doing what they love most - in their flow - confident and expressive. Spend enough time apart so you can enjoy reuniting. Be imaginative - have fun, do new things, surprise each other. Use your imagination....discover and explore something new with your partner today! 
x
Much love. Sarah 

#marriagetherapistcentralcoast
#couplecounsellingcentralcoast
#relationshipgoals
#healthyrelationships
#holisticcoaching
#marriagetherapycentralcoast
#grief
#livingwithgrief
#emotionalresilience
#emotionalwellbeing
#nlpcoachingcentralcoast
#lifecoachingcentralcoast
#lovecoachingcentralcoast
#hypnotherapycentralcoast 27/09/2022

Keeping the passion alive in a marriage is about cultivating DESIRE. The nature of love in marriage is about caring, belonging, family, security and commitment; it is all about what we KNOW and already HAVE. The nature of desire however is about wanting something new, the novelty, the mystery, the excitement, even the naughty. It is all about what we DON'T KNOW and WANT. This is the paradox between love and desire. There is no care-taking or needing or responsibility in desire. To cultivate desire, it is about creating a want. Continue to grow and create yourself so you are an unfolding mystery to your partner. Try to look at your partner with new eyes, maybe how others see them. See them from a comfortable distance; see them when they are doing what they love most - in their flow - confident and expressive. Spend enough time apart so you can enjoy reuniting. Be imaginative - have fun, do new things, surprise each other. Use your imagination....discover and explore something new with your partner today!
x
Much love. Sarah

#marriagetherapistcentralcoast
#couplecounsellingcentralcoast
#relationshipgoals
#healthyrelationships
#holisticcoaching
#marriagetherapycentralcoast
#grief
#livingwithgrief
#emotionalresilience
#emotionalwellbeing
#nlpcoachingcentralcoast
#lifecoachingcentralcoast
#lovecoachingcentralcoast
#hypnotherapycentralcoast


Keeping the passion alive in a marriage is about cultivating DESIRE. The nature of love in marriage is about caring, belonging, family, security and commitment; it is all about what we KNOW and already HAVE. The nature of desire however is about wanting something new, the novelty, the mystery, the excitement, even the naughty. It is all about what we DON'T KNOW and WANT. This is the paradox between love and desire. There is no care-taking or needing or responsibility in desire. To cultivate desire, it is about creating a want. Continue to grow and create yourself so you are an unfolding mystery to your partner. Try to look at your partner with new eyes, maybe how others see them. See them from a comfortable distance; see them when they are doing what they love most - in their flow - confident and expressive. Spend enough time apart so you can enjoy reuniting. Be imaginative - have fun, do new things, surprise each other. Use your imagination....discover and explore something new with your partner today!
x
Much love. Sarah














Keeping the passion alive in a marriage is about cultivating DESIRE. The nature of love in marriage is about caring, belonging, family, security and commitment; it is all about what we KNOW and already HAVE. The nature of desire however is about wanting something new, the novelty, the mystery, the excitement, even the naughty. It is all about what we DON'T KNOW and WANT. This is the paradox between love and desire. There is no care-taking or needing or responsibility in desire. To cultivate desire, it is about creating a want. Continue to grow and create yourself so you are an unfolding mystery to your partner. Try to look at your partner with new eyes, maybe how others see them. See them from a comfortable distance; see them when they are doing what they love most - in their flow - confident and expressive. Spend enough time apart so you can enjoy reuniting. Be imaginative - have fun, do new things, surprise each other. Use your imagination....discover and explore something new with your partner today! x Much love. Sarah #marriagetherapistcentralcoast #couplecounsellingcentralcoast #relationshipgoals #healthyrelationships #holisticcoaching #marriagetherapycentralcoast #grief #livingwithgrief #emotionalresilience #emotionalwellbeing #nlpcoachingcentralcoast #lifecoachingcentralcoast #lovecoachingcentralcoast #hypnotherapycentralcoast

The Three Keys to Passion 23/09/2022

The Three Keys to Passion

Even the best of couples can wax and wane over lifetime loving. It takes efforting to maintain the passion. Here's a good reminder on some of the key inngredients - Thrill + Intimacy + Sensuality
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Sarah Tolmie

The Three Keys to Passion Dr. Cheryl Fraser shares how to balance your "passion triangle" to foster thrill, intimacy, and sensuality.

