01/05/2023
LIVING WITH DEMENTIA or ALZHEIMERS:
Oftentimes people ask me what they can do to support their loved one as they navigate Dementia or Alzheimers. The tricky part is how to support your loved one without also losing yourself because caring for someone as they lose more of their functioning memory and with that their memory of who both you and they are can be extremely distressing.
Some common things we see include the older person looking at their own reflection but no longer recognising the person looking back at them, having unfounded worries or concerns about their family & friends not wanting them around any more and intense feelings of loss. Loss of who they are, the things that were familiar and comforting to them, their role in the family and their understanding of where they fit in the grand scheme of life. For the carer/family member, it's the loss of the person who has previously raised them, taught them what they know, shown them how life works. There's a lot that's thankless for a loved one caring for their person with Dementia or Alzheimers because the days are often filled with constant reminders, the ever present & increasing need for support just to get through the day, the continued questions - who is that, when did that happen and possibly the most hurtful one of all, who are you? It makes it so hard to love and to care for someone every day without feeling overwhelmed and even at times, a little resentful.
So I offer you this suggestion. Try to imagine the world through the eyes of your loved one. Confused, uncertain and maybe even a little bit scared. Of knowing that you can't remember something but not knowing what that something was and especially being asked to trust someone who seems all too often a complete stranger to you. It's extremely challenging to do.
Over coming days, I'll share some of the incredible work we've been doing with one of our patients to make the transition through the different stages of Alzheimers just that little bit easier for both her & her family. It takes a whole lot of time, care, love and patience and we are here to support you through it because just like many hard things, it takes a village & SarahCare is here to help & we are each of us grateful for the opportunity ❤️
Image courtesy of Alzheimer's Association