Rochelle De Silva : Thrive Mindset Coaching

13/11/2024

🔥Stop Running Yourself Down for People Who Don’t See Your Worth 🌱🔥

Do you find yourself putting yourself down just to make someone else feel better? You realize they don’t really care, but somehow you still feel they’re more important than you are. 💭 So you blend in by demeaning yourself, making jokes at your own expense, praising them just to fit in. Why do we do this?

If you don’t feel comfortable around certain people, it’s okay to step away. Protect your peace instead of running yourself down to be noticed by someone who isn’t even noticing you. ❤️

Focus on becoming someone you’re proud of. When you respect and value yourself, you won’t need to seek approval from others who don’t truly see you. 🌟 Remember: you are more than enough.

Make yourself proud. 🌻

💪 ❤️ 🌱

12/11/2024

🌿 Healing After Abuse Isn’t About Forgetting 🌿

Leaving an abusive relationship leaves scars that never fully fade. 💔 People around you might say, “It’s over, just move on,” but they don’t understand—there is no forgetting. You can never erase the memories of that pain. The verbal abuse becomes an echo that’s hard to silence, and the physical trauma leaves marks that don’t just vanish. 🥀

Walking away was only the first step, and even after that, peace doesn’t come easily. So many people you turned to let you down. Those who you thought would protect you looked the other way. It took so much strength just to get here.

No, you can’t forget. The pain and hurt may always be part of you, but there is also hope. ✨ You can live with those memories without letting them ruin the rest of your beautiful life. 🌈

Healing means learning to cope, to rebuild your strength, and to open yourself up to the peace you truly deserve. It takes time, and it takes patience—but it is achievable. You can create a future filled with peace. 🕊️💫

You deserve it.

💪 💖

10/11/2024

🔥🎂 Alone on Your Birthday?🔥

It’s your birthday, but so far, it’s just you. You hope your family remembers, but no calls come through. At work, no one notices. You haven’t kept in touch with many friends, so you don’t expect a text. The day passes quietly, and you go home hoping someone will remember…but they don’t. Frustrated and hurt, you drown your thoughts at the bottom of a bottle, wondering, how did I get here? 🍷

Yes, you’ve been through a lot. A toxic relationship, betrayals that left you feeling you had no choice but to push people away. And now, you’re here—alone, guarded, unable to trust. Maybe it seems safer this way, but this loneliness is dragging you down. 😞

Please, don’t keep doing this to yourself. You deserve peace of mind, but remember—we all need people in our lives. Whether it’s a friend, a partner, or a family member, having someone to lean on can help you find clarity and joy again. 💬❤️

This is what life coaching is all about: letting go of the things holding you back, building the confidence to trust again, and finding that person (or people) who will be there for you. ✨ You can catch up to life, one step at a time. You don’t have to do it alone. 🕊️

💫 🧠

09/11/2024

🔥 When You’re Stuck in the Cycle…🔥

You wake up suddenly and realize…it’s later than you thought. 😞 It was supposed to be your day off, a day to get so much done, but now it’s slipping away. You try to start small—cleaning your room, making a plan—but it feels impossible with so much weighing on your mind. 🧠

Sometimes, the things we carry inside keep us from being productive, especially when we’re holding onto hurt and pain from past relationships. 💔 You try to drown it out the night before, only to have it pull you down again today. To live fully, we need a clear mind, free of yesterday’s hurt. But who can you turn to? 🤔

The truth is, no matter how independent we think we are, we all need someone. 🌱 Sometimes it’s a friend, sometimes a partner. But often, it’s that person you call a coach—the one who was a stranger, but now, someone you know you can count on. 💪✨

Don’t hold back. Reach out. Start living.
If you’re feeling weighed down by yesterday’s pain, know that you’re not alone. Reach out. Speak up. Start living again.

✨ Tag a friend who might need to hear this today. Remember, reaching out is the first step to healing. 💬💪

27/09/2024

🔥🔥Your Self-Worth 🔥🔥

Loving oneself is one of the hardest things to do in life, especially after the struggles of toxic relationships. 💔 It requires accepting yourself for who you truly are, flaws and all. We're often shaped and molded by society, influenced by others' expectations. But how long can you live as a stranger to yourself?

