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𝘚𝘰𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘤 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘱𝘪𝘴𝘵, 𝘐𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘤𝘺 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩 + 𝘞𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘦𝘳.
𝘕𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘴𝘺𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘮 𝘣𝘢𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘴𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺, 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴 + 𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵

𝘉𝘰𝘥𝘺-𝘉𝘢𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘚𝘰𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘤 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘱𝘺
𝘐𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘤𝘺 + 𝘊𝘰𝘶𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘴 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩
𝘚𝘢𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘚𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘍𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳
𝘚𝘩𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘤 + 𝘈𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘭 𝘏𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨
𝘞𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯’𝘴 𝘙𝘦𝘥 𝘛𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘍𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳

01/06/2026

The further I’ve gone along in my growth - the less interested I’ve become in all the woo woo.

Women already carry enough mystery, depth, intuition, and wisdom within them.

What I find myself craving now are spaces that feel grounded. Spaces where we can slow down, exhale, and be human together.

Places where we can share our stories without judgement, interruption, advice, or pressure to be anything other than what we are.

A chance to rest, receive, connect, and remember that we don’t have to carry everything alone.

I’ve been holding Women’s Red Tents for over a decade, it’s warm, it’s nourishing, it’s unpretentious and it’s free or pay by donation. Just bring something yummy to share and sit with us every fortnight.

🌹 Women’s Red Tent
📍 Ocean Shores
📅 Tuesday June 2nd

A space for honest sharing, nervous system care, connection, and the quiet medicine of being witnessed.

31/05/2026

The older I get, the less interested I become in spaces that promise to fix me, awaken me, activate me, or transform me into a better version of myself.

The more I’ve found myself drawn to rooms full of women speaking honestly about their lives.

Women sharing the things that are actually happening.

The joys.
The heartbreaks.
The questions.
The grief.
The exhaustion.

The moments that crack us open and the moments that put us back together again.

I think life initiates us far more deeply than any workshop, book, certification, or spiritual concept ever could.

We bleed.
We birth.
We mother.
We love.
We fall.
We survive.

We begin again.

And somewhere along the way, I’ve come to believe that one of the most powerful things a woman can experience is being witnessed by other women who simply get it.

No fixing.
No advice.
No pressure to be more evolved than you are.

Just honest conversation, deep listening, and the relief of remembering you’re not alone.

That is why I keep creating Red Tents.

🌹 Women’s Red Tent
📍 Ocean Shores
📅 Tuesday June 2nd

A space for honest sharing, nervous system care, connection, and the quiet medicine of being witnessed.

28/05/2026

People talk about anger like it is the problem.

I honestly think the real problem is that most people were never shown what healthy anger actually looks like.

Many of us grew up around rage, punishment, screaming, violence, blame, defensiveness, or emotional shutdown.

So we learned to fear anger.
Suppress it.
Disconnect from it.
Judge it.

We became the peacemakers.
The accommodators.
The ones who swallowed everything to avoid conflict.

But the body keeps score when we continuously silence ourselves.

The body knows when something feels wrong.
When a boundary has been crossed.
When something hurts.
When something feels unsafe.
When resentment is building.
When we are abandoning ourselves to keep others comfortable.

Anger is often the first signal.

Not violence.
Not cruelty.
Not abuse.

Protective energy.

The part of the nervous system that says:
“Enough.”
“This matters.”
“You do not get to treat me this way.”

I think this is why so many people become anxious, exhausted, numb, depressed, resentful, or disconnected after years of suppressing themselves.

The fire has nowhere to go.

Anger gives boundaries strength.

It protects what is precious.
It protects the self.
It protects life.

And healing is not about becoming endlessly agreeable.

It is learning how to stay connected to your heart while also staying connected to your fire.

27/05/2026

I’ll be holding another Red Tent on June 2nd, and for those who have been wanting to come along, this is your invitation ♥️

The Red Tent is a warm and welcoming space to slow down, breathe, and come back to yourself.

Rooted in the ancient tradition of women gathering in circle, this is a place for connection, reflection, rest, and honest conversation.

