Eloise Tomkins - Money Coach & Psychologist

25/09/2025

Here’s how ⬇️

She stopped discounting her services “just this once” because a client’s dog needed surgery.

She stopped replying to every 11pm email with free advice no one ever paid her for.

She stopped letting her ex “forget” child support while she was swiping her credit card for groceries (again).

And the wildest part is…

The second she stopped trying to be liked - and started saying NO - her income tripled

Now instead of scrolling real estate late at night, sighing over homes she might afford one day… she’s booking viewings and putting down deposits on her dream home.

👉 She’s not working harder than you.
👉 She’s not better with money than you.
👉 She’s not more qualified than you.

She simply let her nervous system learn this:
✔️ It’s safe to say no without guilt.
✔️ It’s safe to hold boundaries and still be loved.
✔️ It’s safe to make more money than feels comfortable.

Agreeableness doesn’t build empires. Boundaries do.

And when her nervous system finally felt safe to say no, she unlocked the clarity to build a business that pays her worth, clients who respect her time, and a life driven by desire - not fear.

That’s why she’s sipping champagne in the kitchen of her new home while you’re still scrolling through dream homes at midnight, wondering if you’ll ever get there

So the real question is…
Are you going to keep being agreeable? 
Or are you ready to be rich AF, regulated AF, and actually move into that dream house instead of just sticking it on your vision board?

If you’re done being agreeable and finally ready to be rich AF…

Join Regulated + Rich AF, my free 90-minute masterclass - where you’ll uncover the hidden nervous system patterns keeping your income capped and rewire your body to actually hold the wealth you’ve been chasing.

Link in bio

Or head here: https://www.eloisetomkins.com/unlock-next-level-wealth

Can’t wait to see you in the room!

xx
Elly

14/09/2025

At first, it felt terrifying.

My brain kept worrying about what would happen if I wasn’t constantly stressing, strategising, or manifesting my next income goal

But here’s what I realised:
The point of making money isn’t just to make more.

It’s to build a business that gives you freedom. A business that creates impact. A business that feels good to run.

So instead of obsessing over my next income goal, I started focusing on nervous system safety.

✨ I let myself have quiet mornings without guilt, Starbucks in hand.
✨ I welcomed clients who respected my boundaries because I finally felt safe saying no & knowing money would still come
✨ I noticed opportunities flowing in, not because I was hustling harder, but because I was grounded enough to receive them.

And the wildest part? When I stopped running on fear and actually felt safe with money… the money grew anyway.

That’s the shift I want you to feel too.

That’s exactly why I created The Wealthy Woman Activation… a 20-minute reset to clear the fear that’s been holding you back, so you can step into your next level of income and impact.

Because you don’t just want more money.
👉 You want money that feels safe.
👉 You want a business that feels better than you ever thought possible.

Access The Wealthy Woman Activation instantly for $37 via the link in my bio!

xx,
Elly

23/07/2025

You don’t raise your prices and then become the woman who can hold it.

You raise your prices because you’ve already outgrown the version of you who played it safe.

Join me as I chat with Brook McCarthy on this weeks ep of the Rich Woman Rising podcast where we dive deeper into women in business and money.

Listen here: https://www.eloisetomkins.com/podcasts/rich-woman-rising-2/episodes/2149058547

Elly

10/07/2025

Got this after a FREE masterclass I ran earlier this week.

This woman isn’t a client.

She didn’t pay a cent.

She just showed up, got smacked with some truth… and it stuck

That message…

It’s not just feedback. That’s evidence.

Because here’s what most women get wrong about breakthroughs:

They think clarity should feel good.

They think healing should feel soft.

They think if it’s uncomfortable, it must be wrong.

Nope.

If your nervous system I sn’t squirming a little, you’re not touching the real issue.

The women who leave saying “that was interesting”
..stay exactly where they were.

The women who leave muttering, “Sh*t, that hit too close”
..wake up the next day making different decisions. Bigger moves. Less sabotage.