When I was being abused, I convinced myself I was just his punching bag, there for him to figure out his issues. When so-called friends used me, I still told myself I was their support. I gave up on myself because I didn’t know my worth.

But that changed. Slowly but surely, I found my self-worth. 💪 I began to appreciate the little things and started to fight for myself. The key was courage. Once I hit rock bottom, there was only one way left to go—up.

If someone had told me ten years ago that I’d be happily married to an amazing woman and have a daughter who brings joy and self worth into my life, I wouldn’t have believed them. But today, I’m living a life I couldn’t have even imagined, and it scares me to think how close I came to throwing it all away.

No matter where you are in life, you deserve love, peace, and happiness. And trust me, the fight to rediscover your self-worth is worth it. Help is always out there if you look for it and, most importantly, if you believe you’re worth it.

✨ You are stronger than you know. Keep fighting for yourself. ✨

03/08/2024

01/08/2024

Finding Clarity and Self-Worth in Relationships 💔🌟

There comes a time when you might wonder if things will ever work out for you. You've gone through various relationships, and nothing seemed to work out. Then you reach a state where you tell yourself, "If this time it doesn't work out, I'm done!!"

Then you meet someone, and you have told yourself so many times that this has to be the one or no more, that you would settle for just about anything, especially if they offer you a mere chance of getting what you want, which might be a family of your own and kids.

This is what an abusive narcissistic person would latch on to. The next thing you know, you're in a relationship that you have emotionally invested too deeply in, and you are being used and manipulated into living a life of misery.

We cannot stop certain things that happen to us in life. But the next thing we end up doing is blaming ourselves and everyone around us for letting us get into this situation. If you are in the mindset that you are too old to be living alone or too old for a family and kids and want to dive in with everything into an unknown relationship, then you need to take a step back and evaluate what it is that's going on inside you. You need to set your goals and standards and, most of all, value yourself!!! 🌟

You need to figure out why things are not working out and why you are getting desperate. Most often, these stem from an early age in life where a small piece of memory latches on to your subconscious mind, creating a gestalt, which is a collection of memories with simple but also misinterpreted emotions causing you to make and feel emotions with the wrong intentions.

With help, you can change things around and open your mind to new possibilities and make decisions more clearly than with an old perspective. 💖

Remember, you deserve a fulfilling and loving relationship. Don't let past experiences dictate your future. Take control of your life and make decisions that align with your true self. You are worthy of happiness and love. 💕

25/07/2024

🔥Finding Your Path After Leaving an Abusive Relationship 🌟💔🔥

Do you find yourself wondering what to do with your life after finally walking away from that abusive relationship? “How can I completely break free?” “Where do I go from here?” “What purpose is there anymore?” “Will I be able to get past this?” “Is there a point in dealing with this?”

The emotions keep overwhelming you, and your head is full of unnecessary thoughts that you cannot function without breakdowns.

When I left my abusive ex, I was so overwhelmed with what he had entangled me in that I just wanted to end myself. I saw no way out at one point, and the thoughts that came into my mind are horrible to even think of now. Especially when I see myself now, what I’ve achieved, and what lies ahead.

It is the most difficult time when you are alone, left to your own thoughts, and have to sort out your life by yourself. So, know this: **You are not alone!!** There are many who have overcome this step in regaining their lives from scratch and rebuilding everything they thought they lost at one point in their lives.

Learning **NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)** and using it to reshape thoughts and set goals is a method we use to help you achieve inner peace and focus on the future instead of dwelling in the past. It overrides your trauma, gives you a new perspective, and makes room for more positive and energized thoughts.

