11/09/2025
I totally agree with this. It’s important to reach in and check but only if you have the time and capacity to sit with another’s distress.
There are so many logistical problems with RUOkDay, even though the intent is honourable and well intended.
If your RUOK day event/gesture/focus etc is safe for the ones who are more or less Ok and not safe for the ones who are not at all ok you are perpetuating the harm.
Every time someone says ‘how are you?’ And the other is forced to say ‘good thanks’ because the setting, time frame, pace, person, energy, communication style isn’t conducive to an honest reply the loneliness deepens.
Checking in shouldn’t be tokenistic. If you truly wish to support those who aren’t OK deepen your own trauma informed practices. This is the outcome the world needs