
13/04/2024
I share this message with a heavy heart after learning about the horrifying incident at Westfield Bondi today. Many children and families were present and may have witnessed the distressing events. Whether they directly experienced the incident or heard about it afterward, there could be a significant psychological impact on children and teens.
Normally, schools play a crucial role in supporting children during times of crisis. Teachers are trained to help students cope, and psychologists and counsellors are available. However, since we're currently on a holiday break, students won't have access to this support for the next few weeks. I want to offer a few tips for parents who may be looking for ways to support their children during this time.
First, if your child was in Bondi today, they may be in shock. When in shock, our bodies enter "survival mode" and shut down some functions. It may take a few days for your child to start processing what happened.
Second, be honest and open with your child. Answer their questions when they arise and avoid dodging the topic. Children often need explanations to make sense of the situation, but the most important message is that they are safe and the danger has passed. Ensure that the information you provide is age-appropriate and try to protect them from excessive media coverage.
It's important not to overwhelm children with too much information or force them to discuss the event if they're not ready. Give them time to process everything.
When your child is ready, allow them to discuss the events multiple times. Children often need to repeat their stories to process trauma. They may also express their feelings through drawing or play—these responses are completely normal.
Be aware of potential changes in your child's behaviour, such as increased crying, distress, stubbornness, or other challenging behaviours. These changes are normal ways for children to process difficult experiences.
Watch for signs of increased distress, such as behavioural changes, sleep disturbances, appetite changes, hypervigilance, clinginess, and the need for reassurance. If these symptoms persist, consider seeking help from a professional. Psychologists, general practitioners, counsellors, helplines, and community health services are all available resources.
Remember that each child processes trauma differently. The best thing you can do is remind your child that they are safe and loved, and be there for them as they navigate this difficult time.