Leo Blanke - Relationship Therapy & Intimacy Coaching

27/10/2024

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗼𝗻 𝗮 𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 - 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲... 🌊

✨ 𝘐𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘙𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯-𝘚𝘏𝘐𝘗 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘩 𝘧𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳? ✨

Often, I have couples come to me in the depths of despair. It’s usually one person in the partnership that is starting to doubt whether they still want this…

The first question I ask the person that comes to me is “is this relationship worth saving?”
If this Couple decides they want to work with me together, I ask the other person the same thing, “is this relationship worth saving?”

𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙖𝙣𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙖 𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙝𝙖𝙨 𝙩𝙬𝙤 𝙨𝙖𝙞𝙡𝙤𝙧𝙨 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙨𝙖𝙞𝙡 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙞𝙛𝙛𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙙𝙞𝙧𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨. If your relationship is going through a challenging time, both parties must consciously choose that it is time to invest in change. ⚜️

So the answer is ‘no’, on either end, I do not work with this couple to make the relationship work, there may be conversations around how I can best support them to uncouple respectfully and how to untwine their worlds and re-create their sense of self if they have been intertwined (It might take us some time to get to this conclusion). That’s a story for another day however.

𝗦𝗼, 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗵 𝘀𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴? 👇
If you both answered yes, truthfully, 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘢 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘳𝘦, 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦-𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨.
𝘍𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘢 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳, 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘰𝘱𝘦 𝘰𝘳 𝘧𝘦𝘢𝘳…

I invite you to ask yourself, 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙠𝙚𝙚𝙥 𝙞𝙣𝙫𝙚𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙪𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙡 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙙𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙮 𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙤 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙫𝙚? If you do not create an agreement in your subconscious, you may as well just stay in this looping cycle that’s creating pain, hurt and leaving you both feeling unmet, unseen and unheard and disrespected.

So, how long are you investing before you make a choice which way to go?

Nothing changes, if nothing changes… If you desire to change the course of the ship you are sailing together in this Relation-SHIP, then you must choose this course TOGETHER.
𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙧𝙚𝙦𝙪𝙞𝙧𝙚𝙨 𝙚𝙛𝙛𝙤𝙧𝙩, 𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙙𝙚𝙚𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙣 𝙖𝙬𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙪𝙥𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧.
𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙬𝙚 𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙏𝙄𝙈𝙀 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨?

🌹TIME TO CONNECT
How will you actively set time apart to connect with one another? Personally I love the rule of 3’s, 3 minutes of deep presence a day (eg eyegazing, a loving practice), 3 hours a week (uninterrupted date night or intimacy time), 3 days a month (a weekend away or simply a full weekend together)

🌹TIME TO DEEPEN
I often invite Couples to utilize my Relationship Check-in sheet (FREE RESOURCE in my bio),: This creates quality time to sit down and connect deeply, to understand, support and be with one another and talk through anything that needs to be brought up.

🌹TIME TO GROW
This is most important for those couples that are stuck in loops and re-creating the same pain. Therapy might be the answer, it is helpful to have a 3rd party support your relationship because the truth is when you are IN it, you cannot see everything that is playing out.
Therapy will support you to discover and understand the unhealthy patterns that have played out and support you with powerful tools and practices to grow beyond these patterns (choose your Therapy wisely, if it is simply “talk therapy” without giving you practical tools or somatic embodiment, nothing may change…Other ways to invest in your growth looks like attending workshops, reading books, online courses etc

👉𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝗜𝗡𝗩𝗘𝗦𝗧𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽, 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗹𝘆 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲. Investing in something means I put something in and I receive something in return.
I put time, effort, energy & money INTO the relationship and I get a thriving relationship (or clarity to leave the relationship & the opportunity for a fulfilling relationship in the future) in return.

After you have actively participated and invested in changing the course of the Ship for a chosen amount of time, it is time to deeply reflect and make a decision.
Ask yourself: Have I given this my all, have I invested my time, energy and resources into this to the best of my abilities? Have my patterns, behaviors and ways I communicate changed? Have I shown up with love and compassion for myself and the other person? Have the patterns, loops and behaviors that created our challenges truly changed?

