The Men Spirit

16/08/2025

The Two Forces Within Every Man

Every man carries two essential energies:
Projection: the drive to act, build, and protect
Reception: the wisdom to listen, reflect, and absorb

True masculine wholeness isn't about choosing one over the other. It's about mastering both.

The man who only projects burns out. The man who only receives stagnates.
Balance creates strength.

05/08/2025

I wanted to share something a bit vulnerable with you all. For a little while now, I've been avoiding stepping into the 'voice' role for our 'Two Voices One Circle' gathering. It's a space I deeply believe in, but putting myself out there in that way has felt a bit daunting.

But then I thought, what better opportunity than now? Especially since we've been struggling a bit to get men to join us and share their voices. So, for next week's gathering on Wednesday, I've decided to be one of the voices.

I'm asking for your support. I'd be incredibly grateful if you could hold space for me as I share. And if there's another brother out there who feels called to join me as the second voice, please reach out. Let's make this a powerful circle together.

https://lu.ma/1giva684

Excited & Scared
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Two Voices, One Circle is a free, fortnightly online men's circle dedicated to emotional well-being, self-development, authentic masculinity, and building…

01/08/2025

Deeply honored to be nominated as a "Man of Purpose" by the Island of Men Community! 🙏

This recognition isn't just about me. It's about the power of men coming together with intention, supporting each other's growth, and serving something greater than ourselves. When we show up authentically, lead with purpose, and lift each other up, we create ripples that strengthen our families, communities, and the next generation.

The masculine spirit at its best is about courage, service, and connection. It's about being the men our communities need. It is not perfect, but committed to growth, to showing up, and to making a difference.

Some days I feel like I'm just figuring it out as I go... trying to be a better father, partner, community member. Trying to show up when it matters, even when it's uncomfortable.

What I do know is that none of us are meant to walk this path alone. The older I get, the more I realize how much we need each other! Real conversations, honest struggles, men who aren't afraid to be vulnerable and call each other to something higher.

If you're a man in Melbourne or anywhere in Victoria, and you're feeling like there's got to be more than just going through the motions... maybe consider joining us on August 24th at IoM #22.

It's at Gilwell Scout Camp, and honestly, it might be exactly what you didn't know you were looking for.

Not trying to sell you anything! Just extending an invitation to be part of something real. Men supporting men. Purpose over perfection.

Details are at https://events.humanitix.com/iom22/tickets if you're curious.

An awesome day dedicated to supporting you on your journey as a man, in beautiful natural, amongst a community of men who believe in supporting each other

30/07/2025

$15 that could change your life?

Sounds too good to be true, right?
But think about it... you've probably spent more on a single night out trying to forget your problems.

What if instead, you invested that same amount in actually solving them?

Grief & Loss Workshop for Men
The workshop designed by men, for men who refuse to stay stuck.

Loss happens. Staying lost is a choice.
Early bird ends 7th August - then it's too late for this price

|Date: Thursday, 14th August Time: 11:00 AM AEST
|Duration: 90 minutes Location: Online (Zoom link provided after registration)
|Cost: $15 Early Bird (Ends August 7th)
|Recording: Included — with unlimited access

Don't let grief define your future.
Let it refine you instead.
Book now. Thank yourself later.

Join The Men Spirit for a powerful online workshop on grief & loss. Learn to navigate your pain, find purpose, and connect with a supportive brotherhood. Exclusive for men. Register now!

29/07/2025

Is Your Phone Controlling Your Life More Than You Think?

Guys, let's talk real for a minute.

You wake up, grab your phone. Work break? Check Instagram. Stressed? Scroll Facebook. Before bed? One more scroll through Reddit...

Sound familiar? 🤔

Here's what's actually happening: Your brain's reward system designed to help our ancestors survive is being HIJACKED by apps engineered to keep you hooked.

The stats are eye-opening:
Nearly 50% of men are addicted to their phones (vs 35% of women). And it's not just about "screen time" it's about how digital overstimulation is quietly stealing your:
🎯 Focus and mental clarity
😴 Quality sleep
💪 Motivation for real-world goals
🤝 Presence in relationships
⚡ Inner peace and confidence

But here's the empowering truth: You can take back control.
A digital detox isn't about becoming a hermit, it's about intentionally creating space for what actually matters. It's about rediscovering the strength that comes from stillness, the clarity that emerges from silence.

Ready to reclaim your edge?
We've created a practical guide with real exercises you can start TODAY whether you want to begin with phone-free mornings or go full weekend warrior mode.

Because the man you're meant to be is found in the moments of presence, purpose, and genuine connection.

Read the full guide here: https://www.themenspirit.com/the-dopamine-dilemma

Drop a 💪 if you're ready to break free from digital overwhelm!

25/07/2025

Ever feel like you're constantly chasing 'good enough' but it's always just out of reach? Yep, me too! My amazing colleague Alena Turley and I noticed this 'good enough' theme popping up when we were swapping Root Cause Therapy sessions and honestly, it's a bit of a sneaky trap.

It's like trying to catch smoke... you think you've got it, but then p**f! It's gone. This whole 'good enough' idea can actually hold us back from truly accepting ourselves. It keeps us stuck in a cycle of proving our worth, which, let's be real, is exhausting!

So this is my realization: You were always enough. No, seriously! You don't need to earn it or prove it. Our latest blog post, "The 'Good Enough' Trap: Why This Popular Mantra Is Failing Men" (and everyone else!), dives into how to ditch that endless chase and finally feel at peace with who you are.

