03/01/2026
REFLECTIONS 🌟💭💜
School Can’t
Deschooling
Unschooling
Another way?
Having tried 3 schools because we thought a different school would be the answer. It wasn’t!
His mental/emotional health hit rock bottom. He heard about homeschooling from a friend and told me he wanted to do this, not school.
We restructured our life and built our world around a new way of life. I started up a homeschool coop for his and my social needs and after a year plus of deschooling (resetting his collapsed nervous system), he began exploring his interests, learning about what motivated him.
Slowly, the curiosity to learn that he once had as a very young child, emerged.
We followed a form of ‘unschooling’.
It was a different way.
We discovered it supported his natural way of learning.
Fast forward - he is 19, happy, has a strong inner confidence and a group of lovely friends, has further explored his interests through TAFE education and is working, saving money to set himself up for his future, and beginning a business.
Like many his age, he’s not yet certain of what career he wants to delve into, and really, the whole ‘what do you want to do and be when you grow up’ paradigm is flawed. I’ll expand on this in another post.
Sometimes we need to question the status quo, what we blindly believe and what others say is the ‘right thing to do’, and summons courage to try a different way, then trust that the different way may be the solution.
First and utmost…
Follow the rule of 80:20…
Focus 80% on your child’s mental and emotional health, 20% on academic development.
When their mental and emotional health (their happiness, esteem, and confidence) is on track, they will expand academically regardless of the way they learn.
School is not the solution for all!
Michelle Heriot
Visioneur & Founder
E-Gen