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02/07/2025

Here is the recap for step five - on becoming more ta***ic in life. This is only the end of the introduction.

The spiral completes its first turn—Step Five: Integrate the Body.
This is where Ta**ra becomes not just a practice, but a lived embodiment.

You’ve cultivated presence.
You’ve awakened breath.
You’ve honoured emotion.
You’ve tasted polarity.

Now, we bring it into the flesh. Into the bones. Into the sacred temple of you.

🕯 Ta**ra Step Five: Integrate the Body
Ta**ra isn’t something you think about.
It’s something you live through the body.
This step is about rewiring your relationship with sensation, touch, and physical awareness.
Not just in sex—but in everything.

🍯 What This Means:
• Can you feel the wind on your skin—and stay with it?
• Can you be touched—without numbing, controlling, or escaping?
• Can you allow pleasure, discomfort, and aliveness to co-exist in your body?
To integrate is to live in your body as your first truth.

💡 Your Practice Today:
1. Choose a body-based experience:
o Self-massage
o Slow movement
o Dancing
o Sensual touch
o Taking a bath

2. During the experience, keep your attention in your body.
o Don’t rush.
o Feel each texture, temperature, sound.
o Notice any numbness or resistance.
o Stay. Breathe. Receive.

This is not performance. It’s reunion.

🌶️ Bonus Invitation (for advanced exploration):
Pleasure is a gateway, not a reward.
Can you feel pleasure without needing to climax or escape it?

Just stay. Just feel. That’s where energy moves.

🧠 Why It’s Ta***ic:
The body is where the divine meets the material.
It holds your trauma, your ecstasy, your shame, your truth.

When you fully inhabit your body, you reclaim your power.
Ta**ra doesn’t bypass the body—it worships it.

If you have any questions or want to start your ta***ic journey, click on the link below and we can have a 30-minute free conversation.

Here's to you remembering who you are!!

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29/06/2025

The spiral completes its first turn—Step Five: Integrate the Body.

This is where Ta**ra becomes not just a practice, but a lived embodiment.

You’ve cultivated presence.

You’ve awakened breath.

You’ve honoured emotion.

You’ve tasted polarity.

Now, we bring it into the flesh. Into the bones. Into the sacred temple of you.

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24/06/2025

Before I drop the next step in how to become more ta***ic in your life, I must talk about Kali. In ta**ra, we work with the energies of Shiva (divine masculine), Shakti (sacred feminine) and then there’s Kali – misunderstood, terrifying, but desperately need to bring balance into the chaos of life. Kali has been suppressed because we don’t understand her power, we are hesitant to release her and integrate her. But I adore Kali.

Who is Kali?

Whereas Shakti is the primordial feminine force – creative, sustaining, nourishing, ecstatic. She is the life force itself. She births gods, galaxies, poems, or***ms, dreams.
Kali is that same force when it becomes UNCONTAINED – read that again – Kali cannot be contained. She is wild and the masculine doesn’t know what to do with that uncontained wildness.
Kali chooses truth over comfort, death over stagnation, destruction over illusion.

Speaking about Kali lights me up from the inside out, and I want more people to get to know her, welcome her, integrate her.
When Shakti creates the world, Kali unmasks it.
Kali shows up when your loved ones are being hurt and devours the forces that come against the ones she loves.

🔪 "To truly embody Shakti, you must know Kali."
Shakti is often described in glowing terms—radiant, creative, nurturing. She’s the divine feminine, the great mother, the source of all.

But most people want only the soft part of her. The light, the love, the affirmation. That’s not Shakti. That’s a half-truth.
Kali is Shakti when the truth gets dangerous.

She is Shakti without makeup.
She is the power behind creation when it’s no longer concerned with being liked.
To truly embody Shakti is not to cosplay a goddess. It’s to live her. And you cannot live her without making peace with her fiercest form.

