Adventure Seeking Yogi

29/06/2025

Ponderings from another ponderer

|| PONDERING ||
What are your thoughts...💭

'Toxic’ is a nasty "label." It means "poisoning" or "insidious harm." Deciding that someone is, in fact, "toxic" won’t help you fix a relationship. Two important and well-documented approaches to make getting along are, understanding your biases and accepting the limitations of your own perspective.

For example, the framing bias describes how our decisions and actions become influenced by the way in which information is presented—or "framed." A toxicity frame may make that relationship irreparable. But one that includes the fallibility of your own judgment could spark a search for different approaches, advice, or even empathy.

There is a saying: “Once you firmly apply a nasty label to another person, you turn them into an a—hole”. When we see a negative quality as being an inseparable part of who someone is, we continue to find that quality in them. Consequently, a "toxic" characterisation becomes hard to "un-see."

Words are powerful. Our use of them can obscure their meaning and profoundly impact how we see the world around us. This happens regardless of whether the altered meaning is accurate and useful or if it’s misinterpreted and harmful. So change your words. Try "difficult" or "challenging," or even better, try telling yourself that it is you who needs to learn how to manage this better. A label of "someone who I have not figured out how to work with yet" will likely serve you better than "toxic."

Ps: If you've read this for you deserve a little more insight. I have been called toxic and I have also called someone toxic so this is a little brain wave, deep dive ponder on both. x

09/05/2025

The Healing Art of Forgiveness!!!

I don't actually think I can put into words the healing of forgiveness, but I am going to give it a go.

Before we left Mackay, I had an unfortunate misunderstanding with someone who I had grown quite fond of. Someone who started out as a client, turned acquaintance and then through many catch ups, was humbled and blessed to have her in my friendship community.
When the misunderstanding happened, I tried to reconcile it straight away, but sometimes there is no changing someone's mind, and unfortunately it was easier to let the friendship go, it was heart breaking. So much so, it sent me into an old recycled loop.

But they say time heals. I always thought that was just a saying by putting distance between the event, that slowly the heart ache would fade away, that with time and pain would reduce and dissappear. I dont know if it ever does, from my understanding, pain is lodged in our subconscious and stored in our bodies somewhere to eventually appear as a physical ailment.

I ran into this same lady 2 years later, time had been granted and healing occurred. We said hello, and then the next beautiful words will anchor with me for a lifetime.....

"Can we hug this out"

The most 5 healing words I have ever heard, so simple, so beautiful and very profound.

The healing was mutual, to give and receive forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts ever to be given and received.

Ive recently also had some sister healing lately, so it's interesting to have some ripple flow on effects occur after forgiving and healing my deepest and rawest wound.

Time heals yes, but time allows for reflection and insight.

It's not worth hanging on to the pain and suffering.

I may have touched on forgiveness before, but I wanted to recap and share this course from Bethany Hamilton on Forgiveness, for anyone who might be needing to learn forgiveness of them selves or others. She touches on 4 pillars of Forgiveness:

Forgive yourself
Forgive the other person
Give other people absolute permission to forgive you
Ask God for forgiveness for the part that you played.

Benefits of forgiveness:

Forgiveness is a powerful process that involves releasing negative emotions and finding peace, regardless of the offender's actions. It's a conscious choice that can bring significant benefits to the forgiver's well-being and allow them to move forward with a more hopeful outlook. Forgiveness can lead to improved mental and emotional health, reduced stress and anxiety, and enhanced optimism.

Bethany Hamilton & Dr. Kerry Dillberg We’ll show you how to practice forgiveness for yourself and others which is one of the most powerful actions we can take!

25/04/2025

Dreams and Intuition... gotta love this subject and hindsight.

At the beginning of the year, my intuition was being very forceful, through intuitive hits dropping in during meditation, to dreams giving me clear signs and messages, all in which I decided to ignore.

From cyclones, to hardships, to charming people turning out to be toxic, to jobs coming my way and turning them down leading me down a stressful road or pain and suffering.