When you are ready and want to let go of your daunting past, help and guidance to achieve it is only a small step away. 💖

Here are some steps to help you start your healing journey:

1. **Acknowledge Your Feelings**: Allow yourself to feel the pain, anger, and sadness. Suppressing emotions only makes the healing process longer. 🥺

2. **Seek Support**: Reach out to friends, family, or support groups who understand your situation. You don’t have to go through this alone. 🤝

3. **Set Small Goals**: Start with small, achievable goals to rebuild your confidence and sense of purpose. 🏅

4. **Practice Self-Care**: Take care of your physical and mental health. Exercise, eat well, and get enough sleep. 🌸

5. **Learn and Apply NLP Techniques**: NLP can help you reframe your thoughts, set clear goals, and move forward with a positive mindset. 🧠

6. **Visualize Your Future**: Imagine the life you want to create and take steps towards making it a reality. Vision boards can be a helpful tool. 🖼️

7. **Celebrate Your Progress**: No matter how small, celebrate every step forward. It’s a sign of your resilience and strength. 🎉

You deserve a life filled with happiness, peace, and self-worth. Don’t let your past define you. Take the first step towards a brighter future today. 💪

24/07/2024

🔥 Free from Body Shaming in Toxic Relationships 💔🚫🔥
“Look at you!! You need to lose that weight!! You look fat, what have you been stuffing yourself with??”

These are remarks your abusive, controlling partner starts telling you when they see you getting along with people better than them. They can't handle the attention being on you and how good you look. They will lie through their teeth to make you feel lousy about yourself. When they see how they can use this to control you, they start humiliating you in front of friends and family to corner you and shame you. This is done only for them to feel superior. 💔

In their heads, all you are is someone they need to control and use for their benefit. Sadly, after years of this constant humiliation, you start to see yourself as they describe you. No matter how good you look, you will only see the person they describe when you look in the mirror. 🪞

Sometimes, this multiplies if you experienced such trauma as a child. If a parent, sibling, or close friend you trusted or had a crush on kept saying these things, it gets embedded in your subconscious mind, manipulating how you see yourself in years to come.

Even though you leave these relationships, you can't shake the feeling of being too fat or skinny. You don't believe anyone when they say you look great, assuming they are lying. 😔

Trauma caused over the years needs to be dealt with. It all comes down to how much you love yourself and want peace of mind. Don't be afraid to take that step to free your mind to accept what you truly are. You are definitely worth it. 🌟

20/07/2024

🔥 Free from a Toxic Mindset: You Deserve Better 💔🌟🔥

You meet a friend who is going through a breakup and just found out her partner had raised his hand against her. It infuriates you!!! You get so emotional you could call this person out and give him a piece of your mind!!! You try to advise and calm your friend because you know it's wrong to lay a hand on your partner. You know exactly how hurtful it feels, but you push that aside because your friend is more important right now. After all, you are used to being treated this way and can keep taking it!!!

This is a very toxic mindset to be in. You have been brainwashed into believing you deserve to be treated this way, and only someone other than you deserves better!!! Especially if you grew up in an environment where you saw your parents arguing constantly or your father raised his hand to “discipline you.”

Sadly, your unconscious mind has already tagged these behaviors as normal, and you keep enduring this pain until it consumes you. If you do not deal with letting it go, it will eventually lead you to a life of constant hurt.

When you finally walk out of an abusive relationship, you need to deal with letting go of all these stored-up negative emotions. You have to get to the root cause of when it was first deemed okay for you to dismiss your own pain. You, too, like your friend, deserve love, understanding, and guidance. We all need help. You, too, have to want and desire a life worthy of you.

Remember, you deserve better. You deserve love and respect. It's time to break free from the toxic mindset and embrace a life full of self-worth and happiness. 💖

18/07/2024

🔥 Nightmares After a Narcissistic Relationship 🌙💔🔥
You keep waking up from nightmares that he's after you. No matter what situation you're in, the dreams are consistent—him cornering you, humiliating you, even threatening your life.

Coming out of a toxic, narcissistic relationship leaves scars. Even years after you've left, the dreams persist because the hurt is stored in your unconscious mind and hasn’t been dealt with. If you leave your hurt and despair for time to forget, it only gets stowed away, reappearing with the slightest trigger.

You may think you've moved on, but when you enter that new relationship where you finally feel safe and loved, those forgotten feelings of hurt, sadness, and fear creep up through the lightest triggers, always haunting your dreams. That's how it begins.They can eventually damage and ruin what could have been a new life for you.

You have the power to shape your future after the sadness, hurt and misery you went through. You can stop those bad dreams that now rule your sleep and keep creeping up on life and move forward with what life can offer you. It's amazing what beauty it holds for you. You will be able to accept the happiness of freedom and peace of mind once you let go. Help is just a click away. 💖