The spiritual world is full of people performing enlightenment.
Smiling through their trauma.
Bypassing grief with affirmations.
Using words like “love” and “light” to cover up avoidance, control, and fear.

That’s a costume—a spiritual persona.
A role worn to stay safe.
That’s not embodiment. That’s denial with incense.
Kali’s fire is the fire of ego death.

Until you’ve had the courage to go within and face and integrate your shadow, Kali says—you don’t know your real self. You only know your survival mask.

Kali is authentic power. She doesn’t need to be loud, she creates and destroys without apology, she doesn’t perform divinity, she walks it.

Why is Kali needed now more than ever?

Kali is vital now because the world is collapsing under the weight of its own lies—systems, identities, and illusions built on fear and control. She isn’t here to comfort; she’s here to cut through the bu****it, to end what’s already dead, and to awaken our raw, uncompromised power. In an age of spiritual bypassing and performative peace, Kali gives us permission to rage, to grieve, to end cycles without apology. She doesn’t just destroy—she liberates. And if we want to survive with our souls intact, we must embody her fierce clarity and walk unflinching into the fire.
Now more than ever, we need the sacred feminine to rise to heal our world. We need Kali to cut through the oppression and heal our world. We need Kali to fight against this darkness that has engulfed our world. We Need Kali!

Kali is fierce. Kali is unstoppable. Kali is you!

I love Kali, and I love when she appears!

21/06/2025

Recapping from yesterday - Honoring Polarity (the dance between the sacred masculine and divine feminine)

This is where energy begins to spark, where magnetism arises. Ta**ra is not just about stillness—it is about the divine dance of opposites, between masculine and feminine.

⚡ Ta**ra Step Four: Honor Polarity
In Ta**ra, all of life moves in pulsing opposites:
• Masculine and Feminine
• Sun and Moon
• Stillness and Motion
• Pe*******on and Surrender
• Consciousness and Energy
Rather than collapsing these into sameness, Ta**ra celebrates their tension. This tension creates attraction, transformation, and ecstasy.

🌓 What Is Polarity?
Polarity is not gender.
It’s an energetic dance between two forces:
• The Masculine holds presence, stillness, direction.
• The Feminine flows, expresses, creates.
Each person contains both.
Each moment offers both.
Ta**ra teaches us to honour the pull between them—and use it as fuel.

🔥 Your Practice Today:
1. Notice where polarity is alive in your life:
o Are you always holding space? Or always surrendering?
o Are you over-planning or endlessly flowing?
2. Invite the opposite.
o If you're too structured → dance.
o If you're ungrounded → sit still and breathe deep.
3. In relationship:
o Can you feel when one leads, and one follows?
o Can you choose polarity consciously instead of defaulting?

🧠 Why It’s Ta***ic:
Polarity is what charges the sacred circuit between lovers, between you and the world.

It creates depth, tension, and dynamic energy.
Without it, connection goes flat.
With it, every exchange becomes electric.

Without doubt, this is by far the session I enjoy the most with couples, guiding them into this sacred dance between the sacred masculine and divine feminine.

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20/06/2025

Today we move into Step four on how to be more ta***ic in your life - the principle of polarity - the dance of opposites, between sacred masculine and divine feminine.

This will all lead us to the last step of integrating our s*exual energy for creation and pleasure,

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19/06/2025

Let's recap from yesterday's step three.

This step is one of the hardest as it reveals the truth, about you, about what you are not willing to see. But it is a vital step.

FEEL.

🖤 Ta**ra Step Three: Feel Without Judgment

Presence opened the door.
Breath deepened your awareness.
Now you stand before the storm: Feeling.

⚡ What This Means:
In Ta**ra, we don’t numb, bypass, or fix feelings.
We feel them fully—without labelling them as good or bad.
• Anger? Sacred fire.
• Sadness? Sacred rain.
• Desire? Sacred hunger.
• Fear? Sacred protector.

Every emotion is energy—shakti—trying to move through you.