It's when things feel their most "crunchiest" and most uncomfortable that you know you are in the midst of essential transformation. It is that tipping point of change, the point of no return, the moment before the leap over the abyss. You are not in the wrong place, you are absolutely in the right place. Trust it is all unfolding as it should, as long as you remain present and open and in the flow. There is always light ahead. 
x
Much love. Sarah

#marriagetherapistcentralcoast
#couplecounsellingcentralcoast
#relationshipgoals
#healthyrelationships
#holisticcoaching
#marriagetherapycentralcoast
#grief
#livingwithgrief
#emotionalresilience
#emotionalwellbeing
#nlpcoachingcentralcoast
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#hypnotherapycentralcoast 20/09/2022

It's when things feel their most "crunchiest" and most uncomfortable that you know you are in the midst of essential transformation. It is that tipping point of change, the point of no return, the moment before the leap over the abyss. You are not in the wrong place, you are absolutely in the right place. Trust it is all unfolding as it should, as long as you remain present and open and in the flow. There is always light ahead.
x
Much love. Sarah

#marriagetherapistcentralcoast
#couplecounsellingcentralcoast
#relationshipgoals
#healthyrelationships
#holisticcoaching
#marriagetherapycentralcoast
#grief
#livingwithgrief
#emotionalresilience
#emotionalwellbeing
#nlpcoachingcentralcoast
#lifecoachingcentralcoast
#lovecoachingcentralcoast
#hypnotherapycentralcoast


It's when things feel their most "crunchiest" and most uncomfortable that you know you are in the midst of essential transformation. It is that tipping point of change, the point of no return, the moment before the leap over the abyss. You are not in the wrong place, you are absolutely in the right place. Trust it is all unfolding as it should, as long as you remain present and open and in the flow. There is always light ahead.
x
Much love. Sarah














It's when things feel their most "crunchiest" and most uncomfortable that you know you are in the midst of essential transformation. It is that tipping point of change, the point of no return, the moment before the leap over the abyss. You are not in the wrong place, you are absolutely in the right place. Trust it is all unfolding as it should, as long as you remain present and open and in the flow. There is always light ahead. x Much love. Sarah #marriagetherapistcentralcoast #couplecounsellingcentralcoast #relationshipgoals #healthyrelationships #holisticcoaching #marriagetherapycentralcoast #grief #livingwithgrief #emotionalresilience #emotionalwellbeing #nlpcoachingcentralcoast #lifecoachingcentralcoast #lovecoachingcentralcoast #hypnotherapycentralcoast

We all know people who just can’t apologize — well, here’s why 13/09/2022

We all know people who just can’t apologize — well, here’s why

An Apology…it’s such an important part of healthy relationships - the repair skills are so important 🙏💓

We all know people who just can’t apologize — well, here’s why Non-apologizers are maddening to be around, especially when they’re clearly in the wrong. Here’s what drives their unrepentant ways and what you can do, from psychologist Guy Winch.

5 Traits of a Good Relationship. | elephant journal 30/08/2022

5 Traits of a Good Relationship. | elephant journal

A nice/different perspective on relationship well-being. 💓

5 Traits of a Good Relationship. | elephant journal Once we really check into what it takes to be happy with ourselves, we can really illuminate that light in our relationships too. Personally, I used to have a high ideal as to what it took for me to b...

The 3 core skills that every person needs for healthy romantic relationships 27/08/2022

The 3 core skills that every person needs for healthy romantic relationships

Relationship competency takes love + skills xx Sarah Tolmie

The 3 core skills that every person needs for healthy romantic relationships It’s never too late — or too early — to learn the abilities that make up romantic competence: insight, mutuality and emotional regulation. And when you possess these skills, all of the …

21/08/2022

I don't believe in love at first sight.
I believe in love at first debate,
first argument,
first inside joke,
first genuine laughter after a lifetime of sadness.

I believe in love at first heartfelt conversation,
first completely comfortable un-awkward silence.
I believe in love at first support through hardships,
first shared pain and first divided joy.

I don't believe in falling in love with a face.
I believe in falling in love with a mind and a soul.

- Maryame Sabry Zakhary

Image: Unknown

19/08/2022

"Fuzzy bidding" is when we dance around an issue instead of being clear about our desires. This makes sense — asking for connection can make us feel vulnerable. It can feel like our hearts and egos are on the line.

Think about how you ask your partner for their attention more directly. Instead of hinting that you're cold when you really want to cuddle, try saying "I miss your warm touch and would love to snuggle."

