Codependents Anonymous Perth

19/06/2025

💫We have a date! 18th October 2025

✨Join us for Codependent Anonymous Australasian convention 2025 at Byron Bay!

🌿It will be a day of healing, growth, and Connection.

📣Tickets are on sale from 1 July.

08/06/2025

🌿 What does surrender mean in CoDA?
It’s not about giving up—it’s about letting go.
Letting go of control, of outcomes, of trying to fix everything and everyone.

In CoDA, we learn to surrender the things we were never meant to carry:
🤍 Other people’s feelings
🤍 Their choices and reactions
🤍 The belief that our worth depends on being needed, liked, or perfect

Surrender isn’t weakness—it’s freedom.
It’s how we stop surviving and start living.
One day at a time. 💫

18/05/2025

💫When I let go of others, I find my power.

In codependency, we often carry what was never ours — trying to fix, rescue, or manage the emotions and choices of others. It’s exhausting. And it’s unmanageable.

But when I let go:
• I reclaim my energy.
• I hear my own voice.
• I make space for clarity, peace, and choice.

Letting go doesn’t mean I stop loving others — it means I stop losing myself in them.
And that’s when life becomes manageable.

What are you ready to let go of today?

04/05/2025

✨ 5️⃣Controlling Codependent Behaviours You Didn’t Know Were Controlling

1️⃣ Giving Unsolicited Advice
It feels helpful, but often it’s an attempt to steer someone’s choices to ease your own anxiety.

2️⃣Over-Apologizing
Constantly apologizing can be a way to control how others see you — trying to manage their perception to stay “safe” in the relationship.

3️⃣ “Helping” Without Being Asked
Jumping in to rescue someone (especially when they didn’t ask) can be a sneaky way of making yourself indispensable — and staying needed equals staying in control.

4️⃣Suppressing Your Own Needs
Always putting others first might look selfless, but it often comes with the hidden expectation that they’ll behave the way you want in return.

5️⃣Taking Responsibility for Other People’s Feelings
If you’re constantly trying to keep everyone happy, you’re actually trying to control their emotional state — which isn’t your job.

Awareness is the first step to freedom.
Which one surprised you the most?

26/04/2025

✨“What do we mean by ‘bottom line’ behaviours in CODA?”

A bottom line is a boundary we set to protect our recovery and honour ourselves.

In Codependents Anonymous, we learn to break old patterns and build new ways of relating—to others, and to ourselves. These bottom lines are gentle reminders of the boundaries we are learning to honour in recovery:

1. We do not say “yes” when we mean “no.”
We practice honest communication and give ourselves permission to speak our truth.

2. We do not take responsibility for other people’s feelings, choices, or outcomes.
We let go of control and trust that others are capable of managing their own lives.

3. We do not abandon ourselves to gain approval, love, or acceptance.
We stay connected to who we are, even when it feels unfamiliar or scary.

4. We do not fix, rescue, or manage others.
We honour each person’s right to their own experience, and we focus on our own healing.

5. We do not make ourselves smaller to keep others comfortable.
In recovery, we learn to take up space and own our worth.

These bottom lines aren’t about perfection—they’re about progress, one day at a time.

15/04/2025

✨In this moment, I choose gratitude

09/04/2025

💫 In This Moment, I choose recovery.

28/03/2025

💡What might be a sign of Codependency?

26/03/2025

💫In CoDA meetings, members share their experience strength and hope with others.

I joined CoDA over a year ago, though I’m not sure of the exact date. I was already in another 12-step program, had a strong connection with my higher power, and was receiving support, which had given me some recovery.

That recovery helped me see how my dysfunctional childhood was affecting my relationships.

While my other program addressed some of these issues, I wasn’t sure I could manage both. So, I initially flirted with CoDA—reading bits of the literature and attending the occasional meeting.

It wasn’t until I found myself constantly trying to navigate a particularly distressing relationship that I committed to working the program.

I can’t imagine my life without CoDA now. The Recovery Patterns of Codependence has been an invaluable tool, showing me what healthy behavior looks like. I finally know what to aim for!

I’m currently working the Steps and planning a major life change—something I wouldn’t have had the courage to do before. Thanks to CoDA, I now know how to face fear.

— Mandy T.

18/03/2025

Daily Meditation

04/03/2025

💫Who might benefit from Codependents Anonymous?

💛Those Struggling with Unhealthy Relationships: Individuals who find themselves excessively focused on other people's needs, emotions, or problems, often at the expense of their own well-being.

⚡️People Seeking to Break Patterns of Control or Dependency: Those who feel trapped in cycles of controlling behavior, enabling others, or feeling overly dependent on others for approval, validation, or identity.

🛑Individuals Who Struggle with Setting Boundaries: People who have difficulty saying "no," establishing limits, or respecting their own and others' boundaries in relationships.

🌱Those Seeking Greater Self-Awareness and Self-Worth: Anyone who feels disconnected from their own sense of self, struggles with self-esteem, or wants to build a healthier, more fulfilling relationship with themselves.

🏠People Seeking Support in Navigating Family Challenges: Individuals who may have experienced difficulties within their family environment—such as struggles with communication, boundaries, or emotional support—and are looking to heal and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships moving forward.

05/02/2025