The Men Spirit

27/11/2025

I have a confession to make. For years, I was part of the Brotherhood of Complicity.

It's the unspoken agreement among men to stay silent when something feels wrong...to choose belonging over integrity. I've felt that knot in my stomach, that fear of being the one who "ruins the vibe." And every time I stayed quiet, a small piece of me disappeared.

But the cost of this silence is too high. It's not just about a joke or an uncomfortable moment; it's the same code that led to the devastating tragedy of Hannah Clarke. When we stay silent in the small moments, we reinforce the system that leads to the biggest ones.

I'm done with that code. My commitment now is to a new kind of strength: one that speaks up, one that chooses honesty, and one that demands better from myself and the men around me.

If you've ever felt the cost of that silence, I wrote this for you. It's time to break the code.

Read my full commitment and the resource on my empowerment page here:

A deep exploration of the Brotherhood of Complicity and how unspoken male codes enable harm. Learn how men can break the silence, heal, and lead real change.

23/11/2025

Another Monday, another round of Men's Minute updates! If you're tired of your only weekly update being "I survived Monday," you need to join our WhatsApp group.
https://chat.whatsapp.com/FXy7Ud00vA171p77zSsMQp

We're meeting up this Friday night in Mt Waverley! Ditch the couch and come hang out with some legends. Come for the connection, stay because you forgot how to leave 💙
When: Friday, 28th November, 7:00 PM - 9:00 PM
Where: Mt Waverley (Check the Luma link for details: https://luma.com/hjgidgv4

Join us at The Men Spirit for a safe space where men can connect, grow, and support each other. Discover the power of connection and growth. Our group focuses…

22/11/2025

When men start focusing on inner work, communication isn't the only thing that shifts. The real transformation begins inside.

It’s the internal dialogue that changes, that constant chatter of ego trying to protect you from discomfort, from growth, from vulnerability.
Most men don’t realise how loud that voice has been their whole lives.
But when you slow down enough to actually hear it…

When you recognise where it comes from fear, old wounds, conditioning something powerful happens.
You stop reacting.
You start choosing.
And that’s where the real change begins.
This is the work.
Not perfection. Not silence. Just a deeper awareness of the voice within, and the courage to rise above it.

Listen to the full episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/77exhBIpbn5IMZWPcnb0zu?si=KH_ud-HcSIabMXiw4Afoag

21/11/2025

Stop trying to fix her. Start trying to hold her.

That was one of the biggest takeaways from my recent chat on the Legacy Women Podcast with Kyriacou

We talked about the difference between a man who reacts and a man who is embodied—a man who can be present with his partner's emotions without getting defensive. This shift is the key to unlocking a woman's potential in life and business.

If you're ready to level up your presence and your partnership, this episode is a must-listen.

Tap the link to hear the full episode now!
Link: https://open.spotify.com/episode/77exhBIpbn5IMZWPcnb0zu?si=FOJcReUCRtegXdAb69v93Q
Or watch on Youtube:
https://youtu.be/Yiz-JnwyYoQ?si=hRd-4R0Y6AOZYrZ8

18/11/2025

International Men's Day

To the man I used to be: the one who smiled while breaking, who thought silence was strength, who held it all together even when falling apart—
I see you. And I need you to know something.
That version of strength almost killed us.
I'm not here to perform strength anymore. I'm here to be honest. To say "I'm not okay" and still show up anyway. To stop waiting for the world's permission to feel.

International Men's Day is this week, and people will post the right things. But then what? Awareness without action is just noise.

Real healing doesn't fit on a calendar. It's messy. It's daily. It's uncomfortable. And it's necessary.
So here's my challenge: stop waiting. Stop performing. Stop pretending.
You don't have to be strong right now.
You just have to be honest.

17/11/2025

I've felt unsafe in the safest places.
And weirdly safe in absolute chaos.

Safety isn't what I thought it was. It's not about having everything figured out or building the perfect life. It's about whether I can show up as my real self, with my partner, my friends, in my own damn head without performing or protecting.

Connection is what makes safety actually mean something. Without it, you're just guarding an empty fortress.

I wrote about what it really takes to feel safe enough to be real. Fair warning: it's vulnerable AF 💙

Exploring safety and connection as foundations for men's wellbeing. A therapist's personal journey through vulnerability, relationships, and creating authentic safe spaces.

10/11/2025

How many generations have carried the same pain in silence?

We inherited a language without words — one where you just push through, stay quiet, and be "the man." But that silence doesn't protect us. It destroys us.