How do you communicate your needs?

12/08/2022

Gosh, such beauiful wise and encouraging words on lifetime, longtime loving one person. Thanks to my sis, Jane, for sharing. Worth a read and a contemplate xx Sarah Tolmie

Joni Mitchell on monogamy - wise words.

“I don’t know if I’ve learned anything yet! I did learn how to have a happy home, but I consider myself fortunate in that regard because I could’ve rolled right by it. Everybody has a superficial side and a deep side, but this culture doesn’t place much value on depth — we don’t have shamans or soothsayers, and depth isn’t encouraged or understood. Surrounded by this shallow, glossy society we develop a shallow side, too, and we become attracted to fluff. That’s reflected in the fact that this culture sets up an addiction to romance based on insecurity — the uncertainty of whether or not you’re truly united with the object of your obsession is the rush people get hooked on. I’ve seen this pattern so much in myself and my friends and some people never get off that line.

“But along with developing my superficial side, I always nurtured a deeper longing, so even when I was falling into the trap of that other kind of love, I was hip to what I was doing. I recently read an article in Esquire magazine called ‘The End of Sex,’ that said something that struck me as very true. It said: “If you want endless repetition, see a lot of different people. If you want infinite variety, stay with one.” What happens when you date is you run all your best moves and tell all your best stories — and in a way, that routine is a method for falling in love with yourself over and over.

“You can’t do that with a longtime mate because he knows all that old material. With a long relationship, things die then are rekindled, and that shared process of rebirth deepens the love. It’s hard work, though, and a lot of people run at the first sign of trouble. You’re with this person, and suddenly you look like an as***le to them or they look like an as***le to you — it’s unpleasant, but if you can get through it you get closer and you learn a way of loving that’s different from the neurotic love enshrined in movies. It’s warmer and has more padding to it.”

~ Joni Mitchell

photo by Annie Leibovitz

original post credit: Beth Spindler

05/08/2022

Nurturing a culture of appreciation with your loved one helps you weather storms as a team and enjoy your quality time together. What are your favorite ways to share appreciation in your relationship?

I am a believer in love. I am a believer in marriage. I am a believer in romance. Love never goes out of fashion. Never loses it's wonder. It is always fabulous, enlivening, enriching and wondrous. You are never too young or too old. It is never too late or too soon to say I love you. Go forth and celebrate love in all the ways it is present in your life. 
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Much love. Sarah
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#couplecounsellingcentralcoast
#relationshipgoals
#healthyrelationships
#holisticcoaching
#marriagetherapycentralcoast
#grief
#livingwithgrief
#emotionalresilience
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#lifecoachingcentralcoast
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#hypnotherapycentralcoast 31/07/2022

I am a believer in love. I am a believer in marriage. I am a believer in romance. Love never goes out of fashion. Never loses it's wonder. It is always fabulous, enlivening, enriching and wondrous. You are never too young or too old. It is never too late or too soon to say I love you. Go forth and celebrate love in all the ways it is present in your life.
x
Much love. Sarah
#marriagetherapistcentralcoast
#couplecounsellingcentralcoast
#relationshipgoals
#healthyrelationships
#holisticcoaching
#marriagetherapycentralcoast
#grief
#livingwithgrief
#emotionalresilience
#emotionalwellbeing
#nlpcoachingcentralcoast
#lifecoachingcentralcoast
#lovecoachingcentralcoast
#hypnotherapycentralcoast


I am a believer in love. I am a believer in marriage. I am a believer in romance. Love never goes out of fashion. Never loses it's wonder. It is always fabulous, enlivening, enriching and wondrous. You are never too young or too old. It is never too late or too soon to say I love you. Go forth and celebrate love in all the ways it is present in your life.
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Much love. Sarah














I am a believer in love. I am a believer in marriage. I am a believer in romance. Love never goes out of fashion. Never loses it's wonder. It is always fabulous, enlivening, enriching and wondrous. You are never too young or too old. It is never too late or too soon to say I love you. Go forth and celebrate love in all the ways it is present in your life. x Much love. Sarah #marriagetherapistcentralcoast #couplecounsellingcentralcoast #relationshipgoals #healthyrelationships #holisticcoaching #marriagetherapycentralcoast #grief #livingwithgrief #emotionalresilience #emotionalwellbeing #nlpcoachingcentralcoast #lifecoachingcentralcoast #lovecoachingcentralcoast #hypnotherapycentralcoast

