Kerry Ellis - Solution focused therapist

11/05/2026

Puff is either completely still…or suddenly very alert. No in-between.

Most people live in the in-between.

Not fully switched on Not fully switched off, just constantly running in the background.

That steady level of pressure adds up over time.

You don’t notice it day to day, but you feel it eventually.

Do you feel like you ever fully switch off anymore?

If the answer is no, that’s something we can work through.

10/05/2026

Something I hear often:

“I didn’t realise how much I was carrying until I started talking about it.”

Most people are used to pushing through.

But pushing through has a limit.

I work with individuals navigating stress, anxiety and mental load in a practical, structured way.

If you’re unsure what your next step looks like, we can figure that out together.

If you’d like to talk things through and get a clearer sense of what might help, I offer a 20 minute consultation you can book here:

https://KerryEllis.as.me/20minuteconsult

09/05/2026

There are many reasons why people like and dislike Mothers Day. Here is an article I wrote to hopefully gain some perspective on this day.

For many others, Mother’s Day brings up something more complicated.

08/05/2026

A client said something recently that stuck:

“I didn’t realise how much it was affecting me until I stopped pushing it away.”

That’s the thing, you can push things down for a long time and still function.

But eventually, it starts to leak out in ways you don’t always connect back to the cause.

That moment of awareness is where things shift.

Have you ever had that moment where something suddenly made sense?

That’s usually where we start.

06/05/2026

Avoidance doesn’t always look obvious.

Sometimes it looks like:

Staying busy
Keeping distracted
Telling yourself you’ll deal with it later

And it works.

Until it doesn’t.

Because what you’re avoiding usually shows up somewhere else.

Your mood
Your sleep
Your reactions

You don’t get rid of it.
You just move it.

What do you tend to avoid when things get busy?

If you’re ready to stop circling it, you can book in and deal with it properly.

05/05/2026

There are some decisions in life that stay with you.

Years ago, when my daughter was 5, we brought a puppy into our home. Like so many families, we thought we were getting a pet, but what we found was my daughter's best friend.

Of course, at that age, much of the responsibility fell to us as parents, and when our fur baby was 9, everything changed.

He became very unwell and was in pain and I had to make the decision no pet owner ever wants to make. To let him go.

It broke me.
It broke my daughter.
It broke our family.

And if I’m honest, I carried that grief for years. I didn't carry that grief loudly or in a way anyone else would necessarily notice, but it sat quietly shaping some decisions in my life.

One of those decisions was simple:
“I’m not getting another dog.”

For a long time, that felt like the safest choice. But life has a way of gently bringing things back around when we’re ready.

Now, my daughter is 21, and over the years, she’s asked me more times than I can count…“Mum can I please have a dog?” My answer "no".

Recently, something shifted. I could see what it would mean for her.
The comfort.
The companionship.
The grounding and I realised something important.

Avoiding the pain had also meant closing the door on something good. So, I said yes.

We now have an 8-week-old puppy in our home and already they’re inseparable.

Watching them together, I’m reminded of something I see often in my work:

We don’t move forward by pretending the pain never happened.
We move forward when we’re willing to feel it and still choose life anyway.

Grief doesn’t mean we stop loving. It means we loved deeply.

Sometimes the next chapter asks us to open our hearts again, even when it feels uncomfortable.

Because on the other side of that there is often something really meaningful waiting.

If you’ve been holding yourself back from something because of what happened before when the time is right, it’s okay to take that step forward.

Sometimes the smallest decisions are the ones that quietly change everything.

05/05/2026

The cost of living right now is not just hitting bank accounts. It is hitting sleep, mood, relationships, and the ability to just get through the day without feeling like you are white knuckling it.
Financial stress is one of the most physically and emotionally exhausting things a person can carry, and most people are carrying it in silence because everyone around them seems to be doing the same.
You do not have to fix your finances to start feeling better. What you do need is to get your nervous system out of crisis mode so you can think clearly, sleep again, and stop reacting to everything from a place of pure survival.
That is exactly what I help people do. A conversation costs nothing and it might be the most useful thing you do this week. If you’d like to start a conversation, you’re welcome to message me directly.
Kerry

04/05/2026

Leo has no concept of rushing.

No deadlines.
No pressure.
No “I should be doing more”.

Just steady.

Most people I speak to are running at the opposite pace.

Always on
Always thinking ahead
Always trying to keep up

And then wondering why they feel exhausted.

There’s nothing wrong with being driven.

But if there’s no off switch, it catches up.

When was the last time you genuinely slowed down?

If your mind doesn’t slow down even when you try, that’s something we can fix.

03/05/2026

Quick clarity.

You don’t need more tips.

Most people I see already know what they “should” be doing.

Exercise
Sleep
Take breaks
Breathe

That’s not the issue.

The issue is what’s sitting underneath all of that.

The thinking patterns
The pressure
The expectations

Until that’s addressed, nothing really sticks.

That’s the difference between surface-level coping and actual change.

What have you tried that worked… but didn’t last?

If you want something that actually sticks, that’s where I come in.

01/05/2026

“I should be able to handle this.”

That sentence keeps a lot of people stuck.

Because technically… you are handling it.

You’re getting through the day.
Doing what needs to be done.

But at what cost?

Constant tension
Poor sleep
No real switch off

Handling something doesn’t mean it’s working.

It just means you’ve adapted to it.

There’s a difference.

Be honest… are you handling things, or actually feeling, okay?
If it’s the first one, there’s a better way to approach it.

30/04/2026

Who’s ever got out of their car and realised they left had their shoe on the accelerator.