A space where you don’t have to hold everything alone.

Together we sit, share, listen, laugh, soften, and reconnect with ourselves and each other in an intimate setting.

There is no pressure to be anything other than who you are that day.

These evenings are about creating steadier inner foundations, caring for the nervous system, and remembering the importance of community, support, and being witnessed in our real experience.

Whether you are feeling full, overwhelmed, tender, disconnected, in transition, or simply needing time for yourself, you are welcome here.

I hold these spaces as a somatic therapist, intimacy coach, and shamanic practitioner with over twelve years of experience in somatic and ancestral healing work. My approach is grounded, relational, and deeply respectful of the body’s pace and wisdom.

This is not about fixing yourself. It is about creating space to listen more deeply to yourself in the company of other women, in a small intimate setting.

Details in bio 🌹

24/05/2026

Somatic k!nk was never only about sensation for me.

It became a way of understanding the body more honestly.

A way of noticing all the moments I disappeared from myself long before I ever entered a scene.

The freeze response.
People pleasing.
Overriding discomfort.
Performing comfort.
Smiling while disconnected.
Saying yes while my nervous system quietly shut down underneath me.

I think many of us learned very early that attachment was safer than truth.

So we adapted.

We learned to stay connected to others by disconnecting from ourselves.

And this is why somatic k!nk interested me so deeply.

Because eventually the question stops being:
“What do I want to do?”

And becomes:
“Can I remain connected to myself while doing it?”

Can I notice when my body tightens?
When my breath disappears?
When surrender becomes collapse?
When desire becomes performance?
When my yes is alive?
And when it is survival?

For me, this work became a practice of returning to the body again and again instead of leaving it.

Returning to sensation.
Returning to truth.
Returning to boundaries.
Returning to choice.
Returning to consent that is not only verbal, but embodied.

And honestly, that changed far more than my sexuality.

It changed the way I love.
The way I communicate.
The way I set boundaries.
The way I listen to myself.
The way I stay.

21/05/2026

Feminine entrepreneurship was never meant to cost you your aliveness.

I think so many women begin their businesses from a place of devotion.

A longing to create and serve.
To make something real.

But somewhere along the way, many of us begin abandoning ourselves inside the very thing we once loved.

The nervous system becomes flooded with pressure.
Comparison.
Visibility.
Algorithms.
Constant output.
The quiet fear that if we stop producing, we will disappear.

And slowly the work can lose its pulse.

I have felt this myself, and seen it in many others.

The temptation to become more polished than honest.
More consumable than human.
To stay endlessly available.
To keep giving while the body quietly aches for rest and care.

And I do not think this only happens in business.
I think many of us learned to abandon ourselves in relationships long before we did it in work.

To override discomfort.
To ignore intuition.
To stay connected to others while quietly disconnecting from ourselves.

Eventually the body tells the truth through exhaustion, resentment, burnout, numbness, and the loss of creativity and life force.

For me, healing and feminine entrepreneurship feel deeply connected because both ask the same question:

Can I stay connected to myself while creating, loving, building, and being seen?

Can I stop sacrificing my body and wellbeing for success, productivity, connection, or belonging?

I no longer believe sustainable work can be built through self abandonment.

I can no longer push through my Moontime as though my body is an inconvenience.
Or allow work to consume the spaces that belong to my family, relationships, health, creativity, and inner life.

I think feminine entrepreneurship asks us to build in a way that allows us to stay connected to our humanity while we do it.

I think people feel the difference when something is created from presence instead of pressure.

Because work created from embodiment carries life inside it.

Perhaps feminine entrepreneurship is about becoming brave enough to remain human while being visible.

19/05/2026

Healing changed for me when I realised how much of my life had been built around overriding myself.

I could explain my patterns.
I could intellectualise my wounds.
I could hold space for everyone else beautifully.

But underneath all of that, my body was still bracing.

Still hypervigilant.
Still trying to earn safety.
Still abandoning itself in small quiet ways to maintain connection, love, harmony, belonging.

