Flourish Disability Support

11/02/2025

🌿 Neurodivergent Parents Group – This Sunday! 🌿

Are you a neurodivergent parent looking for a space to connect with others who understand your experiences?

I’m excited to be facilitating the Neurodivergent Parents Group this Sunday, February 16th, alongside my friend Izzy - who is an experienced neurodivergent support worker and mum!

This is a bi-monthly gathering run by the Regional Autistic Engagement Network created for neurodivergent parents and their children to connect, share experiences, and build a supportive community.

🕦 Time: 11:30 AM – 1:00 PM
📍 Location: Botanical Gardens (on the grass near the café)
🧺 BYO Lunch & Safe Snacks
👶 All neurodivergent parents and children welcome!

This is a relaxed, understanding space where we can chat, share insights, and make new connections. If you’re a neurodivergent parent looking for community, we’d love to see you there!

All welcome – spread the word! 💛

📩 Contact: Heidi@raentasmania.com.au

Regional Autistic Engagement Network Flourish Disability Support Australian Neurodivergent Parents Association - ANPA Disability Pride TAS Page

[Image: White flyer with yellow border. Text reads: ‘Neurodivergent Parents Group. For Autistic and neurodivergent parents. A bi-monthly gathering of Autistic and neurodivergent parents and their children to network, share experiences and make friends. Date: Sunday 16 February 2025
Time: 11:30am-1pm
Location: Botanical Gardens
BYO lunch / safe snacks.
Contact: Heidi@raentasmania.com.au In the top right hand corner is the RAEN logo].

08/02/2025

🌻Commonwealth Bank has officially joined the Hidden Disabilities Sunflower program!

CommBank’s customer-facing teams are now trained to support people with non-visible disabilities, making banking easier and more inclusive.

👉 Learn more here: https://shorturl.at/gmG1X

ID: Fiona, a sunflower wearer, smiling with her lanyard.

28/12/2024

Empowerment, Grief, and Self-Discovery: Navigating a Late Diagnosis Journey

A late diagnosis of neurodivergence can be a life-changing revelation, but it can also be a complex and emotional experience. While it opens doors to self-discovery and empowerment, it also brings with it the process of grief. The grief associated with a late diagnosis isn’t about loss in the traditional sense—it’s about mourning the parts of yourself you didn’t understand before and coming to terms with the challenges you’ve faced without the right support. This process is an essential part of embracing who you are and empowering yourself to live authentically.

🌱 Understanding Your Strengths and Needs

For many, a late diagnosis brings clarity to long-standing struggles and patterns. This understanding is an empowering moment, where you begin to recognise your strengths and needs with a new lens. However, alongside this revelation comes grief—the grief of lost opportunities, missed support, and a life lived without the knowledge of how your neurodivergence affected you. You may mourn the years spent feeling misunderstood or the struggles that seemed to have no explanation. Acknowledging these feelings is a critical step in the empowerment process, as it allows you to heal while embracing your strengths.

🔄 The Grief of Unseen Struggles

Grief isn’t just about what was lost—it’s also about the emotional weight of what you’ve carried for so long without understanding. The challenges that come with neurodivergence often go unnoticed by others, and you may have internalised feelings of inadequacy or confusion. Discovering your neurodivergence later in life may bring up emotions of frustration, anger, or sadness—grief for all the moments that could have been different if you’d known sooner. Recognising this grief is empowering because it validates your struggles and allows you to process them, giving you the space to heal and grow from your experiences.

🌸 Taking Ownership of Your Journey

A late diagnosis gives you the power to reframe your story. It’s an opportunity to take ownership of your neurodivergence and shape your life around it. But before you can step into that power, you must move through the grief of what you didn’t know and the life that could have been different with earlier understanding. This grief may involve coming to terms with past mistakes, missed opportunities, or relationships that didn’t work because the dynamics were misunderstood. Accepting this grief helps you to embrace the future with newfound knowledge and a sense of control, empowering you to create a life that aligns with your authentic self.