💡 Your Practice:
1. When you feel an emotion rising…
2. Don’t name it. Don’t judge it. Don’t try to change it.
3. Feel where it lives in your body.
4. Breathe into that space.
5. Let it move. Let it speak.

You are not your feeling.

You are the witness and the vessel.

🌀 Why It’s Ta***ic:

Ta**ra teaches: “What you resist, persists. What you feel, heals.”

Every avoided feeling blocks energy.
Every honoured feeling awakens power.
To feel is to reclaim lost parts of yourself.

To escape the illusion, go within, not outwards.

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18/06/2025

Step three - FEEL

Feel without judgement

All is sacred

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17/06/2025

🌬️ Ta**ra Step Two: Breathe with Awareness

In Ta**ra, breath is the key to everything.
• Want to feel more?
• Want to stay present longer?
• Want to circulate sexual energy or deepen connection?

Start with your breath.
💡 Why Breath?

Your breath tells the truth of your nervous system.
Fast = fear, escape.
Shallow = hiding.
Held = control or trauma.
Open, slow, deep = trust, surrender, presence.

🔥 Your Practice:
Wherever you are—pause.
1. Inhale slowly through your nose.
2. Feel your belly rise.
3. Exhale gently through your mouth.
4. Feel your belly fall.
5. Repeat for 1 minute.
Don't force. Just notice.
• Is your breath shallow?
• Are you holding it?
• Can you breathe into your belly, chest, even your pelvis?
The goal isn't to "breathe right."
The goal is to notice what’s happening—then stay present with it.
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🌀 Why It’s Ta***ic:

In Ta**ra, breath is used to:
• Move energy up and down the spine
• Melt tension
• Expand or****ic energy
• Unite the body and spirit
But before you can do any of that—you must first become aware of it.

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12/06/2025

TA**RA IS NOT P**N!

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve explained this to others who asked if Ta**ra is P**n, then gave me that look!

Let me make it simple – Ta**ra is about being fully present in your body, your breath, and your experiences. It’s a way of living where you slow down, tune in, and connect more deeply—with yourself, with others, and with life.

Ta**ra is an ancient spiritual path, and it's all about using everything—even things most religions avoid, like s*x or desire—as a doorway to awakening.

I've been practicing and teaching Ta**ra for over a decade now. Through this path, I’ve come to understand something truly profound: we are beautifully multifaceted beings—more than just body, mind, and spirit. Yet, there’s one essential part of ourselves that often gets overlooked, especially as we age—our s*xuality.
Over the years, I’ve worked closely with individuals and couples, guiding them through the gentle and powerful practices of sacred s*xuality.

And time and time again, I hear a common theme: many people, as they reach their golden or twilight years, begin to feel as though that part of their life is over. As if their sensuality, their intimacy, their ability to connect deeply—has somehow expired.
But this couldn’t be further from the truth.

My work is rooted in reminding people—especially those in their 60s and beyond—that your s*xuality is not something that fades away. It transforms, deepens, and becomes even more meaningful. There is immense power, beauty, and healing available when we reconnect with this part of ourselves.

I truly believe that love is the most powerful force in the universe. When we learn to love ourselves fully—body, soul, and yes, even our sensuality—and when we bring that love into a sacred union with another, the energy created is transformative. Not just for the couple, but for the world around them.

Your story isn’t over. In fact, this chapter may be the most profound yet.
Book here for a free 30-minute discovery call.
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10/06/2025

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07/06/2025

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My own journey into self-discovery—through love, loss, healing, and awakening—has taught me that intimacy is more than physical connection. It’s an energetic exchange, a sacred dance that nourishes not only the individuals involved, but also the fabric of the world itself.

When two people come into deeper resonance with each other, that frequency ripples outward. It affects their families, their communities, and ultimately, the collective field.

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There is no need to perform or prove—only a call to presence, and a willingness to explore what’s possible now.

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05/06/2025

Rediscover the Spark!

Is the spark fading a little?

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