If the answers are yes, amazing, keep on this path, stay the course and keep sailing en route to your thriving relationship that you are co-creating. Keep investing, keep learning, keep meeting each other, keep making time.

If the answers are no, it might be time to get off the ship. This isn’t easy, leaving a relation-SHIP, feels like jumping off a ship in the middle of the ocean in the middle of a storm, and you might tumble and crumble. Heart-break is painful but staying on a sinking ship is so much more painful in the long run.

𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗻 𝗮 𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗶𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗮𝗻 𝗼𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲, 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝗼𝗳𝗳 𝗶𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗿𝗲-𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝘀𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝘃𝗶𝘁𝗲 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗮 𝘀𝗼𝗹𝗶𝗱 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝗮𝗶𝗹 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗻𝘀𝗲𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗴𝗴𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗱 𝗼𝗻 𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗶𝗱𝗱𝗹𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗿𝗺. 🌊

05/09/2024

🔥 𝗢𝗡𝗟𝗬 𝟲 𝗧𝗜𝗖𝗞𝗘𝗧𝗦 𝗟𝗘𝗙𝗧 🔥
~ 𝗘𝗮𝗿𝗹𝘆𝗯𝗶𝗿𝗱 𝗽𝗿𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝟯𝟮 𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀!!! (𝟵𝗽𝗺 𝗙𝗿𝗶) ~

💔 Do you find yourself repeating the same mistakes in every relationship?
💔 Is it hard to express your true feelings without fear of conflict?
💔Are unresolved issues piling up and causing frustration?
💔 Do you get attached quickly, only to end up feeling overwhelmed?
💔 Are you ready to break free from old patterns and create healthier, happier connections?

👉Join us for our next 𝗥𝗲𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲 ~ Full Day Event and transform your relationships from the inside out. It's time to break free from old patterns and thrive in love! 🔥

~ 𝙁𝙊𝙍 𝙎𝙄𝙉𝙂𝙇𝙀𝙎 & 𝘾𝙊𝙐𝙋𝙇𝙀𝙎 ~

🗓️ Saturday 21st of September
📌 Peregian Beach Community House
🕐 10am-5pm
✨ Investment ~ $177

Secure your spot here 👇
https://events.humanitix.com/screturntolove?hxchl=hex-pfl

Get tickets on Humanitix - Return to Love ~ Learn How to Create Secure Relationships & Gain Life-changing Tools for Healthy Relating | SUNSHINE COAST hosted by Leo Blanke. Peregian Beach Community House, 5-7 Rufous St, Peregian Beach QLD 4573, Australia. Saturday 21st September 2024. Find event info...

23/08/2024

Don’t tell me you’re a conscious communicator – SHOW ME

If you need to SAY who you are or how you’re doing things, then are you really that? I’m a big believer in ‘Actions speak louder than words’.

Lead with your Actions and use your words to follow, use your words to reassure, use your words to deepen, use your words to clarify. But your Actions will SHOW ME who you are.

SELF AWARENESS LOOKS LIKE:

“I’m noticing some tension in my body when you mentioned (…), I’d like to speak into this and talk it through instead of shutting it down and letting it create a barrier later on, are you open to that?”

“I’m feeling a resistance to share deeper because I have a fear of (…), I know this is a pattern of the past because it has happened a few times and I’d like to be open about it so I don’t have to repeat this pattern. Can we talk this out so we can find a new and better way?”

“When you pointed out (…), I actually got quite triggered and I am curious if you meant it (this way), or if I misinterpreted it?”

“I’m hitting a wall and starting to feel quite overwhelmed by this, could we pause here for a moment please, I need to go and get some fresh air and give myself some time to process, can we come back to this over dinner?”

“I hear you and your needs are valid and important to me, however right now my cup is feeling empty from an intense week, I need to go (…insert self-care…). I want to be fully present with you, how about we have a call tomorrow and talk through this in more depth?”

“I’m noticing some things piling up and it’s creating tension and uncertainty around us and where we stand, could you please reassure me that we are still moving in the same direction?”

