I-myself

16/12/2025

Tim Minchin, often celebrated for his wit and wisdom, reminds us that lasting impact is forged not by grand gestures, but by the quiet power of consistent effort, humble dedication, and incremental progress – a message that resonates deeply in my work fostering wellbeing in educational settings.

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23/11/2025

Curiosity aroused…

Major Discovery: Shared Genes Behind Multiple Mental Health Disorders 🧬🧠

Scientists have uncovered hundreds of shared genetic variants linked to autism, ADHD, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, major depression, Tourette syndrome, OCD, and anorexia.

Researchers identified 683 genes that influence key stages of brain development, revealing why many of these conditions often appear together in individuals and families. These variants affect multiple brain-growth processes and interact through complex protein networks. 

This breakthrough challenges the idea that each disorder is entirely separate. Instead, it suggests many mental health conditions may be rooted in overlapping genetic pathways — raising the possibility that future treatments could target several disorders at once.

With nearly 1 billion people worldwide affected by mental health challenges, this research marks a major step toward more effective, genetically-informed therapies.

🔗 Source: Cell (2025) — “Eight Psychiatric Disorders Share the Same Genetic Causes, Study Says”

Lee, S., McAfee, J. C., Lee, J., Gomez, A., Ledford, A. T., Clarke, D. … Won, H. (2025). Massively parallel reporter assay investigates shared genetic variants of eight psychiatric disorders. Cell, 188(5), 1409–1424.e21.
PMID: 39848247

17/10/2025

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29/08/2025

Parental Love is expressed in so many ways… often it’s in the small details and actions we’re not even aware of, that they just do for you because ‘that’s what parents do.’

Sometimes we carry childhood wounds about our parents.
They yelled. They didn’t always give enough attention. They swatted us on the back of the head. Didn’t buy the toy we wanted. Fought in front of us. Maybe they didn’t say “I love you” as often as we needed — and yes, a therapist can tell you: you weren’t loved enough.

But how could a therapist know the details? The little things we might not even remember?

I think back to when I came home on break from college with my 8-month-old daughter. She was a restless sleeper, waking and crying at night. I’d already gotten used to it. Rock her, soothe her, repeat.

That very first night, my dad quietly showed me a “life hack,” as people say now. He brought in a rug and a pillow, laid them next to the baby’s crib, and said:
“We’ll take turns sleeping right here on the floor. It’s easier. You don’t have to jump out of bed all night. Or maybe I’ll just do it myself. It’s good for my back anyway.”

Then he casually added: “I actually slept this way for a year when you were little. Your mom was in med school full-time, I was working at the psychiatric hospital and pulling shifts on the ambulance. And every night I slept on the floor by your crib. Easier to get up fast when you cried. Safer that way.”

I never knew. He never said. Nobody told me. He didn’t swear his love, didn’t make speeches, didn’t declare: I never slept! I sacrificed everything for you!

He just… slept on the floor. And was ready to do it again for his granddaughter. Because in his mind, how else could it be? That was love.

Not every parent said out loud, “I love you.” Back then, it wasn’t the norm. Instead, they showed it in details: saving the best piece of food for us, spending their last dollars on a pair of nice shoes, running out in the middle of the night for medicine, sitting up through sickness, sleeping on a rug by the crib.

So yes, if a therapist can help us heal, that’s good. But if not, maybe we need to remember the little things before we conclude we “weren’t loved.”

Because love often is the details — the kind we don’t always notice, or even remember.

— Anna Kiryanova

17/07/2025

You won’t always recognise a cry for love when it comes wrapped in defiance, anger, or attitude.
But that’s often when it’s needed most.

Some kids don’t know how to ask for comfort.
So they push.
They test.
They unravel right in front of you — not to make your life harder,
but because they don’t yet have the words to say:
“I’m scared. I’m overwhelmed. I need you.”

Their behaviour isn’t defiance.
It’s a signal.
A flare.
A silent question:
Will you still choose me — even like this?

And if we can hold steady in those moments —
not because it’s easy, but because it matters —
we show them what love really is:

Not conditional.
Not earned.
Not withdrawn when things get hard.

But constant.
Rooted.
Real.

That’s what makes your presence so powerful.

Not because you fix it all —
but because you stay when it’s hardest to stay.

That’s when love speaks loudest.
Not through the ease — but through the storm. ❤️

Quote Credit: Dr. Russell A. Barkley ❣️

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14/07/2025

Do you know how to REST?
Not doing anything ... JUST REST?

It’s school holidays and I’m making every effort not to be busy and instead to intentionally rest!
Trying not to fall into the trap of believing that doing nothing… means doing nothing for myself.

•••

We’ve been conditioned to believe that not being productive is somehow a failure.

That if it doesn’t have a visible outcome, it doesn’t count.

That rest is wasted time.

We’ve become so used to being busy —

to checking off boxes,

to tracking our progress,

to measuring worth in output —

that we’ve forgotten something essential:

Rest is productive.

It’s the moment your body heals.

Your mind exhales.

Your soul whispers.

Reading a magazine.

Taking a long shower.

Sitting in the garden with a warm cup of coffee.

None of it is a waste.

Because time spent resting… is time well spent.

We’re not machines.

We’re not meant to hustle 24/7.

We are human beings.

And sometimes, we just need to be.

— Becky Hemsley

Echoes of Insight

10/07/2025

Joy can change the entire journey!

When joy leads, everything shifts.

The atmosphere softens.
The power struggles lose their grip.
Connection deepens — not through force, but through fun.

Because when laughter echoes louder than commands…
When silliness is allowed to sit at the table…
When your child feels like you enjoy BEING with them…

That’s when trust takes root.
That’s when cooperation becomes natural.
That’s when the relationship begins to lead.

And joy doesn’t just change them — it changes you.

Suddenly, everything feels a little less urgent.
The meltdowns feel less catastrophic.
The mess feels less offensive.

Joy widens the lens — and when the pressure eases, so do we.

It reminds us that this isn’t about perfection.
It’s about presence.
Because your child won’t remember every rule you enforced — but they’ll never forget the way it felt to be around you.

Make joy the star of the show.
That’s when the real magic begins. ❤️

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07/06/2025

This is a thought provoking read. Who do you have in your life who could be this to you?

She was drowning.
And nobody noticed…
Nobody, except her.

It was June 2022, at the World Championships in Budapest.
Anita Álvarez, an American artistic swimmer with Mexican roots, was performing a flawless routine.
But when her performance ended… she didn’t come up for air.

She had lost consciousness.
Her body floated for a few seconds, then began to sink.
Slowly. All the way to the bottom of the pool.

The audience didn’t notice. Neither did the judges.
Everyone was clapping.

But her coach, Andrea Fuentes, noticed.
She knew Anita—knew exactly how long it took her to surface.
She felt in her heart that something was wrong.

Without thinking twice, she dove in.
Fully dressed. Shoes and all.

She swam straight down, grabbed Anita by the waist,
and brought her back up.
She saved her life.

This story left me thinking…

Who knows you well enough to notice when you’re not okay, even if you’re still smiling?
Who would dive in for you without hesitation when you no longer have the strength to come up for air?

And more importantly…

Would you be that person for someone else?
Are you present enough in your loved ones’ lives to sense the moment they start to sink?
Or are you just another spectator, clapping, not realizing that inside, they’re fading?

In this life, we all need someone who doesn’t just see us—
but truly notices us.
Someone who knows when we’re about to give up,
and has the courage to jump in and save us.