Aspire Hypnotherapy Brisbane

20/10/2021

Nothing changes in your life until you are prepared to stop putting up with the things that you put up with, and that includes your own bu****it.

Many people want change in their relationships and change in their lives. But many of those people blame other people for their own choices and the circumstances of their relationships.

Change is only possible when an individual takes responsibility for their own results.

This is particularly true of peoples results in their relationships. They blame their partner whilst they don't look at their part in the dynamic that the 2 people are co creating.

That doesn't work.

If you want change you have to get off your own hamster wheel and start with a healthy dose of self responsibility.

Michael Brook

31/01/2021

How do you know when to eat?

When I see clients who have issues with weight one of the first questions I always ask is, How do you know when to eat?

Most clients are puzzled by this question but it quickly goes to the core of why they might be overweight.

One client responded after being asked this question, with 10 things and none of them were hunger.

They said, they ate when they were happy to celebrate, when they were sad to feel better, when they were bored, when they were tired, when they need a pick me up, when it was time to eat at different times of the day.... They listed of 10 things none of which was.. when I'm hungry.

This isn't an uncommon experience for people who are overweight. They eat for emotional reasons not because they are listening to their bodies and they are hungry.

If you are struggling with weight, ask yourself the question? how do you know when to eat? If it isn't because you are hungry, maybe you are eating for the wrong reasons.

If that's you, hypnosis can help change your eating habits and the weight will fall away.

Michael Brook

26/10/2019

It's OK to give yourself a break.

In life we have to deal with a continuous series of challenges to our state of mind and mental health.

It doesn't matter if you are rich or poor, tall or short, male or female. Things are changing all the time.

We can lose a relationship or a job. We can get sick or family member of ours can get sick.We can lose money or make a lot of money.

There is a never ending variation to the challenges that you may experience.

So if you have come through a tough challenge, sometimes it's an awesome idea to give yourself a break. Take it easy for a while. Let your body rest and recuperate. (it really likes it).

And after that begin again, focus on what you want. Attend the the good things in life, make plans and go for them, test yourself outside of your comfort zone (you might find you are capable of far more than you think you are) and move forward.

Michael Brook
Hypnotherapist.

04/08/2019

We develop resilience by stepping outside of our comfort zones.

Life has many ups and downs and in the end it's fatal. No one gets out alive.

It's natural for people to seek comfort in the face of adversity and suffering and no one wants to be uncomfortable all the time.

It's a mistake to live a life of permanent discomfort.
Alternatively it's also a mistake to live a life of permanent comfort.

Comfort robs you of the capacity to respond to adversity and to the negative in life.

By periodically stepping outside of your comfort zone you learn a number of things.
Firstly how good comfort is.
Secondly, you know how to deal with difficulty and how your deep capacity to handle discomfort is.
Finally, you know that you can deal with a lot more than you normally have to.

So, get a little uncomfortable sometimes. It's worth it.

Michael Brook
Master Hypnotist
Aspire Hypnotherapy
0432681321

29/07/2019

When you want to give up, hold on to your self.

Life can be difficult with many challenges. It can be amazing and beautiful as well but at times it can suck.

You can lose your job, lose a family member to illness, lose a relationship, lose a marriage, lose a pet, lose a house, have health issues yourself.

At times you can find yourself living a life that you don't want to through no fault of your own.

When any of these things happen, it can be tempting to give up. To throw in the towel and lose your s**t. That may be fully appropriate for a while. But, when you feel like that, it's important to no give up on your self.

Only you can make improvements in your life.
Only you can get of the couch and go for a walk for yourself.
Only you can put yourself out there into the dating world to find a new partner.
Only you can start looking for a new job.

Only you can take action for yourself.

So, when things seem difficult, hold on to your self. Begin taking action even if it's just a small bit of action.

And you'll find that small changes made consistently make a massive difference over time.

Michael Brook
Aspire Hypnotherapy
0432681321

28/02/2019

What defines our lives isn't what happens to us.. it's how we respond to those things.

Bad s**t happens to good people... many times you may be doing the right thing, the best thing for everyone involved and you end up getting hammered but something bad that happens.

It happens to everyone.

The question is, how will you respond.

Will you wallow in feelings of victimhood?

Will you stay stuck in the same negative emotions over and over?

Will you choose to let the past be past and focus on what you want?

Will you decide that you will prevail and will persevere no matter what life throws at you?

The choice is yours.