For me, healing has looked far less glamorous than I imagined.

Sometimes it looks like cancelling plans because my body genuinely needs rest.

Setting a boundary even though it disappoints someone.

Walking away from dynamics that keep my nervous system in survival.

Admitting I’m angry.
Admitting I’m hurt.
Admitting I need support.

There were years where I could talk about healing endlessly while still ignoring exhaustion, overriding my intuition, minimising my needs, and pushing past what my body was trying to tell me.

And honestly, one of the deepest parts of this work has been rebuilding trust with myself.

Learning to stop negotiating against my own knowing.

Learning to stop explaining away the things that hurt.

Learning to believe the tightening in my chest, the exhaustion in my body, the quiet voice inside me that already knew.

These days healing feels less like fixing myself and more like returning to myself.

More honesty.
More softness.
More boundaries.
More truth.

And slowly the body responds.

The shoulders soften.
The breath deepens.
Pleasure returns.
Creativity returns.
Life force returns.

You do not become someone else through healing.

You become someone who finally feels safe enough to stop abandoning themselves.

19/05/2026

I’ve been thinking lately about how much energy can get trapped around people who hurt us.

Not just because of what they did.
But because part of us is still trying to make sense of it.

Still trying to understand how someone could deny what happened.
Minimise it.
Twist it.
Avoid responsibility.
Act as though your pain is unreasonable.

And meanwhile your nervous system stays activated around them.

Replaying conversations.
Revisiting moments.
Trying to finally land somewhere solid inside yourself.

I think sometimes what keeps us mentally circling certain people is that the nervous system never fully found resolution.

Especially when you felt powerless.
Dependent.
Unable to fully speak.
Unable to fully leave.
Unable to fully defend yourself.

The body holds onto unfinished survival responses.

And when anger cannot fully move, it often becomes looping.
Rumination.
Mental circling.

Not because you’re irrational.
Because some part of you is still trying to restore safety, dignity, and coherence.

But I’ve also realised that constantly circling someone keeps you tethered to them.

You stay psychologically connected to the very thing you want freedom from.

At some point healing becomes less about finally being understood and more about seeing clearly.

Seeing the person clearly.
Seeing the dynamic clearly.
Seeing yourself clearly.

Not needing to collapse into self doubt anymore.
Not needing to keep prosecuting the case internally.

Just reaching the quiet point where something inside you says:

“I see this clearly now.”

And slowly, the body no longer needs to hold the person at the centre of its survival.

25/04/2026

There comes a time when a woman begins to see clearly.

Not because everything around her has changed,
but because something in her has.

She starts to notice the ways she has been keeping the peace.
The soft agreements she has made to stay close, to stay loved, to stay safe.

It can look like kindness.
It can look like understanding.
It can look like being easy to be with.

But underneath, there is a quiet turning away from herself.

A letting pass of things that did not sit right.
A leaning toward another’s voice because it carried more certainty, more volume, more force.

And over time, the ground beneath her begins to shift.

She feels it. Something is off.
But she cannot yet name it.

Until one day, something in her does not bend in the same way.

She pauses.

She listens.

And she begins to see.

She sees how easily confidence can be mistaken for truth.
How intensity can wear the mask of authority.
How another can speak with such certainty that she forgets to check what she knows in her own bones.

And then, deeper still, she sees how much she has allowed.

Not from weakness, but from a learned way of being.
A way that once kept her safe, once kept her connected.

But no longer.

And when she sees it, truly sees it, something begins to return.

Her sense of knowing.
Her steadiness.
Her refusal to abandon herself in the name of keeping things smooth.

She speaks more clearly now.
She holds her ground a little longer.

And she learns something important.

Not everyone will meet her there.

Some will turn away from accountability.
Some will place what is theirs into her hands and call it hers.

And this, too, she learns to recognise.

She no longer argues for her own reality.
She no longer twists herself to be understood.

She steps back.

She lets the truth be what it is.

And she walks.

Not in anger,
but in clarity.

Choosing herself.
Over and over.

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