24/01/2022
Back to school tip for separation
With the kids starting back at school next week, I thought I would reshare this post…
When your little one finds it difficult to seperate from you, whether it is at daycare drop off or whether you are leaving them with a familiar adult to just go to the bathroom, we can be told to just sneak off and hurry away so they “don’t realise you are leaving”.
This may work the first time, however babies and young children are very aware of when their primary attachment figure (parent or career) has left them. Babies and children can be anxious without the presence of their trusted caregiver. This is a primal response meant to ensure their safety. When we just leave babies and children without saying goodbye, this breaks the trust they have with us separating from them and can increase their anxiety.
Babies and children need to trust that they are safe when away from their parent and know that their parent will come back to them.
Parents can build this trust by telling their child that they are leaving, supporting their emotions, reassuring them that they can cope without them, and reassuring them that they will come back.
Over time these separations, followed by the reunion of the parent actually coming back, will help the child trust that they are safe and that their caregiver is in fact coming back.