Ready to stop playing 'catch the smoke' and start living? Click the link to read more and join the conversation:
https://www.themenspirit.com/blog/goodenough

What's your take on 'good enough'? Let's chat in the comments!
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Discover why the 'good enough' mantra leaves many men feeling empty. A men's therapist explores how masculine conditioning creates the trap of constant proving and offers a path toward authentic self-acceptance and mental wellness.

22/07/2025

WE ARE LOOKING FOR MEN TO SHARE THEIR JOURNEY AND INSPIRE OTHERS

Our "Two Voices One Circle" needs brave men willing to share what's alive within them: your struggles, your breakthroughs, your real story.

This isn't about having it all figured out. It's about the courage to speak authentically and the power of being witnessed by a brotherhood that gets it.

✨ We need 2 VOICES for each session
✨ We need men to HOLD SPACE and witness

Whether you're dealing with career pressures, relationship challenges, feeling stuck, or navigating life's curveballs - your story matters. Your vulnerability becomes a gift not just to yourself, but to every man listening.

This is a trauma-informed, judgment-free space where healing happens through connection. No advice-giving. No fixing. Just authentic sharing and deep listening.

Wednesday, 30th July
7:00 PM - 8:30 PM AEST
Online
https://lu.ma/43ok17iv

ALSO - Our monthly gathering is THIS FRIDAY!

Can't wait to connect again and see what surfaces for us. These gatherings create such a warm and welcoming environment where there's no need to DO anything or BE anyone special.

Just come as you are. Relax. Be present.

It's a space where men of all backgrounds come together to connect, grow, and support each other. Whether you're already on your healing journey or just starting to explore, you'll find the support you need.

Friday, 25th July
7:00 PM - 9:00 PM AEST
45 Miller Cres
Mount Waverley, Victoria
https://lu.ma/6cqnv88h

Join us at The Men Spirit for a safe space where men can connect, grow, and support each other. Discover the power of connection and growth. Our group focuses…

17/07/2025

Let's bust some myths about male grief. Many of us are taught to suppress our feelings, but that only leads to silent suffering.

Here are 5 common myths about male grief, and the truths that can set you free:

1.
MYTH: Time heals all wounds.
TRUTH: We learn to carry grief differently. Healing isn't about forgetting, but integrating the experience into your life.

2.
MYTH: Men should be strong and stoic.
TRUTH: Vulnerability IS strength. True strength lies in acknowledging your feelings and seeking support.

3.
MYTH: Grief has a clear set of stages.
TRUTH: Grief moves in waves. It's not a linear process, and feelings can resurface unexpectedly.

4.
MYTH: You need to get over it and move on.
TRUTH: Grief is unresolved love. It's about honoring that love and finding new ways to carry it forward.

5.
MYTH: Talking about grief makes it worse.
TRUTH: Sharing your story and connecting with others who understand can be incredibly healing. Isolation amplifies grief.

Join us for "Grief and Loss: The Why Me Question" on August 14th to learn how to transform pain into purpose. This workshop is a safe space for men to explore these truths and find authentic healing.

Early Bird: $15 AUD

Register: https://www.themenspirit.com/grief-loss-workshop-men

Which myth resonated most with you? Comment below 👇

Join The Men Spirit for a powerful online workshop on grief & loss. Learn to navigate your pain, find purpose, and connect with a supportive brotherhood. Exclusive for men. Register now!

12/07/2025

Men: An Invitation to Transform Your Relationship with Grief

After 20+ years in healthcare and men's work, I've learned something profound: most men carry unprocessed grief that impacts every area of their lives.

Not just grief from death - but from:
• Dreams that didn't materialize
• Relationships that ended
• Career setbacks
• Health challenges
• The gap between who you are and who you thought you'd be

This isn't about "getting over it" or "toughening up." It's about understanding that grief is unresolved love seeking expression.

"Grief and Loss: The Why Me Question" - 90 minutes that could reshape how you process life's inevitable losses.

📅 Thursday, August 14th, 11:00 AM AEST (Online)
💰 Early Bird: $15AUD

What You'll Discover:
✅ How to reframe the paralyzing "Why me?" question
✅ Practical tools for emotional regulation
✅ How grief can become your greatest teacher
✅ The power of authentic male community

This workshop fills a gap I see in men's mental health - a space specifically designed for how men process loss differently.

Your grief doesn't make you weak. Your willingness to face it makes you warrior.

Register: https://www.themenspirit.com/grief-loss-workshop-men

Questions? Comment below or message me directly.

04/07/2025

📢 July Newsletter 📢

Dive into our July newsletter from The Men Spirit! This month, we're exploring powerful topics like healing from grief, finding strength in shared stories, and connecting with your purpose.

Discover:
✨ Our special Grief & Loss Workshop
🗣️ How to share your story in 2 Voices 1 Circle
💡 Insights from Morteza Chalak on conscious love
🌳 Brotherhood in nature at Island of Men Community
🎧 A deep dive into inclusivity & masculinity on The Informed Perspective Podcast
📖 Why men avoid emotions and how to break the cycle

Plus, get your FREE 'Daily Questions for Men' to boost self-awareness and resilience!

Read the full newsletter here: https://mailchi.mp/ea875db555bd/july_newsletter

Welcome to the July edition of The Men Spirit newsletter! This month, we're diving deep into topics that matter to men: healing from grief, finding strength in shared stories, and connecting with purpose. We're excited to bring you insights from powerful voices in our community and opportunities to....