The ProActive Psychology Practice

25/07/2025

You’re teaching your child how to cope.
And suddenly you realise...
You need the same strategy too.

That’s not strange. That’s clarity.

Many parents find out — while helping their kids — that they might have ADHD or autism too.
The signs were there.

The overwhelm. The need to “act normal.” The mental load.
You’re not lazy. You’re not disorganised.
You’ve been masking. For years.

And once you see it, things start to make sense:
- You double-book yourself even with a planner
- Loud rooms leave you drained
- You prep for every conversation like it’s a job interview

You might say:
- “I don’t have time to think about myself.”
- “Maybe I’m just stressed.”
- “It’s probably just part of being a parent.”

But you deserve clarity too. You can’t support your child well if you’re falling apart quietly.

Try this:
- Make a list of traits you see in yourself
- Ask: “Is this stress or something deeper?”
- Give yourself 10 minutes a day to stop masking

Sometimes the thing your child helps you uncover... is you.

Learn more: 💡https://www.proactivepsychology.com.au/adhd-and-autism/

22/07/2025

You’re not a bad parent.

You’re parenting a child whose brain doesn’t match the advice you’ve been given.

When your child has ADHD and autism, things don’t work the usual way.

You try sticker charts. They melt down.

You make routines. They resist them — and rely on them.

You praise them. It doesn’t land.

It’s not because you’re doing something wrong.

It’s because their brain works differently.

The more you try to fix them, the more it hurts your connection.

The shift? Stop correcting. Start connecting:
- Toss the sticker chart that led to daily arguments
- Build a quiet space for both of you to calm down
- Change “why won’t you listen?” to “what’s not working for you right now?”

You might think:
- “If I let go, will things fall apart?”
- “They need more structure, not less.”
- “I’ll lose control.”

But the truth is: parenting gets easier when it’s built around your child — not around other people’s expectations.

Try this:
- Ditch one parenting tool that brings more stress than peace
- Watch what calms your child instead of what should work
- Make your routine fit them, not the other way around

When you stop forcing “normal,” things feel lighter.

That’s where change begins.

Read more 👉https://www.proactivepsychology.com.au/adhd-and-autism/

17/07/2025

You don’t feel like yourself.

You cry more. Snap more. Avoid more.

You tell yourself:
- “I’m failing.”
- “I should be stronger.”
- “What happened to me?”

What happened is your brain got stuck in defense mode.

It’s not broken.

It’s braced.

That’s why:
- You’re on edge
- You struggle to connect
- You don’t trust your reactions

Start here:
- Learn what trauma does to the brain
- Stop blaming yourself for how you respond
- Say it out loud: “This is my brain trying to protect me”

You’re not falling apart.
You’re learning what’s been underneath all along.

Read more: https://www.proactivepsychology.com.au/how-trauma-and-ptsd-change-the-brain/

14/07/2025

Avoidance feels smart.

But it quietly shrinks your life.

You avoid:
- That road
- That name
- That conversation

And now you’ve built your world around what you fear.

You tell yourself:
- “I’m just being careful.”
- “It’s easier this way.”

But your brain can’t heal from what it keeps running from.

Start small:
- Notice what you’re avoiding
- Choose one thing to face gently
- Tell yourself: “This is different. I am safe now.”

Avoidance protects fear.
Facing it rebuilds your life.

Learn more👉

Trauma doesn’t just change how you feel—it rewires your brain. Learn how Trauma and PTSD change the brain, why it’s not “just in your head,” and what science-backed paths lead to healing.

11/07/2025

Healing doesn’t always shout.

It whispers.

What it looks like:
- No panic where panic used to be
- A smile that isn’t forced
- A hard conversation that doesn’t send you spiralling

But because it’s quiet, you miss it.

You think:
- “Nothing’s changing.”
- “That wasn’t a big deal.”

But healing is happening.

Start noticing:
- The times you didn’t react
- The moments you felt safe
- The peace that lasted longer than it used to

Progress isn’t always big.
Sometimes, it’s just the absence of pain.

Watch ▶️https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zDarCbjYM3Y

09/07/2025

You’re not lazy.

You’re overloaded.

