Perth Hills Couples Therapy

05/06/2025

Are you veiling your desires beneath criticisms or complaints; asking for what you want in ways that actually prevent you getting it?

Learn more about expressing your erotic needs with your partner via our Blogs page, or from Letters from Esther… https://www.estherperel.com/blog/letters-from-esther-61-the-art-of-erotic-communication

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Visit our links to articles, and start thinking about stengenthing your relationship; curated by specialised couples therapist and marriage counsellor, Katharine Troy.

04/03/2025

Conflict as a Gateway to Deeper Dreams

Ever find yourself in a heated argument, feeling stuck in the same pattern over and over? You might be experiencing what’s known as being "gridlocked" in a conflict. It’s when the disagreement feels endless, with no resolution in sight.

Fortunately, we don’t have to stay stuck. Gridlocked conflict shines a light on opportunities to dive deeper, understand what’s really at play, and start addressing what we’re truly fighting FOR, not just what we’re fighting ABOUT.

Want to move from gridlock to connection? Learn more via our Blogs page; or the Gottman Institute… https://www.gottman.com/blog/overcoming-gridlocked-conflict/

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Visit our links to articles, and start thinking about stengenthing your relationship; curated by specialised couples therapist and marriage counsellor, Katharine Troy.

11/02/2025

Feeling stressed?

We all have different ways of coping when the world overwhelms us. Unfortunately, some of the things we do in an attempt to cope with our own stressors, may actually be hurting our relationship.

Managing stress together well is one of the best ways to reinvigorate emotional closeness, intimacy, and compassion – and is a core skill, seen time and time again, in lasting relationships.

Read more via the Gottman Institute… https://www.gottman.com/blog/rescuing-relationship-stress/

Like to make some changes in your relationship, but don’t know where to start?.. https://www.perthhillscouplestherapy.com.au/services

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Relationship services available with highly qualified and specialised couples therapist and marriage counsellor, Katharine Troy.

05/02/2025

As schedules and life gets busier and more complicated, our ability to connect meaningfully with those around us can suffer. What a great tip from Esther Perel for an easy way to nurture connection with the people that feature in our lives.

People tell us about their issues with their boss, or caring for their sick parent, or their sibling who is traveling. When you show curiosity and ask for an update, it couldn't be further from "small talk."

It goes beyond "How are you?" to: "How are the things and people who are important to you?"

These kinds of questions that make a meaningful impact in relationships and create deeper connections.

05/02/2025

A simple tip for relationships? Focus small to achieve big.

Big changes and big connections are often made through the ‘small stuff’. In other words, couples that maintain satisfying relationships are good at connecting with their partner, in small moments, often.

Want to learn more? Visit our resources page or sign up to the free Love Notes newsletter from the Gottman Institute, to receive this month’s free PDF resource… www.perthhillscouplestherapy.com.au/resources

Or, read more from the Gottman Institute… https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/

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Free resources available to stengthen your relationship, curated by specialised couples therapist and marriage counsellor, Katharine Troy.

19/12/2024

Feeling stuck in conflict this holiday season? Ironically, disagreements can serve as the greatest opportunity for becoming closer and more connected with your loved one.

Visit our Blogs page to learn more, and start shifting your mindset to one in which conflict doesn’t have to be a bad thing… www.perthhillscouplestherapy.com.au

Or visit the Gottman Institute… https://www.gottman.com/blog/overcoming-gridlock-holiday-season/

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Visit our links to articles, and start thinking about stengenthing your relationship; curated by specialised couples therapist and marriage counsellor, Katharine Troy.

19/12/2024

Perth Hills Couples Therapy will be closed until the 6th of January 2025. Wishing you all a holiday season full of love and connection.

18/10/2024

Want to feel a whole lot more connected, with some small day-to-day changes? Consider...

How high does our relationship feature in our priority list? As our lives get busier, we allow spontaneous moments together to become fewer and far between. Where did we get the idea that we can stop being active and intentional about finding moments to connect?

Start finding ways you can be more intentional today via our Resources page… www.perthhillscouplestherapy.com.au/resources

Or from the Gottman Institute...
https://www.gottman.com/blog/turning-towards-each-other-for-a-thriving-relationship/

Free resources available to stengthen your relationship, curated by specialised couples therapist and marriage counsellor, Katharine Troy.

30/09/2024

One of the most powerful shifts a couple can make is to allow the win/lose mindset to fall away, and to work together toward creating enough safety for curiosity, self-sacrifice, and interdependence. Not always easy, but more than worth the work...

Start your relationship nourishing journey by accessing some free relationship resources today... www.perthhillscouplestherapy.com.au/resources

29/08/2024

When you hear the word ‘betrayal’, what do you think of? Betrayal lies at the heart of many struggling relationships… and often, it’s nothing to do with infidelity.

Fortunately, trust can be rebuilt, and working through the pain can help us become closer than ever before.

Experienced emotional withdrawal, conditional love, and emotional affair, or want to learn more about betrayal and trust? Visit our Blogs page… www.perthhillscouplestherapy.com.au

Or the Gottman Institute… https://www.gottman.com/blog/3-betrayals-ruin-relationships-arent-infidelity/
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Visit our links to articles, and start thinking about stengenthing your relationship; curated by specialised couples therapist and marriage counsellor, Katharine Troy.

28/08/2024

Keeping out of the negative perspective takes consistent effort over time - and this effort doesn't end. As the The Gottman Institute says, Small Things Often... but don't forget 'forever'! A relationship isn't something you 'fix', it's something you maintain...

What are some of the ways you and your partner maintain your connection?

Want some resources to get started? www.perthhillscouplestherapy.com.au/resources

26/08/2024

Successful couples are making time for one another in simple ways. What are some ways you make time for your relationship, that feels meaningful to you both?

Download the Gottman Six Hours a Week PDF or Card Decks App via our Resources page to discover where to start in building time together and creating rituals of connection… www.perthhillscouplestherapy.com.au/resources

Or learn more via the Gottman Institute… https://www.gottman.com/blog/6-hours-a-week-to-a-better-relationship/

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Free resources available to stengthen your relationship, curated by specialised couples therapist and marriage counsellor, Katharine Troy.