22/04/2025
There’s so much beauty in knowing that the continued becoming of the COY community acts as a portal for connection across all its shades.
Romantic connections, deep friendships, collaborative business partnerships, mentor-mentee dyads, therapeutic helping professional relationships… many have been seeded and strengthened at COY.
The hopeful romantic in me can’t help but feel swirling magic when I hear of hearts that connected at COY.
I’ve witnessed unions ignite from their beginning days (like & pictured).
Others, I learn of years later, like a romantic partnership now in its fourth year that I was just informed of yesterday (which has actually inspired these reflections and post).
The legacy-maker in me is moved by new life arriving earthside that one day may share “how my parents met” stories that forever remain rooted at COY.
Not all stories shared are sweet - COY carpet has absorbed many tears. Some tales are of relationship breakdowns that catapult COYers through heartbreak, grief and anger, until the alchemy of it all lands in letting go and eventual acceptance 💔🔜❤️🩹🔜💖
Sometimes, after endings, one person gets to keep COY as *their place* in the relational split which always pulls my heartstrings to hear of.
Feels wild that these are some of the questions & sentiments that have met my ears so far:
“Do you know if they’re single?”
“Can you check if my ex will be there?”
“We got engaged at COY”
“We’re in a something nothing.” (situationship) 🫠
“We’re a COY-couple!”
“I met my best friend here.”
“I met my whole friendship group here.”
“We’re going to have next COY-baby.”
Through all the shades I’ve witnessed, I come back to this: relationships, romantic or platonic, contain accelerated growth opportunity. Facing another deeply, richly, intimately, faces us into ourselves. So I trust that the connective field of COY, however it swirls around COYers, offers life-schooled inner exploration potential with COY’s walls holding space for it all.
✌🏽 COY-mama, Grace
