15/01/2026
Grief has no time-frame and no end-date. It lasts as long as love does and we don't stop loving someone just because they die.
A client booked in this week for grief counselling, initially second-guessing her need for counselling, as she lost her husband over 2 years ago.
As someone who is personally two-and-a-half-years into my grief journey I understand how people could be made to feel this way by our grief-avoidant society.
By the two-year mark more people have moved on with their intact lives and less check in with you or ask about your grief or your loved one. Assuming you are OK now, and timehas healed you.
Society sends us the false message that you should be 'better', 'over it', 'moved on' by now or there is something wrong with you and how you are grieving.
As a grieving woman and a grief counsellor I know that grief doesn't work this way.
Grief changes and often we grieve silently in our aloneness, but it always remains, and should always be acknowledged.
Some days grief is calm and other days it is still intense, sometimes without warning.
Sometimes you can still stop and think 'I still can't believe you are gone'. Even after all these years, and that is normal.
Do you feel like this? How long have you been grieving? Do you feel supported in your grief or has support reduced?
Please share in the comments with a 💚 if you can relate.
Reach out if you need grief counselling, no matter how many years it has been 🌸.
