Ellygurx Counselling

Ellygurx Counselling Counselling services offering opportunities for growth, healing, resilience and hope.

Healthy doesn’t mean boring it means regulated. We confuse healthy relationships with someone being niceness. Often time...
23/02/2026

Healthy doesn’t mean boring it means regulated.

We confuse healthy relationships with someone being niceness. Often times, being nice is tied to the notion of abandoning values and standards of establish a sense of security within a connection.

A healthy relationship and attraction can be synonymous.

Attraction comes from someone who is kind AND has standards, and can be playful and fun in nature, not someone who abandons themselves to keep you..

Can you relate?

19/02/2026

What do you think?

And you can’t shrink yourself to keep the peace..You can’t build safety with someone who isn’t safe within themselves.If...
16/02/2026

And you can’t shrink yourself to keep the peace..

You can’t build safety with someone who isn’t safe within themselves.

If they can’t regulate:
1. You become the container for their chaos.
2.You walk on eggshells.
3. Your needs become invisible.

And somehow… you’re still the problem.

That’s not love. That’s survival.

Can you relate?

Connection alone doesn’t tell you whether two people can stay connected.What determines the health of a relationship is ...
10/02/2026

Connection alone doesn’t tell you whether two people can stay connected.

What determines the health of a relationship is what happens after the initial bond when stress, fear, misunderstanding, or vulnerability activates wounds.

Without this, connection turns into repetition: the same cycles, the same triggers, the same pain just with a different person.

Can you relate?

09/02/2026

Do men have more “good” options and women have took upon the role or pursuing more? Or do men not chase because low effort intimacy doesn’t require too much from them?

When we keep giving without consistency…When we stay available without being considered…When we tolerate uncertainty to ...
06/02/2026

When we keep giving without consistency…
When we stay available without being considered…
When we tolerate uncertainty to avoid loss…

We send the message that access to us doesn’t require care and we’ll show up no matter what the conditions are.

Safety isn’t something you gamble on, prove yourself into, or wait patiently to receive.

It’s the foundation of respect.

Can you relate?

A wounded inner child isn’t attached to the person, they’re attached to the fantasy of repair.When early emotional needs...
04/02/2026

A wounded inner child isn’t attached to the person, they’re attached to the fantasy of repair.

When early emotional needs weren’t consistently met, the nervous system learns:

“If I just try harder, stay longer, or love better, maybe this time I’ll finally be chosen.”

Healing doesn’t mean shaming that part. It means helping yourself get in touch with your adult self to teach him/her you don’t need to earn love anymore.

Can you relate? 👇🏼

The beginning/early phases of a relationship and the intense attraction we feel towards them are not reliable indicators...
02/02/2026

The beginning/early phases of a relationship and the intense attraction we feel towards them are not reliable indicators of compatibility.

It’s all in how well we work as a team.

Have you ever wondered why in a good job interview they often ask how well you can work under pressure?
As a way to test team work compatibility.

One of our biggest relationship conflict and doubt comes from not the love we share, but how well we get along especially during tough times, it’s in our communication, how we cope - how we maintain connected to the other.

Can you relate?

beginning/early phases of a relationship and the intense attraction we feel towards them are not reliable indicators of ...
02/02/2026

beginning/early phases of a relationship and the intense attraction we feel towards them are not reliable indicators of compatibility. It’s all in how well we work as a team.

For example, ever wonder why in a good job interview they often ask how well you can work under pressure?
As a way to test team work compatibility.

One of our biggest relationship conflict and doubt comes from not the love we share, but how well we get along especially during tough times, it’s in our communication, how we cope - how we maintain connected to the other.

Can you relate?

29/01/2026

Fear of loss lowers our defences

Most attachment content online is way too one-sided and I want to highlight the real relational misattunement, not villa...
27/01/2026

Most attachment content online is way too one-sided and I want to highlight the real relational misattunement, not villains and victims.

Because, attachment wounds don’t make villains they make blind spots.

Anxious attachment under stress can unintentionally override timing, needs and difference not through control, but through desperation to feel safe.

When reassurance becomes the primary goal curiosity about the other person can disappear.

That loss of curiosity is often what makes avoidant partners shut down further.

Secure relating asks both people to regulate, reflect, and remain curious not just be understood.

Can you relate?

Too much understanding can be a coping mechanism, especially for people have learned to stay safe by making sense of oth...
19/01/2026

Too much understanding can be a coping mechanism, especially for people have learned to stay safe by making sense of others rather than protecting themselves.

Not because you’re naturally self-sacrificing but because staying connected mattered more than being fully yourself.

Understanding without boundaries showcases empathy as a permission slip.

Can you relate?

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A lil about me

Hello lovelies, I'm Elle.

I am an accredited therapist with lived experience (anxiety).

I am passionate about empowering people to live fulfilling lives by equipping them with the certain skills to overcome the obstacles they face and enabling clients to realise their own strengths and value in sessions, so they can feel confident to tackle life’s problems head on.

Your feelings are valid, your experiences matter. You are more than what you are going through, your are magic.