“I know your life is really busy right now and I appreciate all the ways you show up for me when you do (like…), I’m noticing I feel a distance from you in this time, could we talk about how we can stay connected through little actions (like… words/ ritual/ phone call) so we don’t drift apart. I want us to be able to support each other during this time.”

The Art of Conscious Communications means speaking into what’s HERE, in the present moment, from a place of SELF-RESPONSIBILITY, from a place where I am open to putting down the sword, from a place where I am open to look through a different lens than my trauma and my pains from the past.

If you need to ‘tell me’ that you’re conscious, then are you really conscious?
Someone that is conscious to me is someone that has deep self-awareness and the ability to self-reflect and enquire deeper (*I truly believe this is one of the most important pieces for thriving relationships).

Show me how you self-reflect, show me that you see and notice your blockages and fears and show me how openly you can speak into them.

“Yes I’m self-aware” says nothing unless you show me…

Conscious Communication is the KEY to Emotional Intimacy and Emotional Intimacy is the KEY to a someone’s heart and therefore a CORE COMPONENT to creating thriving and fulfilling Relationships.

THIS is one of the KEY components to my teachings.

13/08/2024

“𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗹 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗜 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗴𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲”… 𝘀𝗮𝗶𝗱 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗠𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝘆 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗽…

So Men, I invite the you to open your body posture and take in some deep breaths and allow yourself to receive…

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗠𝗲𝗻…
I love the way you are able to show up in every moment in deep presence.
I love the way your presence is able to pe*****te every cell of my being.
I love that you're able to say 'it'll be okay' with a single gaze into my eyes.
I love how safe you make me feel, when you are by my side, I feel I have my personal Bodyguard with me.
I love how the safety you provide, allows me to let go of all the stress and worry I was holding onto.
I love the strength you carry in all areas of your life.
I love the strength of your hands when you grab me tight.
I love the strength of your presence when your eyes gaze into mine.
I love the strength of conviction you bring with your words.
I love the depth of knowledge you have.
I love your desire to understand and research things thoroughly so you have all the details (and I don't need to worry about them).
I love the way you work so hard to create your Kingdom.
I love your commitment to your goals and your follow through.
I love how your Actions speak louder than your words.
I love the way your brain works and how you think of everything.
I love the way you plan ahead and keep everything in mind.
I love the clarity you bring when I am in my chaos.
I love your ability to hold me when I am in despair.
I love your capacity to be with me when I am crying out.
I love your desire to protect me and keep me safe.
I love your willingness to lean into softness.
I love your openness to lean into the edges of vulnerability.
I love your ability to express all parts of you.
I love your authenticity.
I love your utter weirdness.
I love your put-togetherness.
I love you just the way you are.

Yes, lots of this is specific to what I love about MY MAN but much of it is what I love about Men and the Masculine in general.

If You’re ready to cultivate relationships where you are respected and acknowledged, then I invite you to join us this Saturday, Details in Comments.

HALF PRICE Tickets available to TWO Men, send me a DM for the Code

06/08/2024

𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸 𝗳𝗿𝗲𝗲 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗮𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗳𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗔𝘂𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗶𝘁𝘆 & 𝗘𝗺𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁?
𝐓𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗻𝗮𝗺𝗲🔥

👉OUT with patterns that hold you back and IN 👉 with self-awareness, tools, and processes that will support you to cultivate vibrant, meaningful, and impactful relationships 💗

𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙞𝙛...
👉 You're in a relationship and 'stuff' is getting in the way of having the kind of relationship you desire and Deserve
👉 You're single and you want to set yourself up with the best awareness and tools to create thriving relationships in the future

This Event has supported HUNDREDS of people this year already to gain a new level of self awareness and create more secure relationships ❤️
Now it's your turn - limited tickets left, secure your spot now 👇
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🌹𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙨𝙖𝙞𝙙 🌹