That choice will define your life.

Michael Brook
Master Hypnotist

15/02/2019

Are you conditioning your mind to get you what you want?
If you aren't you are conditioning to get you what you don't want.

The unconscious mind is supremely impressed by repetition. What you consciously think about is what it tends to give you or will try and give you more of it.

So, if you keep thinking about what you are getting if you aren't getting what you want or if you keep thinking about why you can't get what you want... then your unconscious mind will give you more of it.

If you think about what you really do want and think about how to get it, your unconscious mind will find creative way for you to get that...

The more you do it, the more impressed your unconscious mind is and the harder it will try to get that happening...

If you aren't conditioning you mind for getting you want you are conditioning your mind for giving you what you don't want...

Choose wisely.

Michael Brook
Master Hypnotist.

19/01/2019

Avoidance is not an effective problem solving strategy. Staying frozen in the face of divorce is the path to destruction.

Divorce is highly traumatic. It's the rapid traumatic destruction of large parts of their mental architecture. It's profoundly emotionally and physically painful.

When people are experiencing a high level of emotional stress and pain often the fight or flight or freeze responses kick.

Some men can remain frozen in place in the face of divorce, and some men are so traumatized that they attempt to give in to their ex wifes demand for YEARS without moving themselves forward.

They avoid the problem of leading and creating a new life but giving in and trying to avoid the inevitable.

Avoidance is not an effective problem solving strategy. IF the problem is really big the best way of deal with it is meeting it head on and start working the problem.

Action creates movement, movement create momentum and momentum creates change. Avoidance creates nothing good.

Michael Brook
Warrior Hypnotist.

10/01/2019

It hurts when the disney dream dies...

How many times did you hear when you were growing up the term "happily ever after"?

All the kids stories we were told as kids almost always end in the term happily ever after?

As teenagers and adults we want to get into a relationship with someone who will love us for ever and we can have the happily ever after from the story books..

We want someone who will love us and promise us that they we stay with us and live out the disney dream and then they don't.

It hurts a lot.. and while as men we don't like to admit it, we buy into the happily ever after as kids and keep dreaming about it.

Talk to a few men who have gotten divorced and one of the common themes is the death of the happily ever after is very traumatic for them.

The trouble with some dreams is that when you look at them though the lense of adult reality they are just that dreams.

So, instead of grieving about a dream, it's helpful. to see relationships as they can be. They can be forever. but most of the time they aren't. Most of the time on or other person decides they want something different.

IF you are going through a divorce or separation and need assistance dealing with the emotions around it call me on 0432681321 and arrange your free 15 minutes phone consult.

Michael Brook
Warrior Hypnotist.

05/01/2019

When people get divorced, people fight, but often for the wrong thing.

When people get divorced they fight each other, they fight the situation and sometimes, the will fight for what was.

This is often a mistake, simply because, if what was was so awesome the person instigating the divorce and relationship breakdown, wouldn't be want to leave.

It's a really hard thing to learn to let go. It's a really hard thing to stop trying to build something that you have been building for a long time.

But it's a necessary step in rebuilding yourself and your life to stop fight for something that was.

A man will begin to make great strides in his life when he decides to start fight for what could be rather than fighting for what was.

When a man get's really focussed on what he wants in the future rather than what has happened in the past, he makes great strides forward.

Michael Brook
Warrior Hypnotist.

04/01/2019

How long is long enough to have a problem for?

The new year is a time where people reflect on what is going on in their lives and what they are doing.

They will look at their health and wealth and relationships and decide whether or not to make changes.

But it's the same time of year as the lethargy of the holiday season is in full swing either.

It's a stunning fact that no more than 2% of New Years Resolutions make it to the end of January. Most people fall into their old familiar habits and don't make the changes to their lives that they desire.

So the question needs to be asked. If now isn't a good time to make changes, WHEN?

How long is long enough to have a problem for?

If you really want change in the new year, call us on 0432 681 321 for your free 15 minute phone consult and we talk about how we can assist you in moving towards you goals.

Michael Brook
Master Hypnotist.

28/12/2018

New years resolutions don't work.

Success focused habits do.

It's coming up to the new year and it's getting for people to reevaluate what is going on with their lives and what they want to change.

They make new years resolutions about what changes they want to make and consider what they want in their.

There will be newspaper articles and TV spots about it.

But all of that will be useless bu****it because on 2% of new years resolutions make it into February.