My question for anyone that has a good understanding of dreams and intuition is, with the warnings and somewhat knowing that these hits and dreams were given during this time, I wonder if someway I have manifested it by seeing it or was it a warning sign to stop going down the road I was going, did I see it all coming and chose to ignore it anyway for it to unfold for some sort of message?

What's the message I wonder, your on the wrong path or trust my intuition or both. Does anyone else go through this?

09/04/2025

PURPOSE!!!!

Lately, I have been thinking about the word purpose as well as speaking with my life coach about this topic. Ive been thinking how it has turned into a real buzz word for employment and what we do in our work/life balance.
Ive been thinking about how some feel they are not working in purpose or service, or in a feel good role all the time and how this can cause a feeling of lack. Lack of purpose or how some haven't found their purpose, or don't know their purpose, don't have a purpose etc etc etc. can cause feelings of hopelessness, uselessness, or even dispair.

I once felt in purpose in my role as a massage therapist, yoga instructor, and retreat organiser. I loved those roles and yes I felt I was living my purpose and in purpose.

Now that I've been thrust in what I call the "real world" or the "ant farm" working in regular employment, I started feeling a sense of lack, not working in purpose, my job being just that, a job and helping someone else create their dream, to the point I started calling it “slavery”

For my own state of mind I had to change my perception of my purpose and found that perhaps having deeper conversations with my work mates and the guests on the boat to bring a sense of connection could be my purpose, and gave me a new sense of living in purpose, that I was still helping those who suffer sea sickness and boating anxiety by teaching them to breath and refocus their attention, I felt people just needed some one to see them and hear them. But eventually and unfortunately that stopped bringing me joy and I felt in lack once again.

Until my coach tweaked my thinking, why can't our purpose be as simple as putting food on the table, paying the bills, working for disposable income, for the little things in life, for the organic food that makes us feel good, for the chiro/naturopath/massage we might enjoy, to pay for our kids music and sporting ventures, to buy the things that bring us joy, to put fuel in the car to visit the places we enjoy. That is all of purpose.

I think today there is to much focus on purpose from YouTube "stars/influences" showing that they live each moment in purpose, that we forget we are in purpose every single day ourselves, with connecting to our values, cherishing our loved ones, being connected to our selves, our breath our heart space. Being a good person, smiling at strangers, picking up trash even if it's not ours.

To Live in purpose doesn't necessarily mean your job. Sometimes a job is to do what we dont want to do, to be able to do the things that we want to do.

As long as we come home to ourselves, our values, our love, that is purpose.

28/03/2025

Hi Tannum Sands

Something is brewing....

Watch this space for more information.

26/02/2025

Allow people to think negatively about you!!

Let them.

Im alwaysate to the fashion of things, however after listening to a Mel Robbins podcast, I decided to finallu start reading her book, The Let Them Theory , and I love it. So much makes sense in there.

Im only half way through but have taken a few things from it. In stead of ruminating, say now what can I make? Make friends, make a community. It takes our brain out of logic and fight or flight and into creative.

Also, give people permission to think negatively of you. All though we like to thing we dont care what other people think, a little deep down we do. But they are going to think it anyway.

No matter what we do, they are going to judge, criticise , speak negatively, whinge, like, dislike what we do, so do it anyway.

Its like this page, my business, what I do and say, ive slowed down based off one person no longer liking me of fear I have hurt, offended, or said something wrong, but as Mel says, let them and let me find my way back to my true nature of why I do what I do and do it anyway.

31/01/2025

Sharing from Shannon Clare.

|| NEWS FLASH + LONG BUT INTERESTING POST ||
I love working with Fascia!
From the yin classes I teach, to the relaxation massages I offer, to the myofascia roll and release workshops I host. I love it.

Take a peek of what fascia looks like below. 🫣

Fascia is a type of connective tissue that surrounds and supports muscles, bones, nerves, and organs throughout the body. It's a dense, fibrous structure that forms a web-like network, helping to hold everything in place and allowing your body parts to move smoothly with each other.

There are three main types of fascia:
1. Superficial fascia – Located just under the skin, it connects the skin to the underlying structures and also stores fat.
2. Deep fascia – Surrounds muscles and bones, and helps to transmit force from muscle movements. It is denser and more organized.
3. Visceral fascia – Surrounds and supports your internal organs, like your heart and lungs.

