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𝘚𝘖𝘔𝘈𝘛𝘐𝘊 𝘎𝘜𝘐𝘋𝘌
𝘌𝘙𝘖𝘛𝘐𝘊 𝘌𝘔𝘉𝘖𝘋𝘐𝘔𝘌𝘕𝘛
𝘚𝘏𝘈𝘔𝘈𝘕𝘐𝘊 ☥ 𝘈𝘕𝘊𝘌𝘚𝘛𝘙𝘈𝘓 𝘈𝘙𝘛𝘚
𝘙𝘌𝘋 𝘛𝘌𝘕𝘛 𝘏𝘖𝘓𝘋𝘌𝘙
𝘌𝘝𝘌𝘕𝘛𝘚 𝘈𝘓𝘊𝘏𝘌𝘔𝘐𝘚𝘛
𝘊𝘜𝘙𝘈𝘛𝘖𝘙 𝘖𝘍 𝘛𝘏𝘌 𝘚𝘈𝘊𝘙𝘌𝘋 ☥ 𝘚𝘌𝘕𝘚𝘜𝘈𝘓

𝘉𝘰𝘥𝘺-𝘉𝘢𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘚𝘰𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘤 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘱𝘺
𝘐𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘤𝘺 + 𝘊𝘰𝘶𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘴 𝘊𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩
𝘚𝘢𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘚𝘦𝘹𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘍𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳
𝘚𝘩𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘤 + 𝘈𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘭 𝘏𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨
𝘞𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯’𝘴 𝘙𝘦𝘥 𝘛𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘍𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳

25/02/2026

Openness is not compliance.

Many women confuse softness with surrendering their centre. They stay available long after their body has tightened. They override intuition in the name of love or loyalty.

True openness is a nervous system skill. It means you can feel another person fully and still feel yourself. Your spine remains present. Your breath remains yours. You do not dissolve in order to keep peace.

As a somatic therapist, I watch this shift in real time. A woman speaks a boundary and waits. The old panic rises. But she stays. She does not rush to soothe the other person’s discomfort.

This is what secure attachment feels like in the body.
Open heart.
Strong spine.

You can remain warm without self erasure, and you can stay receptive without abandoning your truth.
That is erotic maturity.

For 1:1 Sessions, please book through the bio

24/02/2026

Healing unfolds like a slow remembering in the body, a soft reclamation of the ground beneath you.

When you are met with steadiness and warmth, the places that have been vigilant for so long begin to ease their grip.

Your system does not need to be pushed toward wholeness; it responds to tenderness.

In true safety, your aliveness rises naturally, like warmth spreading through cool skin, like sap returning to the branches after winter.

There is the body’s intelligence in you that knows how to open when you feel protected enough.

As you sit with yourself now, can you sense whether you feel safe to soften, safe to be seen, or safe to simply be?

What do you need in this moment to feel safer and softer?

23/02/2026

One of the most common patterns I see in women is how quickly the body organises itself around maintaining a dynamic.

The subtle rounding of the shoulders.
The softening of the voice.
The instinct to accommodate, to over explain, to hand over decision making in order to keep things steady.

Staying small is rarely conscious. It is adaptive. At some point, the nervous system learned that reducing yourself kept connection intact. So the body complied. It deferred. It prioritised the other person’s comfort over its own truth.

Over time, this becomes a quiet giving away of power.

You feel it as a tightening in the gut when you want to speak. A slight collapse in the spine when you disagree. A habit of seeking permission where none is required.

In somatic work, we slow this down.

We notice what happens in your body when you reclaim choice. We track the sensations that arise when you hold your ground. We practise letting your spine lift and your breath deepen while the dynamic shifts.

The aim is not to dominate or withdraw. It is to stay in your body while remaining in relationship.

Mature connection does not require you to minimise yourself to keep it alive.

Your power does not have to be surrendered for love to remain.

For 1:1 Sessions, please book through the bio

22/02/2026

You are not limited to the identity you created to survive.

Many women who come into my work discover that what they have called their personality is often an attachment adaptation. The agreeable one. The easy one. The empathic one who senses everyone’s needs before her own.

People pleasing did not appear because you were weak. It appeared because connection once felt uncertain, and your nervous system learned to secure it.

Estés teaches that the psyche is wise in its strategies. I see the same in the body.