🌈 Living Authentically

One of the most empowering aspects of a late diagnosis is the ability to live authentically. The process of grief allows you to release the burden of pretending to fit into a world that wasn’t designed for you. The emotional weight of past confusion and self-doubt begins to lift as you accept who you are. However, this is a process—a journey that includes not only self-empowerment but also the necessary grieving of the parts of yourself you couldn’t fully understand until now. Living authentically means embracing both the pain of the past and the promise of the future.

🏆 Resilience in the Face of Grief

Grief can feel like a setback, but it is also an opportunity for growth and resilience. The grief process after a late diagnosis isn’t about staying stuck—it’s about recognising the emotional toll of your experiences and transforming that pain into strength. The resilience you’ve built over the years, often without knowing why you were struggling, becomes the foundation for the future. Moving through grief helps you appreciate your resilience, making you more empowered to face challenges in new, more informed ways.

💪 Empowerment Through Connection

A late diagnosis often leads to the discovery of others who share your experiences. These connections are vital not just for emotional support but for empowerment. When you connect with others who understand the grief and the growth that comes with a late diagnosis, you realise that you’re not alone in this journey. These relationships are a reminder that you can grieve and heal together, finding strength in shared experiences. Support from others who understand both the challenges and the triumphs of living with neurodivergence can be a powerful motivator for personal growth and self-empowerment.

🛠️ Creating Your Own Path

Through a late diagnosis and the accompanying grief, you gain the opportunity to create a life that fits your true self. Empowerment comes from recognising that you have the ability to shape your path, taking the lessons learned from grief and transforming them into a life that aligns with your unique needs and strengths. This might mean adjusting your work, your relationships, or your daily routines to better fit your neurodivergence. The grief process may be challenging, but it’s also the catalyst for change—helping you build a life that allows you to thrive authentically.

💖 The Ongoing Journey of Empowerment and Healing

Empowerment through a late diagnosis is an ongoing process that involves both embracing your neurodivergence and acknowledging the grief that comes with it. It’s a continuous cycle of self-discovery, growth, and healing. By accepting your grief, you can more fully embrace the opportunities for empowerment that come with understanding who you truly are. The journey is not linear, and you may move between moments of grief and moments of empowerment, but each step is an essential part of creating a life that is uniquely yours.

In the end, both grief and empowerment are part of the same process. By recognising the pain of what has been lost and integrating it into your life story, you can create a future where your neurodivergence is not something to hide, but something to embrace and celebrate. Empowerment, after all, comes not just from understanding your strengths, but from honouring the journey—grief and all—that has brought you here.

**This image can be interpreted as a metaphor for the journey of discovering one's neurodivergence later in life. The vibrant and swirling patterns may symbolise the intricate, interconnected, and often misunderstood inner world of neurodivergent individuals. The radiant central light could represent the clarity or "aha moment" that comes with a late diagnosis—an illuminating realisation that brings understanding and coherence to past experiences.

The contrasting warm and cool colors reflect the emotional duality many experience with late diagnosis: the warmth of self-acceptance and empowerment alongside the cooler tones of grief or regret for the missed opportunities and misunderstandings of the past. The dynamic energy in the landscape mirrors the unique strengths and challenges of neurodivergent minds, celebrating the diversity and creativity that often emerge once one embraces their authentic self.

Finally, the intricate cosmic-like patterns could symbolise the complexity and beauty of neurodivergence, suggesting that what may have felt chaotic or overwhelming before is actually part of a larger, meaningful design. This image resonates as a celebration of self-awareness and the rediscovery of one's identity.**

26/12/2024

I’ve really struggled with this during the holiday season. It’s created some big emotions within myself. Here’s a solution focused reflection for next time:

When family members disregard children’s emotions or label them as “naughty”—especially when the child is confused, overwhelmed, or exhausted—it’s essential to set clear boundaries that protect the child’s emotional well-being. Here’s how to approach this with balance and respect:

1. Advocate for Your Child
• Calmly but firmly correct mislabeling:
“I don’t think they’re being naughty—they’re just overwhelmed. Let’s give them a moment to settle.”
• Reframe the behaviour:
“They’re expressing how tired they feel. It’s been a big day for them.”

