Ney Kelegouris Melbourne Doula

Ney Kelegouris Melbourne Doula Pregnancy and Birth Doula based in South East Melbourne. Supporting you to birth on your terms 🤍

Birth isn’t just physical, it’s mental and deeply emotional.How you feel about yourself, and the beliefs you carry about...
20/08/2025

Birth isn’t just physical, it’s mental and deeply emotional.

How you feel about yourself, and the beliefs you carry about birth, will show up in labour.

This is why I’m so passionate about birth education and mindset work.

If you’re preparing for birth, I’d love to walk this journey with you 🤍

DM me your birth month and let’s set up an obligation-free chat to explore your support options.

Did you do mindset work to prepare for your birth?

South East Melbourne Homebirth meetup is on this Friday! ☀️Open to anyone interested in homebirth, including birth worke...
03/08/2025

South East Melbourne Homebirth meetup is on this Friday! ☀️

Open to anyone interested in homebirth, including birth workers. Children also welcome, the park is fully fenced with lots of space to play.

If you’d like to join the group chat, please DM me. All updates will be posted there.




Every experience of birth trauma is unique, and preparing for a subsequent birth will look different for everyone.Here’s...
18/07/2025

Every experience of birth trauma is unique, and preparing for a subsequent birth will look different for everyone.

Here’s what helped me when I was preparing for my second birth, after my own experience of trauma:
💜 Processing my traumatic birth
💜 Intentionally choosing a support team that made me feel safe and supported
💜 Reclaiming my autonomy and practising self-advocacy
💜 Creating a birth map with informed decisions for the various pathways birth could take
💜 Leaning on tools to support my nervous system

Preparing for birth again after trauma isn’t about “getting over it” or hoping for the best. It’s about honouring what you’ve been through and choosing what you need to feel safe, supported, and in your power.

Save this post for when you need it. And if you’re looking for a trauma-informed doula who will gently walk beside you on this journey, send me a DM 🤍

Birth trauma isn’t just about what happened during birth, it’s about how your nervous system responded to what was happe...
14/07/2025

Birth trauma isn’t just about what happened during birth, it’s about how your nervous system responded to what was happening.

Our nervous system is wired to keep us safe. When it senses danger - whether real or perceived - it activates a survival response:

👉🏻 Fight (prepare to confront the threat)
👉🏻 Flight (try to escape)
👉🏻 Freeze (shut down)
👉🏻 Fawn (submit or comply)

These reactions are not conscious choices. They’re instinctive and protective responses. It’s your body’s way of trying to protect you.

In birth, these responses can be triggered by situations like:

🔺 Feeling ignored, dismissed, or powerless
🔺 Being rushed into interventions without informed consent
🔺 Hearing alarming or unclear communication from staff
🔺 Experiencing severe pain without support
Being alone or unsupported during or after birth
🔺 Witnessing a sudden change in your baby’s condition

This is why a “healthy mother and baby” is not enough. You can have a seemingly “normal” birth, and still experience trauma.

How Birth Trauma Can Show Up After Birth:

⚡️ Flashbacks, nightmares, or intrusive thoughts
⚡️ Anxiety or panic attacks
⚡️ Avoiding triggers that remind you of the experience such as hospitals
⚡️ Feeling numb or disconnected from your baby
⚡️ Hypervigilance or difficulty sleeping
⚡️ Guilt, shame, or a sense of failure
⚡️ Avoiding future pregnancies or birth-related care

Why This Matters:

When we understand trauma as a nervous system response, it helps us make sense of our experiences so we can begin to process how we feel and create space for healing.

If you’ve experienced birth trauma…
🤍 You are not alone.
🤍 You did not fail.
🤍 It wasn’t your fault.

For more info & support:org.au





A healthy mum and baby isn’t all that matters. Your emotional wellbeing matters too.⠀For some, birth trauma may be due t...
13/07/2025

A healthy mum and baby isn’t all that matters. Your emotional wellbeing matters too.

For some, birth trauma may be due to physical complications or injury. For others, it’s the emotional or psychological impact - like feeling powerless, dismissed, or unsupported.

Birth trauma can occur when there’s a real or perceived threat to your safety, your baby’s safety, or your sense of control.

It doesn’t have to be a dramatic medical emergency to be traumatic.

If your birth felt traumatic to you, then it was.

🤍If this post resonates, you’re not alone. My DMs are always open for a chat.

Find more info & support here:org.au





It’s more than fair lights and hip squeezes. It goes beyond your birth plan and all the education.It’s witnessing you be...
20/06/2025

It’s more than fair lights and hip squeezes. It goes beyond your birth plan and all the education.

It’s witnessing you become a new version of yourself. Standing beside you as you journey to find a strength you didn’t know you were capable of. It’s seeing your heart crack wide open.

You’re not just another woman having a baby to me. You’re not just a number in a conveyer belt system that wants to treat everyone the same.

You’re YOU. And you deserve to be seen, heard, and supported as the unique person you are.

This isn’t just work to me. It’s something sacred. Something incredibly special.

South East Melbourne Homebirth meetup is on this Friday. Looks like we’re in the clear rain wise, join the WhatsApp grou...
11/06/2025

South East Melbourne Homebirth meetup is on this Friday. Looks like we’re in the clear rain wise, join the WhatsApp group chat for any updates!

For all the mothers. Today, and every day. Also holding space for those who find this day difficult. The ones who are hu...
11/05/2025

For all the mothers. Today, and every day.

Also holding space for those who find this day difficult.

The ones who are hurting, grieving, and longing.

You are seen.
You are loved.
You are not alone.

🤍🤍🤍

South East Melbourne Homebirth Meetup is on this week! 💖
05/05/2025

South East Melbourne Homebirth Meetup is on this week! 💖

I came across a blog that shared the context of this quote, where Laura Stavoe says: “The essay was about the rather old...
24/04/2025

I came across a blog that shared the context of this quote, where Laura Stavoe says:

“The essay was about the rather old-fashioned idea (popular in my mother’s generation) that we should not talk about birth stories because it would scare women about the pain. The thesis of the essays was that women have much to be gained by sharing our birth stories. The “secret” was…in sharing our stories we would learn what so many women have been able to bear over the centuries in its myriad of forms.”

Storytelling is as old as time, and there’s so much power in sharing our experiences.

When we open up about birth we remind each other that we’re not alone. That we’re strong. That we’ve done something incredible - regardless of what our birth looked like.

We’re not strong because we had a pain free birth. Or an unmedicated birth. A home birth. Hospital birth. Caesarean birth. Or anything else in between.

We’re strong because we’re resilient, inspiring, and literally brought life into this world - even when it was hard, even when it felt messy, even when it didn’t go to plan.

That kind of strength deserves to be seen, heard, and celebrated. And there’s always space for that here 🤍

If you feel called to share your story, I would love to hear it! Feel free to share in the comments or my DMs.

SAVE this post and come back to it when you’re working on your birth plan 🤍FACT OR FICTION: a series where there’s no su...
16/04/2025

SAVE this post and come back to it when you’re working on your birth plan 🤍

FACT OR FICTION: a series where there’s no such thing as a dumb question - so ask away!

Part 2
Can I say no to vaginal exams during labour?
(Spoiler alert: the answer is yes)

Swipe through to unpack the purpose of vaginal exams, what the evidence says, and how to advocate for yourself beyond just saying “no”.

Tag a mama who needs to see this.

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