Emerge - Holistic Psychotherapy & Counselling

27/03/2026

Struggling with relationship problems?

Most of us do. It's hard when you have RELATIONAL WOUNDS or relational trauma.

This is deeply wired into the psyche due to our early attachment experiences. We can only meet another nervous system at the level our OWN nervous system is at.

WE DATE AT THE LEVEL WE THINK WE ARE WORTH.

Fact is, we often ‘trauma bond’, or put simply, look to ‘finish unfinished business’ or get core unmet needs met, in our romantic relationships in particular.

Trouble is - that is NOT the job of our partner or friend - it starts within us. To regulate self and meet our own needs first, so that people who want to get close to us don't get burned by a task that is not theirs to carry.

Nothing activates attachment patterns quite so loudly as romantic partnerships.

In order to form healthier bonds - romantic, friendship or other- it is healthy to revisit and repair these wounds.

This type of Shadow Work is not to be rushed where there has been complexity or - for want of a better word - a lot of trauma. A lack of internal resources will have you spiral out of your window of tolerance pretty quickly, hence WHY it is so so important to work with a trained therapist, trauma specialist or nervous system expert - so that they can expertly guide you through the disconfirming experiences you need in order to heal. This is key to healing - we must experience something DIFFERENT to our early survival adaptations -the brain and the body need to see there is a different way that feels better and doesn't get in the way of your adaptive healthy adult functioning.

This takes time, expertise and skill to be done Ina non harming manner that has you not wanting to run out of the therapy room.

Please choose your healing modality and chosen guide or therapist wisely - the industry is flooded with experts that have not, in fact, got the skill or training to do such delicate and crucial work. Think ‘coaching packages’ - a lot of harm is done in this largely unregulated field that has become quite the buzzword.

If you'd like to work with an experienced trauma therapist with the right tools for healthy, safe, regulated healing please say Hi! 👇

26/03/2026

The mantra that I absolutely live by as an experienced Trauma Therapist AND a middle aged woman who, like millions of others, has experienced EXACTLY this.

A difficult yet wonderful developmental stage that absolutely deserves more recognition for what it truly is. An integration, an opportunity - golden yet difficult, to return to the Self, to wholeness, to what the joyous nugget of gold this life experience appears to be.

A beautiful post by - the caption they use to support this is stunning and oh so very very true!

Do you agree? Has this been your experience either as therapist or person? Some philosophers say, such as Steiner for example, that this adjustment and ascendancy into the Soul is an essential part of healthy ageing. An acceptance of ageing, culmination of our wisdom to support the joyous dance of becoming the Self at last before we finally depart this plane……✨💫

25/03/2026

Awake with the birds,
Chores done,
Day prepped,
Pilates Class done
Fave coffee shop ,
A special someone on my mind ;)
Gratitude felt through every fibre of my being.
Mind, Body, Soul aligned for the glorious day ahead. Or in Psych speak, parasympathetic nervous system fully engaged!

How have you nourished your Temple this morning?

24/03/2026

R E W I L D I N G

Nature in all its glory.
The best medicine.
Nervous system overload?

Reach for the easy fix….think food, phone, alcohol, betting tab….does it work? Perhaps, for a minute, for a tiny lapse in time. Then reality nudges us again - our system overload, stuck, replaying old stories, still burdened by our refusal to be W I T H it; to process and release in the way nature intended us to…..

The real work is being WITH the feelings of stress, overwhelm, tension, upset….hard it may be for a bit, the more we do it, the easier, more familiar, more peaceful it gets….then comes the release, the peace, the balm the healing. Wholeness. It starts within and is healthily reflected by the outer, if you seek it out. Mirrors.

Whatever makes your Soul sing - reach for that instead, not the quick fix, the dopamine shot that doesn't stick -no matter how big or small the aligned choice - GLIMMERS get bigger, stronger, longer lasting with our attention and focus ✨🕊🌿. I can't think of anything better than nature, music, love, connection to offer that…….

What about you?

Take that walk, hug that person (or tree haha) call that friend, slow down, go inward and then also outward to co regulate with nature, healthy connection and breath.

You are truly healing when you can be with - and get to know - your own inner world and then the REAL world at your feet. Here and now. 💛🕊✨✨

“……I don't think we need feel so isolated on this earth, so cut off and separate. We can honor our reciprocity with all of life by opening up the channels of communication with the more-than-human world…..” taken from ~’Rewilding’ - Micah Mortali - a fabulous read to lead you back to healing in nature

22/03/2026

The sheer magick of this blissful Oasis I now call
H O M E….

Nestled high among the trees, at the foot of mountains majestic and nurturing in their gentle hold…..undulating
The Heart finally found its Peace among pieces woven together with Gold…
The Soul may rest its weary Self
A homecoming like no other ever felt
Sheer Peace, Knowing, Presence, Rest
A place of Healing, a Sanctuary Borne
Not just for the Self, but for others who also wish to pass, lay their weary heart and head…..feel the delicate slumber and calming, soothing, balmy elixir of this place……the birds, flowers, sky and the wise and sentient trees, the extension of One all around…..a restoration, a finding place for Self within its gentle nurturing arms.
Yes, this is Home.
A gathering of millions of moments finally pieced together to its place of Belonging.
Wholeness will soon be felt by any that choose to pass through its magical embrace….
A time and place for depth and delight in this magical experience of Life.
A time of unfolding that is joyous beyond words…..finally HOME

19/03/2026

That magical moment when you accidentally bump into your Cello hero in the street and she tells you she offers lessons!!!! ✨💛💫
can't wait to hear her magical music at soooon!

18/03/2026

Today has been about noticing the ‘Glimmers’ - the micro moments of joy in my day that touch my Soul and remind me how grateful I am to be alive and healthy……🌿✨🕊

Also delighting in hearing not just one but TWO clients tell me today that they had set a healthy boundary and are stepping into knowing themselves, the seat of Self, their worth - sweet music to my ears to see how EMDR can really just be so utterly life changing for people! ✨💖

14/03/2026

Beautiful wisdom from Rumi today!

“What the caterpillar calls the end, the Master calls the Butterfly”

13/03/2026

This gorgeous little girl just insists on being on my shoulder - which I love love love - massive oxytocin rush! It does make typing and WFH very difficult however 🫠
Ahhh the gorgeousness of animals….melts my heart!
Happy weekend peeps!
Xoxo

12/03/2026

11/03/2026

The importance of feeling safe, held, and prepared for trauma therapy in the therapeutic alliance (feeling like your therapist is a good fit and your nervous system will be well cared for, resourced, and regulated!)

Please please please choose someone properly qualified too - there are too many unregulated unqualified people out there working with people’s nervous systems and doing a lot of harm - trauma requires expertise and the correct training and experience to work with.

10/03/2026

Isn’t this just the most magical image?

And just so absolutely true! ✨🤩