When love felt conditional, you became skilful at maintaining harmony. You smoothed tension. You softened your truth. You carried the emotional weight of rooms.

That strategy kept you safe. It deserves respect.

But survival identities are not meant to be permanent homes. As the nervous system heals, the body begins to test new ground. It risks honesty. It tolerates small discomfort. It discovers that connection can survive a boundary.

You do not have to harden to let people pleasing go. You simply become more honest than afraid.

For 1:1 Sessions, please book through the bio 🪞

03/02/2026

Some people have a strong spiritual life but feel disconnected from their body. Others are deeply embodied but feel something is missing underneath it all.

My work brings these parts back into conversation. Spirit and body meeting each other again, not as ideas, but as lived experience. This often restores a sense of meaning that feels grounded rather than abstract.

02/02/2026

Many people don’t come because of a crisis. They come because they’re tired. Tired of coping. Tired of managing themselves. Tired of holding it all together quietly.

Somatic therapy helps the nervous system soften its grip. Over time, life feels less like something you’re bracing against and more like something you can actually be inside of.

01/02/2026

When people come to me around intimacy, it’s rarely because they want to be “better” at s*x. It’s usually because something feels confusing, shut down, overwhelming, or distant.

Bodies adapt to what they’ve lived through. Somatic s*x and intimacy work helps unravel those adaptations slowly and respectfully. Not to perform, but to restore choice and safety in your own body.

01/02/2026

Hello loves,

I want to share a small but meaningful shift with you.

I’ve decided to move my Red Tent women’s circles onto a new page, and to let this space become more focused on my therapy work.

Some of you have been here for a long time and may remember when I held more shamanic healing spaces, moon circles, and ritual work.

As the years have unfolded, my work has naturally deepened and taken shape, drawing me more fully into somatic therapy and s*xual healing.

This page has grown alongside that evolution, and it now feels ready to be held with more clarity and structure.

At the same time, there is another current in me that longs for poetry, creativity, fire, and the particular magic that happens when women gather in circle.

I realised that holding everything in one place no longer felt nourishing. This space wants steadiness and depth. Another space wants ritual, circle, and creative expression.

So I’ve created a new home for my Red Tent work. A place devoted to women coming together in circle, creative fire work, and poetic sharing. A space that can hold that part of my work fully and freely.

The Red Tent circles will be held once a month in Mullumbimby on a Monday night.

This page will continue to carry a deeper body of work around therapy, embodiment, and healing. The new page will hold the circle.

I’d love for you to join me there if it calls to you.

With love 🤍

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31/01/2026

As the Year of the Snake comes toward its closing, many women find themselves pausing without quite knowing why.

Something has been moving under the surface for a long while now, loosening what once held firm, asking for a gentler way of being carried.

Snake years do not shout. They work in the dark soil of the body, asking us to shed what has grown too tight, too heavy, too quiet inside us.

Often we only realise what has been happening when we feel the ache of a skin ready to be released.

At the end of such a year there is often a tenderness. A standing at the edge of things.

What has been lived is still warm in the bones, while what is coming has not yet found its shape.

In moments like this, the body remembers an old instruction.

Do not do this alone.

Across time, when women reached these thresholds, they gathered. They sat close enough to hear breath. They spoke slowly.

They listened without trying to mend or make sense. In being seen, something ancient softened. In being held, something returned.

The Red Tent holds this remembering.

A place to sit down, and let the body rest its long vigilance, where your story can arrive in its own time.

If this year already has been quietly undoing you, if something in you is ready to lay itself down among other women, you are welcome.

The Women’s Red Tent is open in Ocean Shores.
The fire is lit.

6–9pm ♥️
Monday 2nd of Feb

29/01/2026

Grief doesn’t always come with a clear story. Sometimes it’s just there. In the chest. In the throat. In the tiredness that doesn’t lift even after rest.

In my work, grief doesn’t need to be justified. It doesn’t need to be explained away. When it’s given space and witnessed properly, it often moves on its own.

28/01/2026

A lot of people I work with notice how often they make themselves smaller in relationships.

How quickly they soften their truth to keep things calm. How their voice disappears right when it matters.

This isn’t a flaw.
It’s a strategy that once made sense.

In the body, we can gently meet the moment where you start to disappear and learn how to stay, without forcing or confrontation.

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