2. Educate Family Members on Emotional Needs
• Share insights about children’s emotions and development:
“Kids often act out when they’re confused or tired—it’s how they communicate feelings they don’t have words for.”
• If applicable, explain neurodivergent needs in a way that promotes understanding:
“Transitions can be tricky for them, and they might need extra time to adjust.”

3. Set Clear Boundaries
• Politely but firmly ask others to avoid negative labels:
“Please don’t call them naughty—they’re just having a hard time right now.”
• Be specific about what is or isn’t acceptable:
“I’d prefer we focus on understanding their feelings rather than criticising their behaviour.”

4. Offer an Alternative Approach
• Redirect the interaction:
“Instead of saying they’re being difficult, we can ask how they’re feeling or give them a quiet space.”
• Suggest positive language:
“Let’s say, ‘It looks like you’re tired—do you want a break?’ instead of labeling their behaviour.”

5. Remove the Child from the Situation
• If family members persist, prioritise the child’s needs by stepping away:
“They’re feeling overstimulated. I’m going to take them to a quiet spot for a bit.”

6. Address the Child’s Emotions Directly
• Validate their feelings in front of others to model empathy:
“I can see you’re feeling really tired and upset. That’s okay—we’ll figure it out together.”
• This shows the child (and others) that their emotions are respected and acknowledged.

7. Follow Up Privately with Family Members
• If the behaviour continues, have a private conversation:
“I know you mean well, but calling them naughty doesn’t help. It’s important for me to teach them that their feelings are valid, even if they’re struggling.”

8. Protect the Child’s Self-Esteem
• Children absorb labels, so it’s vital to counteract negativity with positive reinforcement:
“You’re doing great, even though you’re feeling tired. I’m proud of you for trying.”

Example Phrases to Use with Family Members:
• “I know it looks like they’re acting out, but they’re just processing a lot right now.”
• “They’re not naughty—they’re communicating the only way they know how. Let’s approach this with patience.”
• “I appreciate your help, but I’d like to handle this in a way that supports their emotions.”

By setting boundaries and advocating for compassionate understanding, you teach both your child and your family how to navigate emotions with respect and care.

It’s important to remember that educating others about children’s emotional needs isn’t your responsibility. If family members label your child or disregard their feelings, set a firm boundary: “Please don’t call them naughty—they’re overwhelmed, and I’ll handle it.” Redirect responsibility by asking them to step back: “If you’re unsure how to respond, I’d appreciate it if you let me manage this.” If they persist, step away with your child or end the discussion: “I’ve asked for this to be respected; let’s move on.” Protecting your energy and your child’s well-being comes first.

24/12/2024

*This is posted with permission from his mother*

Moments like these highlight the true impact of inclusive and affirming support work. 💚

Seeing someone light up with pure joy is a reminder of how important it is to create meaningful opportunities for connection and happiness. Support work goes beyond just providing care—it’s about fostering trust, encouraging independence, and celebrating individuality.

Every smile tells a story of growth, inclusion, and the value of supporting someone to live life to the fullest. It’s a privilege to play a part in these moments that matter so much.

21/12/2024

As this year comes to a close, I want to take a moment to reflect on the incredible journey of starting my work in independent support. I’m deeply grateful for the trust placed in me by parents, families, and individuals—it’s been an honour to walk alongside you.

To the parents, thank you for trusting me with your children. Supporting their growth and witnessing their unique strengths has been one of the most rewarding parts of this work. To everyone I’ve had the privilege to support, your openness and resilience continue to inspire me every day.

This work is not just a job—it’s a privilege and a passion. I look forward to continuing this journey together in the year ahead.

December 25th, 26th and 27th I will be with my family and my phone will be switched off. If you would like to contact me please feel free to send an email to flourish.dsw@gmail.com.

During the school holiday period I will have more capacity for supports. If you are looking to set up regular supports during school terms, please understand that as a sole trader I need to accomodate those who I commit to first.

I wish you all a happy, relaxing and safe holiday period.

With appreciation and gratitude,
Izzy

20/12/2024

20/12/2024

Invisible disabilities affect millions of people every day, yet because their challenges aren’t visible, they often face misunderstanding, stigma, and lack of support. These conditions, like chronic pain, mental health disorders, autoimmune diseases, and learning disabilities, can impact a person’s social life, career, and overall well-being in profound ways.