I'm not so keen on goals for "self-improvement", I think it is more empowering, effective and true to be aligned to go for "self-acceptance". The more we can accept and love ourselves, the more empowered we can be to acknowledge our gifts, share our gifts, value our gifts and expand our gifts. Name 5 wonderful things about yourself you can love and accept today? 
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Much love, Sarah

#marriagetherapistcentralcoast
#couplecounsellingcentralcoast
#relationshipgoals
#healthyrelationships
#holisticcoaching
#marriagetherapycentralcoast
#grief
#livingwithgrief
#emotionalresilience
#emotionalwellbeing
#nlpcoachingcentralcoast
#lifecoachingcentralcoast
#lovecoachingcentralcoast
#hypnotherapycentralcoast 29/07/2022

I'm not so keen on goals for "self-improvement", I think it is more empowering, effective and true to be aligned to go for "self-acceptance". The more we can accept and love ourselves, the more empowered we can be to acknowledge our gifts, share our gifts, value our gifts and expand our gifts. Name 5 wonderful things about yourself you can love and accept today?
x
Much love, Sarah

#marriagetherapistcentralcoast
#couplecounsellingcentralcoast
#relationshipgoals
#healthyrelationships
#holisticcoaching
#marriagetherapycentralcoast
#grief
#livingwithgrief
#emotionalresilience
#emotionalwellbeing
#nlpcoachingcentralcoast
#lifecoachingcentralcoast
#lovecoachingcentralcoast
#hypnotherapycentralcoast


I'm not so keen on goals for "self-improvement", I think it is more empowering, effective and true to be aligned to go for "self-acceptance". The more we can accept and love ourselves, the more empowered we can be to acknowledge our gifts, share our gifts, value our gifts and expand our gifts. Name 5 wonderful things about yourself you can love and accept today?
x
Much love, Sarah














I'm not so keen on goals for "self-improvement", I think it is more empowering, effective and true to be aligned to go for "self-acceptance". The more we can accept and love ourselves, the more empowered we can be to acknowledge our gifts, share our gifts, value our gifts and expand our gifts. Name 5 wonderful things about yourself you can love and accept today? x Much love, Sarah #marriagetherapistcentralcoast #couplecounsellingcentralcoast #relationshipgoals #healthyrelationships #holisticcoaching #marriagetherapycentralcoast #grief #livingwithgrief #emotionalresilience #emotionalwellbeing #nlpcoachingcentralcoast #lifecoachingcentralcoast #lovecoachingcentralcoast #hypnotherapycentralcoast

Shifting your relationship from 'me' to 'we' 26/07/2022

Shifting your relationship from 'me' to 'we'

This is such a great article - I love Terry Real - and incorporate his relational therapy approach in my practice. Healthy relationship takes a specific relational mindset. I love his term 'compassionate curiosity' and in my practice I help my couples explore his invitation into 'fierce intimacy' as alternative to 'fighting'. Check this short article out...it has some good 'gold nuggets' to take away ##

https://edition.cnn.com/2022/07/24/health/terrence-real-relationship-needs-wellness/index.html?fbclid=IwAR1vWcSxLwg_pjgLGzGW79-9PAEDT99xNFpJmNJb8SwdI65YnowlTDXZwkU

Shifting your relationship from 'me' to 'we' In Terrence Real's new book, the renowned marriage and family therapist argues that our society's extreme focus on individualism comes with a cost: extreme disconnection from one another in our interpersonal relationships.

Creating and Sustaining a Culture of Appreciation in Difficult Times 12/07/2022

Creating and Sustaining a Culture of Appreciation in Difficult Times

A good article from my Gottman tribe on - BUILDING A CULTURE OF APPRECIATION - The antidote to contempt toward your partner is to build a culture of appreciation. This helps you create a positive perspective.
x
Sarah Tolmie

Creating and Sustaining a Culture of Appreciation in Difficult Times Life stressors can challenge your marriage. Learn how building a culture of appreciation can help you weather any storm.

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Sarah brings magic, miracles and meaning to all things Life & Love - as an Holistic Celebrant, Marriage Therapist, Life & Love Coach, End-of-Life Consultant & Bespoke Funeral Director.

Sarah assists individuals, couples and families to celebrate, navigate, learn, heal and grow through all the couplings, challenges, joys, changes, crises and losses.

“It is a privilege to accompany my families and support them through the rites of passage of Life & Love’s journey”, Sarah xx

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