Anne Sureyya Psychotherapist & Counsellor

Anne Sureyya Psychotherapist & Counsellor Guiding you back to yourself through love & awareness
Adelaide & Online
For those seeking clarity connection & change
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You don’t need certainty to decide.You need safety, honesty, and self-respect.And if these questions feel hard to answer...
05/02/2026

You don’t need certainty to decide.

You need safety, honesty, and self-respect.

And if these questions feel hard to answer alone - that’s not a failure.

That’s where support matters

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04/02/2026

Going back can feel like hope. Belonging. Familiarity. A story you’ve already invested in.

You’ve built memories. Shared meaning. Attachment.
So when they ask you to come back, it can feel comforting, even reassuring.

But notice this:
If your nervous system starts to feel tight, restless, or on edge… it may not be fear of the unknown.
It may be your body remembering the rupture that’s coming.

Healing isn’t about forcing yourself forward.
It’s about listening to what your body already knows.

03/02/2026

As a psychotherapist, I often sit with people who are deeply loving and deeply exhausted.

Not because they don’t care enough, but because they’ve been giving their light away in the hope it will be returned.

When we don’t feel anchored in our own sense of worth, love can become something we chase.

We sacrifice pieces of ourselves, hoping another person will finally fill the space we feel inside.

But love that requires you to dim your light isn’t love — it’s longing shaped by unmet needs.

Healing begins when we notice this pattern and gently turn back toward ourselves.

02/02/2026

When you’re standing at a crossroads (a job, a relationship, a big life choice) the question isn’t "What should I do?"

It’s: What would this ask of me… over time?

Not just the relief it brings today but who you’d need to become in 3 months?

How your nervous system would feel in 6 months?

Whether your life would feel more spacious or more contracted in 12 months?

Clarity often comes when we stop asking what’s safest right now and start asking what supports our long-term regulation, self-respect, and growth.

A grounded choice should feel steady, not rushed 🌿

Your nervous system doesn’t lie but it also doesn’t use words.It speaks through sensation, impulse, and emotion long bef...
29/01/2026

Your nervous system doesn’t lie but it also doesn’t use words.

It speaks through sensation, impulse, and emotion long before the mind catches up with a story.

Learning to listen isn’t about reacting to every feeling.
It’s about creating enough safety to understand what your body is communicating.

When you trust your nervous system, decisions become calmer, boundaries clearer, and self-trust steadier.

The body tells the truth first.
Your job is to slow down enough to hear it.

28/01/2026

5 red flags you might be romanticising in relationships...

1 - Inconsistency that feels like excitement
The unpredictability creates adrenaline, which can be mistaken for chemistry.

2 - Emotional unavailability framed as depth
Distance gets interpreted as complexity or something to be patient with.

3 - Potential over presence
You stay for who they could be, not how they show up now.

4 - You carrying the emotional labour
You do the explaining, repairing, and regulating and call it commitment.

5 - Confusion you treat as a challenge
Instead of information, uncertainty becomes something to work harder at.

These aren’t personal failures.
They’re learned patterns shaped by what once felt familiar or necessary for connection.

Healthy love is clear, consistent, and mutual.
It doesn’t ask you to abandon yourself to be chosen.

27/01/2026

Social anxiety often isn’t about being judged. It’s about what happens inside you when you imagine judgment.

The body braces.
The mind scans.
The nervous system prepares for threat.

What matters isn’t what others are thinking, it’s whether you feel secure within yourself while being seen.

When there’s inner safety, you can feel sensation without panic, presence without performance, attention without collapse.

This doesn’t come from forcing confidence. It comes from building internal security, learning to stay with yourself when activation arises.

When you trust that you can hold your own experience, the room softens.

You don’t become fearless.
You become anchored.

26/01/2026

You can do all the self-work in the world and still feel stuck in a relationship.

Because insight alone doesn’t create repair.

Healing a relationship requires two regulated nervous systems, mutual accountability, and willingness to meet discomfort together.

You can take responsibility for your side.
You can communicate clearly.
You can soften, reflect, and try again.

But you cannot create connection by yourself.

If you’re doing all the regulating, repairing, and reaching, that’s not healing - that’s carrying.

Relationships don’t heal through effort alone.
They heal through reciprocity.

22/01/2026

We often build identities to protect what’s tender inside us...

The amazing mother
The over-performer
The strong one
The one who holds it all together

These roles aren’t fake - they’re intelligent adaptations.
Ways to be seen, valued, and safe in the world.

But when identity becomes armour, we start measuring our worth by output, usefulness, or how others perceive us.

Ego asks: How am I valuable?
The self asks: Can I just be here?

Healing isn’t about stripping identities away.
It’s about loosening our grip on them so we can show up as we are — not just as who we think we need to be.

You don’t need to perform to be worthy.
Your value isn’t something you prove.
It’s something you remember.

21/01/2026

Potential can feel intoxicating. It carries hope, imagination, and the promise of what could be.

But partnership isn’t built on possibility. It’s built on presence.

Consistency.
Availability.
Follow-through.

If you’re constantly waiting for growth, clarity, or effort to arrive,
you’re not in a partnership - you’re in anticipation.

This isn’t about giving up on someone.
It’s about staying connected to reality.

Love isn’t proven by what might happen.
It’s shown by what’s happening now.

20/01/2026

You’ve read the books.
You know your attachment style.
You can trace your patterns back to childhood and name exactly where they came from

That’s not nothing, it matters.

But insight alone doesn’t teach your nervous system how to show up differently in real life

Healing happens in relationship.
With support.
With someone who can help you stay present when old responses get activated.

You don’t need more information.
You need regulation, reflection, and repair in real time.

This isn’t a failure of self-work.
It’s the next step.

We don’t heal in isolation. We heal with support that helps us practice being ourselves in the world.

19/01/2026

If you keep asking 'should I leave?' pause before you answer it

That question usually doesn’t come from nowhere.
It often appears when something in you doesn’t feel settled, safe, or met.

You don’t need to rush into action. But you also don’t need to argue with the question away.

Instead, ask gently...
What part of me is asking this?
What feels unresolved or heavy?
What would staying require me to keep tolerating?

Clarity doesn’t come from forcing a decision. It comes from listening to what’s already being communicated.

If you have to keep convincing yourself to stay, your body may already be giving you the answer

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