Living with an invisible disability can lead to:
• Social isolation due to judgment or disbelief
• Increased stress and mental health struggles
• Financial strain from medical costs and loss of income
• Difficulty managing everyday tasks or maintaining independence
• Strained relationships with family and friends who may not understand the struggles

It’s important to remember that just because someone doesn’t look sick doesn’t mean they aren’t struggling. Let’s practice compassion, raise awareness, and offer support to those with invisible disabilities.

Here’s a comprehensive list of conditions that can be considered invisible disabilities:

1. Chronic Pain Conditions
• Fibromyalgia
• Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS)
• Rheumatoid Arthritis
• Osteoarthritis
• Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS)
• Complex Regional Pain Syndrome (CRPS)
• Endometriosis
• Chronic Migraines

2. Neurological Disorders
• Multiple Sclerosis (MS)
• Epilepsy
• Parkinson’s Disease
• Chronic Migraines
• Tinnitus
• Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI)
• Alzheimer’s Disease / Dementia

3. Mental Health Conditions
• Anxiety Disorders (e.g., Generalised Anxiety Disorder, Panic Disorder, Social Anxiety Disorder)
• Depression
• Bipolar Disorder
• Complex/Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C/PTSD)
• Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
• Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
• Schizophrenia
• Eating Disorders (e.g., Anorexia, Bulimia, Binge Eating Disorder)

4. Autoimmune Disorders
• Lupus
• Rheumatoid Arthritis
• Type 1 Diabetes
• Celiac Disease
• Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis
• Crohn’s Disease
• Ulcerative Colitis
• Multiple Sclerosis (MS)

5. Chronic Illnesses
• Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD)
• Asthma
• Chronic Kidney Disease (CKD)
• Pulmonary Fibrosis
• Liver Cirrhosis
• Sickle Cell Disease
• Hemophilia

6. Learning Disabilities and Cognitive Disorders
• Dyslexia
• Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
• Dyscalculia
• Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)
• Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI)
• Learning Disabilities (general)

7. Sensory Disabilities
• Hearing Impairment / Deafness
• Visual Impairment / Blindness
• Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD)
• Electromagnetic Sensitivity
• Chemical Sensitivity (e.g., Multiple Chemical Sensitivity, or MCS)

8. Endocrine and Metabolic Disorders
• Thyroid Disorders (e.g., Hypothyroidism, Hyperthyroidism)
• Diabetes (Type 1 and Type 2)
• Adrenal Insufficiency / Addison’s Disease
• Polycystic O***y Syndrome (PCOS)

9. Chronic Infections and Conditions
• HIV/AIDS
• Chronic Lyme Disease
• Tuberculosis (in its latent form)

10. Cardiovascular Conditions
• Chronic Heart Disease
• Congenital Heart Defects
• Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS)
• Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) (which can also affect the cardiovascular system)

11. Psychosocial Disabilities
• Personality Disorders (e.g., Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder)
• Social Phobia (Social Anxiety Disorder)

12. Other Invisible Disabilities
• Chronic Sinusitis
• Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS)
• Sleep Disorders (e.g., Sleep Apnea, Insomnia)
• Chronic Migraines
• Tinnitus
• Electromagnetic Sensitivity (EMF Sensitivity)
• Fibrocystic Breast Disease

13. Genetic Conditions
• Cystic Fibrosis
• Marfan Syndrome
• Tay-Sachs Disease
• Sickle Cell Disease

These are just some of the invisible disabilities that individuals may experience. Each of these conditions may vary in severity and impact, but all share the challenge of not being immediately apparent to others. People with invisible disabilities may often feel misunderstood, stigmatised, or unsupported because their condition isn’t visible on the outside. Raising awareness and fostering compassion are key to supporting individuals with these conditions.

The image shows a bright orange background with white illustrations and text. At the top, the text says: “Some disabilities look like this,” followed by a row of icons representing various visible disabilities, such as individuals using crutches, wheelchairs, service animals, or walking aids.

Below, the text says: “Some look like this,” with a single icon of a person standing upright, symbolising invisible disabilities. The design emphasises the diversity of disabilities, including those that may not be immediately apparent.