Because here’s the truth:

🧠 Your money blocks weren’t formed in safe, sparkly spaces.

❌ They were built in moments of emotional chaos and nervous system shutdown.

And you’re not going to heal them with cutesy affirmations and polite coaching calls.

You’ll heal them the moment someone hands you a mirror and says:

This? Right here? This belief is costing you thousands”

So ask yourself:

Are you chasing the breakthrough that feels good?

Or the one that works?

Because this is EXACTLY what we’re doing in Fire & Fortune.

Comment REAL if you’re ready for the truth that makes your stomach drop…

And I’ll dm you the details to register.

because that’s where your money’s hiding.

19/06/2025

Let's call it what it is - your "practical" side always shows up right before you level up

"Let me be realistic about my goals"
"I should probably focus on other areas first"
"Maybe I'm just not cut out for this level"

Sounds responsible, right? WRONG.

That's your nervous system dressed up as logic, keeping you exactly where you are.

On this week's episode of the Rich Woman RIsing podcast, I chat with Phoebe Walpoole to explore how our "reasonable" excuses are actually elaborate avoidance strategies...

And why the most successful people learn to sit with discomfort instead of reasoning their way out of it.

🔥 No new goal-setting system
🔥 No vision board updates
🔥 Just the courage to feel uncomfortable while moving forward

Ready to stop logic-ing yourself out of your dreams?

🎧 New episode of Rich Woman Rising available now on all your fav podcast apps...

Or, listen here: https://www.eloisetomkins.com/podcasts/rich-woman-rising-2/episodes/2149021447

Elly

17/06/2025

Achieve your million-dollar year! Discover how stretching yourself reveals hidden beliefs and doubts. Learn to overcome these obstacles and achieve your goals. Watch now and start your journey to success!

06/06/2025

This was such a fun convo with Tarryn!!!

Let’s talk about money panic and why “feel the fear and do it anyway” is actually terrible advice when it comes to your finances.

In this week’s power-packed episode of The Tarryn Reeves Show, I sat down with psychologist + money coach Eloise Tompkins to talk about:

💥 How your nervous system is sabotaging your income
💥 Why childhood money messages still control your pricing
💥 What to do when fear kicks in and your brain screams “Drop your prices!”
💥 And the step-by-step way to build actual financial confidence that feels safe in your body

This isn’t just mindset fluff. It’s deep, nervous-system-based rewiring that helps women stop panicking about money and start owning their financial power.

🚨 Don’t miss this one. Especially if you’re building a business but still feel trapped in survival mode.

https://rb.gy/k2mwu1

27/05/2025

Affirmations sound empowering, but all they did was keep me broke.

Look, I was the queen of affirmations.

I had SO many card decks around my house you’d think I was trying to summon a money goddess with glitter pens.

And you know what happened.

I was still broke and budgeting within an inch of my life (and still ordering s**t I really didn't need online).

Turns out, I didn’t need more affirmations. I needed to feel safe.

Safe being seen succeeding.
Safe saying confidently that I do want money.
Safe having money and not doing anything with it.

Because when your nervous system has tied money to survival...

No amount of affirmations can override your biology.

Because the truth is...

The part of you that wants more isn't the problem.
The part of you that panics isn't the enemy.

They just haven’t been in the same room.

What would your business look like if both parts of you were finally on the same team?

That’s the reset we start together on June 2nd.

Join here: https://www.eloisetomkins.com/somatic-money-reset

Because the money you want isn’t waiting on your mindset.
It’s waiting on your nervous system.

Elly

26/05/2025

Someone told me to stop asking questions at a dinner party.

I smiled and changed the subject.

But internally, my mind raced..

Was I too much? Did I talk too much again? Do I always do this?

It reminded me why so many women avoid raising prices or talking about their offers.

Because somewhere along the way, we've been taught to smile, be agreeable, say less.

Being bold, direct or clear on what we want?

Apparently that’s… too much.

But you know what.

You're not meant to be trapped inside a cage.

You're not building this business to be broke and agreeable.

