Radiant Aware Women on fire

28/12/2023

🎄Merry Xmas & Happy Holidays!! Hope you are enjoying & honoring yourself- whether it’s with family, friends or solo time. There is no ‘right’ way to do Xmas. I have done ‘all of the above’, traditional, unconventional, sick in bed ones, teary traumatic ones and enjoyed a chilled one this year.

💛🤗 wherever you are & however it is!
And, if its been a hard or lonely one, extra big hugs to you! 😘

06/12/2023

10 Strange things you may not know about me..

1) I was a sourpuss as a kid - 💛ed sucking lemons & eating unripe fruit!

2) My first car couldn’t drive in reverse!!! I went down a one-way street at Cannes film fest, towards a cop car 🤦‍♀️They looked at my feet & told me it was illegal to drive in thongs!😅

3) I’m multi-lingual.. 👶my first words were in German. I speak English, French, Spanish & some Balinese…

4) Top highlight of my life was swimming with wild dolphins and whales 🐳🐬

5) My most romantic first date gift was an envelope with instructions to ‘Make a wish’. I opened it and 2 butterflies flew out. 🦋🦋

6) The riskiest thing I’ve done was hiking up a mountain all night for sunrise (in Peru), blissfully ignorant I was in wild bear territory 🐻😳

7) The most embarrassing thing that happened to me was walking down the Champs Elysees in Paris,
and was wolf-whistled.. to my horror my skirt dropped down to my ankles! 🤭

😎 I’m obsessed with my 2 bunnies🐰🐰(I bake them cookies, teach them tricks and they even have their own instagram account!)

9) One of the things on my Bucket List is camping in a glass igloo under the Northern Lights ☃️

10) If I had a superpower it would have to be instant teleportation .. so I could be anwhere in the blink of an eye! 😉 Breakfast with giraffes 🦒 in Africa and dinner back in my igloo!

04/12/2023

03/12/2023

The initial excitement of the christmas season can end up exhausting. Our pattern of over-extending ourselves goes into overdrive.
Planning, pleasing, perfectionism

27/11/2023

🤦‍♀️Why decision-making feels like such an ordeal 🙄!

Maybe you’re overwhelmed with making decisions (both great and small) – and find comfort in putting things off, rather than messing things up.

Instead you freeze up!

You never used to doubt yourself like this… and wish you’d stop second-guessing yourself. You miss those times when you just knew what you wanted .. and now you are overthinking it all 🙄

You may believe that you need to have everything figured out BEFORE making a decision to avoid failure. (And that changing your mind is not an option).

You wonder if self-doubt is the seed of your hesitation and the pathway to procrastination? (It’s a horrid thought … but protecting yourself is stunting your progress).

🤔 Guess what? All of this ⬆️ is counter-productive! ⛔️

The real reason you’re so indecisive is that you spend too much in your head, doubting yourself and beating herself up for not moving forward.

Until you can allow yourself to experience what one option is like, you won’t have a reference point from which you can progress.

The truth is that no one ever really knows for sure how things are going to turn out. And…unless you make a decision, you won't find out. You’ll be robbing yourself of the lessons you need to help you learn your next best steps.

Worst of all, you will be missing out on great opportunities!

👉And now you are stuck in limbo, because you are afraid of the consequences, instead of moving towards an outcome.

🤷‍♀️ So what do you do?

If you want to confidently make decisions, you need to tap into your innate intelligence – without over-thinking or having to figure out all the details.

Building self-confidence comes from doing the inner work to support your outer actions… and get a deeper sense of what’s right for you. This means tapping into both your head and heart. From this new perspective, you can experience what something is like and then decide what to do from there.

When you really get this, your decisions will naturally arise. You’ll be able to weigh up the opportunities before you and look forward to the unknown without freezing in the fear of failure.

DM if you want jelp with this 💛

25/11/2023

5 CHECK POINTS TO SUPPORT YOUR ‘INNER WORK’

The thought of facing those wounded parts of yourself can be terrifying… and you just want to avoid more emotional suffering.

It's completely normal to want to avoid pain… it's part of our human survival instincts!

The problem is it’s a coping style that’s detrimental to your mental health.

It’s often a symptom often of not feeling ‘safe’ to express your feelings early on in life.

Research has shown that people who avoid emotion tend to have an increased risk of depression, anxiety health issues and problems in their relationships.

Pushing painful pieces of our life away does not make them go away.. . it magnifies their hold on us .

Before stepping into doing your inner work, make sure you have a good support system in place, so you don’t spiral out of control🤪!

Self-care plays a major part in being able to transform your ‘inner work’ into a magical experience.

Here are 5 simple check-points to help you.

1. Once you’ve decided that doing the Inner Work feels right for you, commit to making it a habit rather than doing it once in a blue moon.

2. Create a sacred space free of interruptions (people, technology etc)

3. Calm your nervous system with mind-body relaxation techniques to help you stay present.

4. Only share with those who believe you and bring out the best in you.. who won’t judge or interfere with your process (This may mean excluding friends or family) or keep it to yourself!!

5. Carefully choose a professional you feel ‘safe’ to open up and be vulnerable with.

PS. I suggest you speak with them first.

Blessings and good luck🍀💛

Feel free to DM me if there is anything I can help you with.

22/11/2023

🤔 DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR? 🙄

Have you taken on more than you can handle, to prove something to yourself to others?

Many times we feel inadequate or guilty because we fall short of others' (or our own) expectations.. and then go overboard to over-compensate.

Do you frequently take on more than you can handle or try to prove yourself to others?

The bad news is, our well-meant actions usually backfire!

Single parents or working mums often feel they must compensate by spoiling and giving in too easily (I was one of them).

The good news is, with the right approach, you can turn this around.

Last year, my client Kate was thrilled with her long-awaited promotion, until her husband was fired a month later. She felt guilty and he became frustrated and moody. Kate started helping him find work, cooking his favourite meals and going out of her way to make up for how he was feeling … after long tiring days.

Instead of making things better, it created increasing levels of tension between them.

When she stopped trying to ‘fix’ everything and started focusing on her own self-worth, their relationship improved. And.. he landed a great job shortly after.

We can go over-the top.. excessively spending, over working, obsessively cleaning and bend over backwards to make up for where we feel we fall short.

This is often driven by an underlying feeling that we are not worthy or enough.

This can go way back to our early years, and we can end up spending decades in denial.

These feelings are deeply lodged in the primal part of my brain. They lie in wait, ready to get triggered, ready to sabotage your life.

What really moved the needle for me, was peeling away layers of conditioned beliefs, experiences and habits that had eroded my self-worth.

Over-compensation was one of my conditioned responses to protect my poor sense of lack.

And honestly, I sometimes still find myself over-compensating... to a much lesser degree (thank heavens!) and with a far faster turn-around these days! 😉

If this sounds like you, drop a comment below … I’m going to be writing a LOT about this in the upcoming few days….