👉 "𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘞𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘱 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘢 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘧𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘰𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘨𝘳𝘰𝘸𝘵𝘩 & 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱 𝘥𝘺𝘯𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘤𝘴. 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴, 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘮𝘺 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘢𝘨𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘦𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘤, 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘊𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘮𝘺 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳. 𝘚𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘱 𝘸𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘣𝘰𝘵𝘩 𝘧𝘶𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳'𝘴 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘶𝘳𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘥𝘦𝘦𝘱𝘦𝘳 & 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯" ~ 𝘈𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘦
👉 "𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘣𝘰𝘵𝘩 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭 & 𝘴𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘦𝘥 𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘹𝘵 𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘱𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘣𝘶𝘪𝘭𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘦" ~ 𝘉𝘳𝘢𝘥
👉 "𝘛𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘬 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘰 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘲𝘶𝘦 𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘶𝘴 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘹 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘱𝘵𝘴, 𝘐 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘧𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦" ~ 𝘈𝘯𝘯𝘢
👉 "𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶'𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘱 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘰 𝘷𝘢𝘭𝘶𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘦𝘥! 𝘐 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘴𝘰 𝘣𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 & 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘰𝘭𝘴 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘦. 𝘈𝘭𝘴𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘢 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘧𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳 - 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘧𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘢𝘯 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘨𝘶𝘪𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘯𝘦𝘸 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘬𝘦𝘳 𝘥𝘦𝘦𝘱𝘦𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴. 𝘐 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘦𝘥𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 & 𝘩𝘶𝘮𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘣𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘰" ~ 𝘊𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘦

🗓️ Saturday 17th Aug
🕐 10am - 5pm
📍 Broadbeach Cultural Centre
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26/07/2024

👏"𝙂𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙟𝙤𝙗 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙤𝙙𝙖𝙮, 𝙗𝙪𝙙𝙙𝙮. 𝙔𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙪𝙨𝙪𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙖𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙚. 𝙊𝙝, 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙠, 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩’𝙨 𝙬𝙝𝙮 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚. 𝙎𝙤𝙧𝙧𝙮 𝙞𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙎𝙈𝙀𝙇𝙇 𝙝𝙞𝙢; 𝙝𝙚 𝙙𝙞𝙙𝙣’𝙩 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙝𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧 𝙛𝙞𝙧𝙨𝙩," said the yoga teacher to the only male student in front of the whole class 🥺

OUCH 😖 I felt the sting of that comment land in my body as I watched the man next to me. He barely even shrugged, which showed me 👉 THIS is how most women in his life interact with him. Sometimes I forget that THIS is how a lot of society operates...

"Oh, is that what the smell was?" one of the female students joined in, and most of the class burst into laughter...

I bite my lip in discomfort. 'This is why you are all single mothers,' my mind whispered. And I remembered: 𝘄𝗲 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗺𝗼𝗱𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝘂𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗴𝘂𝘀𝘁. ❤️‍🩹

👉 And as I meet the situation with compassion, I remember, this used to be me. 𝗜 𝘂𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝗮 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗦𝗢 𝗙𝗘𝗔𝗥𝗙𝗨𝗟 𝗼𝗳 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗮𝗰𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘃𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗡𝗢 𝗪𝗔𝗬 𝗜 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝗮𝗱𝗲 𝗛𝗜𝗠 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗱.

My mother modeled emasculating my father in subtle ways. She would often correct my father's stories in front of guests, subtly implying he was mistaken. She would make decisions about travel plans without consulting him, then dismiss his opinions as unimportant. She regularly interrupted him mid-sentence, talking over him as if his contributions were not valuable. My mother would sigh and roll her eyes at him regularly...

She learned this from her mother. I also watched my grandmother treat my granddad like a child.

So, it only makes sense that THIS is the way I learned to interact with the masculine, wondering why it was so hard for me in the past to create healthy relationships with men.

Can you relate? I’m curious, In what subtle ways you may have done this? 🌹

𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘤𝘶𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘮𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘣𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘭𝘦𝘤𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘦𝘸, 𝘦𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵. 𝘖𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥𝘴 𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘪𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘦 𝘱𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳. 𝘞𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘶𝘱𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘪𝘧 𝘸𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘶𝘭𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘺, 𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴.

THIS IS THE WORK THAT IS NEEDED - to break the cycle and foster a new way of engaging with the masculine, rooted in love, respect, and mutual appreciation. 🔥

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