You’re here to be unforgettable. To make a damn impact.

And you can’t do that if you’re still hung up on what some stranger online said about your offer at 2am.

Your nervous system might shake.

But your power’s already here.

We just need to help you regulate into the version of you who can actually hold it.

That’s why we do it differently inside Expansion — my 1:1 space where we regulate your nervous system so your business, income, and leadership can actually grow.

If you’re ready to move from “what will they think?” to “I’m brilliant, and I charge accordingly” - DM me the word EXPAND and I'll send you the next step.

Elly xx

23/05/2025

If you want money to finally feel like it’s actually yours... step away from the next mindset hack.

You can also rip down that post-it on your mirror that says “I’m worthy of abundance”. It’s cute. But your body isn't buying it.

What you do need is a money reset.

Wtf is a money reset, and why would you need one?

Because, you've been living in your head for so long, all your thoughts sound logical.

But logic isn’t what’s holding you back.

It’s your nervous system.

And until you deal with that, your bank account will keep reflecting back the business you keep building in survival mode...

That’s why I created the 3 Day Money Reset.

So that you can get out of your head, and into your body. Learn how to tune into your nervous system and meet the version of you who is holding back... and the version that wants more.

The 3 Day Money Reset is where it starts to shift.

This is where I start with all of my 1:1 clients and this is the first time I'm sharing it with you.

Join here: https://www.eloisetomkins.com/somatic-money-reset

Elly

21/05/2025

From years of therapy, EMDR, and money always feeling like pressure…

To trusting herself with wealth, leadership, and decisions.. in just 4 sessions.

She reached out, because something deeper wasn’t shifting. She thought it was just money stress.

But immediately I saw that her nervous system was in overdrive, pushing her to the brink of burnout working hard for every dollar.

Her money blocks weren’t mental. They were somatic.

👉 This is why mindset hadn’t landed. Her body still associated money with stress and overwhelm

So we slowed everything down. We met the part of her that wanted out. We worked with her nervous system, not against it.

By session 4, she said:

“This is the work I’ve been searching for, probably my entire life”

She’s no longer building a business for the version of her that was unconsciously seeking validation from other people.

She’s building it for her nervous system.

She could’ve kept pushing through and working hard.
She could’ve scrolled past and ignored my post.

But she didn’t. And now money feels calm, joyful, and safe.

If you've found yourself feeling stuck with one foot on the gas and the other on the brakes in when it comes to money, that's a sign your nervous system is holding you back.

And it's because no one taught you how to feel safe being the woman who holds more.

DM me EXPANSION and I’ll send you what’s next.

Your next income level is so close. If you've been hovering near it but not quite touching it... let's chat!

Elly x

20/05/2025

If we haven’t officially met.. hi, I’m Eloise 👋🏼⁠
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Psychologist. Money mindset coach. Nervous system nerd. And the coach women in business come to when the strategy stops working, and they’re ready to make more money without spiralling.⁠
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For the past 10+ years, I’ve helped women unravel the subconscious patterns, survival responses, and inherited money narratives that quietly shape their business (and income).⁠
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They come to me when they’re already making consistent $10k months…⁠
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But they’re still over delivering.⁠
Still afraid to raise their rates.⁠
Still stuck in feast-or-famine cycles that don’t make sense on paper.⁠
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My work helps you feel safe, regulated, and anchored at higher levels of income, visibility, and leadership… so money doesn’t just come in, it stays.⁠
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Personally, I’ve built my business with zero desire to hustle, and a nervous system that values peace over pressure.⁠
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I’ve created a life that feels rich on every level — emotionally, financially, and energetically. And that’s the version of success I help you calibrate to.⁠
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🖤 Want to know the real reason you haven’t broken through your next income level — even though you’re doing “all the right things”?⁠
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Take the quiz to find out which nervous system pattern is silently shaping your money results… and what to do next.⁠
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It’s your first step to feeling safe with more.⁠
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http://www.eloisetomkins.com/quiz⁠
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Or head to the link in my bio! ⁠
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Elly xx