Fascia also plays a role in how the body moves. When it's tight or restricted, it can limit mobility and contribute to pain, which is why techniques like massage, yoga and myofascial release are used in treatments for conditions such as this.

AND fascia contains a significant number of nerve receptors, which means it is not just a passive structural tissue. Fascia is actually quite active in sensory processes and is densely innervated with nerve endings. These receptors play important roles in how the body senses and responds to movement, pressure, and tension. With the capacity for the connective tissue to hold onto patterns of stress, trauma, and tension in a way that might feel like "memory."

Soft connective tissue, specifically fascia, is often considered the body's largest organ by area, though it’s not typically referred to as an "organ" in the traditional sense. Fascia is a continuous, interconnected network of connective tissue that surrounds and supports muscles, bones, nerves, blood vessels, and organs throughout the entire body.

It's fascinating to say the least and I can geek out on it all day.🤓

If you want to find more space in your connective tissue by way of yin yoga, relaxation massage or my myofascial roll and release class then drop me a line.

Oh and to help my post reach all my followers please drop a link once you've take a read of this long winded geek out 🤪

29/01/2025

On my walk today, I caught myself in a loop, a conversation to myself repeating how confused I am, on what do I want, where do I want to be, going over and over the anxieties that play on my mind.

And once I caught myself, I brought myself into mindfulness. Where is my breath and what is it doing.
Focus on the noises around you, the wonderful sounds of nature. The beaty in the twisted trees, the sounds of the waves crashing past the bush.

It’s beautiful and changes that internal dialogue to allow what will be will be.

24/01/2025

18/01/2025

I love life... But there have definitely been times when I haven't, Ive taken many things for granted, haven't appreciated the small things, haven't been grateful for the big things.

Looking back on life, realising nothing was as bad as it seemed in the moments. In fact, I would be happy to go back to those moments, give myself a pep talk, a hug and learn to enjoy them for what they were, as once the moment passes, its never going to be experienced again. Unfortunately nothing lasts for ever, everything is temporary and we are moving at a rapid pace faster than ever before.

People warn you that your kids will grow up and it's gone in a second, you know what they are talking about, but when in the thick of it, it becomes a passing comment. Since travelling we have really experienced that saying, and have learnt to appreciate the moments, especially when you come to the realisation that we only have 18 summers with our kids. Not having Tijhe around, I find myself in constant reflection of our times when he was young, or I stop and stare at my other 2 young men, wishing time would stand still, just for these years, for them to stop growing as I have so much more to instil before they are thrust into the world.

I seen something the other day that really hit home.

We aren't just raising men, we are raising brothers, we are raising husbands, we are raising fathers, we are raising mentors, we are raising carers, we are raising uncles, we are raising members of the community, we are raising employees/bosses/entrepreneurs, we are raising men that we want to be successful in their own right, to be independent, free thinkers, and most of all, we are raising them to know how to be happy.

Stop taking life for granted, for every negative thought there is a flip side, you just have to train the brain to flip it.

17/01/2025

Speaking your truth open and honestly or Ghosting, what would you prefer???

I've been the bearer of both as well as the victim of both, and after receiving both types of treatment, I have to say, I prefer open and honest communication, be it critical or not, at lease you know, have room for growth and maybe repair, instead of being left in the dark, feeling an emotional pain that is felt physically.

Emotions, friendships, relationships, colleagues, is all hard work. I feel if there is no open communication, be it constructive criticism or honesty about ones feelings, how are people meant to know what they have done wrong, or be given the opportunity to grow, change, offer an apology or have some awareness around their actions. It's either that, or a toxic and negative environment is built based around bitching about other people, whinging, complaining and nothing being done to repair, fix or move on from the situation.

In my opinion, speaking your truth is much more positive then ghosting... Its hard, it can go 2 ways, positive or negative, it can lead to confrontation, but in my opinion, it offers closure, instead of the pain of second guessing, wondering, creating stories in their head and having beliefs that may not be true.

Speak your truth, even if your voice shakes.