With International Men's Day approaching, I'm not interested in performative posts or one-day awareness. I'm interested in the conversation you've been avoiding. The one sitting heavy in your chest. The one you rehearse but never say out loud.
It's time we break the cycle.
It's time we actually talk.
Not just today. Every day.

20/10/2025

Still feeling the energy from Menergy... what a weekend! My heart is so full. The connection, the honesty, the rawness… it’s something that feeds my soul! I know I’ll be carrying it for a while.

There’s something powerful about being surrounded by men who are willing to show up as they are. No freaking masks. No pretending. Just real conversations, open hearts, and shared humanity. Every man deserves to experience that at least once in his lifetime.

I’m already looking forward to crossing paths again, whether it’s over a coffee, or at the next Island of Men Community gathering.

And for those who feel called to go deeper, Sammy Haywood, Shane Brabazon and I are holding a powerful space this Saturday: Death as Our Teacher — at Essential Healing Centre. It’s a journey into what we often avoid, yet can transform us when we face it.

It won’t be comfortable, but it will be real.
If something in you stirs when you read this ...follow it.

👉 https://www.themenspirit.com/death-as-our-teacher

09/10/2025

We avoid death. We sanitize it. We pretend it’s distant.
Yet death is a teacher.

Join us Oct 25 for Death as Our Teacher: a ritual, a container, a fierce space for men to feel, to shake loose what’s dead inside, and to live more fully.

https://www.themenspirit.com/death-as-our-teacher

02/10/2025

The Men Spirit October Newsletter is out!

This month we’re diving deep...death, brotherhood, privilege, and the power of play.
Workshops, gatherings, and voices that will challenge you to face what you’ve been avoiding and step into real transformation.

Featuring:
⚫ Death as Our Teacher – What would you do with 24 hours left?
⚫ Menergy 2025 – Coming Home to Yourself
⚫ 2 Voices 1 Circle – Shared Stories. Shared Strength.
⚫ Spotlight on William Hassall: Persona Play

Read it here 👉https://mailchi.mp/53e0795cdb5b/october
Subscribe here 👉https://www.themenspirit.com/the-men-spirit-newsletter

01/10/2025

Ready to begin your first day alive?

What if facing death wasn't morbid but the key to radical aliveness?

Death as Our Teacher begins 24 hours before we gather. You'll live one complete day as if it were your last, not with panic, but with profound presence. Then we come together to explore what this teacher reveals.
In our intimate circle of 12 men, expect:

Deep emotions honored, not judged
Breakthrough moments held with love
Laughter emerging from authentic connection
The relief of being truly seen
Ancient ritual meeting modern men's work

Our experienced team creates safety for vulnerability, strength for sensitivity, space for whatever wants to emerge.

Many of us are living half-lives, running from the one certainty we all share. What would shift if you stopped running?

Saturday October 25th, 10am-2pm, Healing Centre
Early bird $100 ends tonight.

"You spoke as if you had one day left. Now go live as if today is your first."
Register: https://www.themenspirit.com/death-as-our-teacher

Death as Our Teacher is a men’s workshop that explores mortality as a gateway to deeper presence, brotherhood, and authentic living. Through circle, breathwork, ritual, and creative expression, we’ll face what men often avoid and uncover what truly matters. Not about death—about living fully.

29/09/2025

"Every problem that has troubled you has troubled me, also." - Khalil Gibran

Men, we carry so much alone. The weight of expectations, unexpressed grief, dreams we've buried, rage we've swallowed.

Death as Our Teacher creates sacred space where these feelings don't need to be fixed or hidden—they need to be witnessed, honored, transformed.

This isn't therapy or lecture. It's ritual. It's the ancient power of men gathering in circle, speaking truth, holding each other through what needs to break open.

You'll leave with:
-Crystal clarity on what truly matters
-Tools for ongoing transformation
-A network of conscious men walking this path
-The courage to live with radical aliveness

Saturday October 25th, 10am-2pm
Facilitated by Kosta & Sammy, eldered by Shane
Just 12 spots. Early bird $100 ends Oct 1st.

The question isn't whether you're ready.
The question is: Will you answer the call of your heart?
https://www.themenspirit.com/death-as-our-teacher

Death as Our Teacher is a men’s workshop that explores mortality as a gateway to deeper presence, brotherhood, and authentic living. Through circle, breathwork, ritual, and creative expression, we’ll face what men often avoid and uncover what truly matters. Not about death—about living fully.