When your brain is stuck in survival mode, it works nonstop—even when you’re “resting.”

That’s why:

- You’re tired all the time
- You can’t focus
- Simple tasks feel heavy

You might tell yourself:

- “I need more discipline”
- “I should be trying harder”

But discipline isn’t the problem.

Your brain thinks you’re still in danger.

What helps:

- Prioritise nervous system resets before performance
- Treat rest as part of your healing, not a reward
- Stop pushing when your brain is already on alert

You don’t need more pressure.

You need safety.

Read more✅ https://www.proactivepsychology.com.au/how-trauma-and-ptsd-change-the-brain/

07/07/2025

You’re not “too emotional.”

You’re not weak.

You’re not overreacting.

Your brain is stuck in protection mode—and it doesn’t know the danger is gone.

After trauma, the part of your brain that’s meant to protect you (the amygdala) doesn’t calm down. It stays on. All the time.

That’s why:

- A slammed door makes you jump
- A harmless smell brings back panic
- A normal disagreement turns into full-body tension

You might think:

- “I should be over this by now.”
- “Other people had it worse.”

But your brain isn’t looking for logic. It’s looking for threats.

Start here:

- Label the response: “My brain is trying to protect me.”
- Practice calming actions every day
- Give your brain new, safe evidence

You don’t need to fight your brain.

You need to guide it.

The same brain that learned fear can relearn calm.

Learn more👉https://www.proactivepsychology.com.au/how-trauma-and-ptsd-change-the-brain/

27/06/2025

You think nothing’s changing.
But maybe the change just isn’t visible yet.

Without tracking progress, you’ll always feel stuck—even when you’re not.

That’s where brief assessment tools like mood ratings come in.

They show:
✅ That anxiety is lower than it was 3 months ago.
✅ That outbursts have dropped—by the numbers.
✅ That what felt like standing still was actually quiet progress.

Don’t wait for a breakdown to measure impact.
Use data to fuel momentum.

Invisible growth leads to invisible burnout.

26/06/2025

The system won’t help you just because you’re struggling.
It will only help you once you prove it.

That’s the catch.

The NDIS doesn’t respond to emotion. It responds to structured evidence—diagnosis, functional impact, support recommendations.

That’s what a psychological assessment delivers.
↳ It translates your lived reality into their language.
↳ It turns confusion into clarity.
↳ It builds a bridge from need to support.

You don’t have to keep explaining.
You just need the right kind of proof.

Support is earned through structure, not struggle.

Learn more👉https://www.proactivepsychology.com.au/psychological-assessments/

25/06/2025

It’s not defiance.
It’s distress.

But no one sees it that way—until they look deeper.

Psychological assessments flip the narrative.

What looks like rudeness becomes sensory overload.
What sounds like lying becomes communication breakdown.
What feels like “bad behaviour” becomes ADHD, autism, or anxiety no one caught.

You don’t need stricter rules. You need a better lens.

Once you see the need beneath the behaviour, your whole approach changes.
Understanding ends the cycle of blame.

Read more👉https://www.proactivepsychology.com.au/psychological-assessments/

24/06/2025

You’re not the problem.

You’re flying blind.

When you don’t know what’s really driving the struggle, you default to the wrong solution—more effort, more shame, more second-guessing.

That ends the moment you get real data.

Because with the right psychological tools:

You find out it’s not laziness—it’s executive dysfunction.

It’s not attitude—it’s working memory overload.

It’s not resistance—it’s anxiety masking as procrastination.

Once the patterns are visible, you stop trying harder—and start trying smarter.

Without data, you’re just hoping in the dark.

Learn more💡https://www.proactivepsychology.com.au/psychological-assessments/

23/06/2025

You’re not broken.
You’re misread.

And it’s costing you clarity, energy, and peace.

The truth?

You need a label—not to limit you, but to free you.
Because once you name what’s really going on, everything changes:

The guilt becomes a strategy.
The fog becomes a direction.
Support stops being guesswork.

This isn’t about boxing yourself in.
It’s about turning the key that unlocks the next chapter.

Once you name it, you can change it.

Read more 👉https://www.proactivepsychology.com.au/psychological-assessments/