The vast majority of peoples new years resolutions die a rapid death because it's their habits that matter.

Habits build results. Habits build a life you want to live.

so, if you want a change to happen in your life, change your habits.

You don't get s**t done in your life by making resolutions, you get it by being resolute in the pursuit of the life you want to lead through your habits.

If have an issue with being resolute, call us and book in a coaching session and get the habits that get results.

Michael Brook
Master Hypnotist.

27/12/2018

Call us to assist you in planning your new year

Are you waiting to be saved? By a person? By money? By circumstance?

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🚹 Catherine Lyell
Mens Health & P**n Addiction Specialist
www.integratedmenshealth.com.au

19/12/2018

If you feel like you've lost everything, focus on what you have gained.

Often in a divorce people can feel like they have lost everything. Their finances, their marriage, their dreams... all gone, and much of this is true.

But part of the recovery and rebuilding process is focusing on what you have now.

So what do you have when.. you have to start again...

Freedom.. the freedom to start a new life...

The freedom to start a new relationship with a different partner with different ground rules.

The freedom to change where you live...

The freedom to go for goals that you want to go for without the disapproval of your ex.

So, You actually gain many things in a divorce.

When you can start seeing that then you can start moving forward...yes it's going to suck, and yes it will hurt... but you can move forward.

Michael Brook
Warrior Hypnotist.

08/12/2018

In the darkest moments, find something to look forward to.

When someone is going through a divorce, everything can look dark.

The intensity of the change to your life is gut wrenching.

When it feels like everything has been taken away and your life is filled with pain, it's really important to have something to look forward to.

It could be something at work or it could be a health goal or it could be a finanical goal... whatever it is, it's important to have something to look forward to.

When you are looking forward to something, you can endure the pain just a little bit easier and you can have something that will allow a human being to endure anything... HOPE.

With hope you can get through anything and know that life goes on.

From one ending comes a new beginning. A relationship breakdown may give want to change that can bring in changes that you may have desired for a long time.

It can all start with just focusing on one thing to look foward to.

Michael Brook
Warrior Hypnotist.

13/11/2018

Are you bringing your best to your relationship?

Maybe the problems with your relationship are caused by the person who you look at in the mirror.

Often in relationships we struggle with what is going on. We try and understand our partners and often we pick fault with our partners.

They aren't doing this.. they promised they'd do blah... they aren't doing blah... and all of this may be true.

But, for a relationship to work both people have to be putting in their best.

At the beginning a relationship that is what EVERYONE does. They show up with the best of themselves to they can be the most attractive to their new relationship prospect. BUT... and this is a big BUT... how many people do that 4 or 5 years down the track?

It's easy to blame your partner for your dissatisfaction... but ask yourself the question... if you brought the best of yourself... would you have the relationship problems you are having?

If you aren't bringing your best self to the relationship what changes do you need to make for this to happen?

The necessary ingredients for any long term relationship success is to bring the best of yourself to your relationship and to ask your partner to do the same.. If you can both do that... you have the best chance of success...

For more information call me on 0432 681 321..

Michael Brook
Coach.

12/11/2018

Emotions need acknowledgement... make sure you are doing it.

I've recently completed a mediation course which was very interesting indeed. Purposely stepping into a conflict between two people with the intention of facilitating a solution to the conflict might no be for everyone. Particularly people who are conflict averse.

I got a lot out of the course and talking to the mediators it was very apparent from the instructors who had over 20 years each in mediating conflicts that what people want the most in a conflict is an acknowledgement of their emotions.

Whether it's pain or anger or rejection or betrayal... people in conflict need to know that their emotions have been acknowledged and understood. This needs to occur FIRST... before a solution is worked on.

Men in relationships will practically always jump to solution. They can see the solution so what is problem with ignoring the emotions. This infuriates women and they feel devalues and misunderstood.

So men, If you are in a conflict listen to her emotions... ask her what she is feeling, let her know you understand what she is feeling and that you acknowledge whatever it is that she is experiencing. Then and ONLY then.. go to the solution...

Conflicts can frequently be let go of really quickly when the emotions are acknowledged. if they aren't, then they tend to be held only and then fester and then come out in unhelpful ways.

If you need help with conflict in your relationship let me know and call me on 0432681321.

Michael Brook
Master Hypnotist

04/11/2018

In conflict between 2 people, the fastest way to diffuse the conflict is by acknowledging the emotions of the other.