Rheza Tan, Psychologist

29/04/2024

I have an available slot for an after hours session. Message me or call the clinic if you or someone you know are interested.

21/02/2024

Pleased to launch Optimal Minds Corporate Consulting with an amazing team. We work with organisational leaders to create psychologically safe workplaces that are productive and thrives in the face of modern day challenges.

Our skilled team use evidence based approaches to optimise your organisation and leaders' performance.

Visit our site to learn more about what we do and to gain leadership insights: https://omcc.com.au/

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16/06/2023

We are about to launch a personalised leadership coaching service. Are you in a leadership or management role at work, church or community organisation? We can help you engage with their talents, strengths and develop their capacity to be effective leaders.

Our team is also skilled in supporting neurodiverse leaders and professionals. We can develop personalised services for you and your organisation.

Send me a message if you are interested to learn more!

18/01/2023

Found this old short article I wrote about psychology and leadership. Probably would write it differently now but we all learn and have to start somewhere hey?

Young leader and registered psychologist, Rheza Tan CMgr MIML, lists how the mind impacts effective management.

22/11/2022

Current waiting times to see a Psychologist can be several months away. I have some Tuesday or Friday afternoon availability between now and Christmas. Do reach out if you or someone you know need a session.

06/07/2020

Did you know that medicare covers telehealth consultations with health professionals in light of COVID-19?

Our Psychologists provides both face to face and telehealth consultations. We're happy to answer any questions you may have.

he will allow people to access essential Medicare funded health services in their homes and reduce their risk of exposure to COVID-19 within the community.

11/02/2019

Christopher Peterson created the VIA Character Strengths Survey to help people identify their top strengths. Studies on character strengths have found relationships between these and positive emotion, life satisfaction, wellbeing and health related behaviours. This is not just a pop psychology online test but one that has a good body of research behind it.

Try taking this free test and share your top 5 strengths if you like!

22/10/2018

Have you heard of the 'Three Good Things' exercise? Also called the 'Three Blessings Exercise.'

This is a Positive Psychology technique shown to help us to increase our overall happiness and refocus our attention to the 'good things' rather than the 'bad things' a lot of us tend to focus our attention on.

It goes like this
"Every night for the next week, right before you go to bed, write down three things that went really well today. These things can be small and ordinary in importance. Think about why this good thing happened."

Give it a go and see what happens!

15/05/2018

I am from Indonesia and saddened by the recent church bombings in Surabaya. These incidents can sometimes cause children to become distressed. Some may experience changes in their emotions and behaviours, even if they weren't directly affected. Hearing about threatening incidents can cause an impact.

There are useful ways that parents or loved ones can follow if they notice these in their child or teens in the following website. They also have useful information for adults who may be affected.

There is a lot you can do to help a child or teenager after a traumatic experience. Find advice, strategies and resources here. Phoenix Australia.

02/05/2018

"Sorry, but..." is commonly said but is not really an apology. There is a few simple steps to saying to someone and showing them that we are truly sorry.

The four step :

1. Apologize.
2. Take responsibility.
3. How will you resolve this?
4. Ask for forgiveness.

10/04/2018

Wisdom for parents

1. Apologize to children when you are wrong.
2. Do not assume you're smarter than a child simply because you're older.
3. Say thank you to children when they do something for you or others.
4. Admit when you've made a mistake and admit it openly to them.
5. Listen to children.

17/03/2018

Violence is never OK in a relationship! Many people in a domestic violence relationship do feel trapped and confused. We may also be witnessing DV but unsure about what to do. Check out this page to understand the signs better and know how to take action for yourself or find help for others.

It can be hard to identify domestic violence and abusive relationships. Here are some signs that you or someone you know is experiencing abuse.

19/02/2018

Following recent political news from overseas lead me to see a common issue that many politicians and businesses face these days. Ethical lapses have seen leaders losing their positions and companies causing massive financial losses to the society.

Integrity is the cornerstone of great leadership which can inspire confidence in others to follow us. It is about being consistent in our values, actions, expectations of others, and outcomes. It is a commitment to do the right thing and standing by our moral choices, even when the situation demands otherwise.

What can leaders do to show they have integrity?
1. Show their values and live by their values
2. Live by their principles, even when in power
3. Respect others, especially those without power
4. Take responsibility for problems and mistakes
5. Listen to valid criticisms without being defensive
6. Fulfill promises, they also do not make one they cannot keep

26/01/2018

Teaching our kids how to lose (gracefully).

There are many strategies written on how to win. Plenty of paid (and very expensive) educational, vocational programs are promoted to help people win or gain advantage over others in this competitive world. Losing is rarely mentioned.
In any competitions, there will be more losers than winners and losing is very much a common fact of life. Yet, we dislike it so much that we avoid talking about it.

Parents play a major role in their children's lives to help them survive, adapt and become well adjusted members of societies. Of course, we help them to win and stay ahead in life. Teaching them how to face and accept failures and losses is also an important part of parenting. It is unavoidable and no parent can shield their children from this.

Here are some of the lessons we've learnt as parents on how to do this:

Let them fall. This is the simplest lesson of all, don't pick them up when they fall and don't rescue them, act normal. Obviously, don't let them be in danger and soothe them when they are upset.

Play board games or other competitive games and teach them how to play it well. Don't let them win all the time. If they cry or complain, be normal about it and teach them that winning and losing is part of playing a game. Ask them to play again when they are ready. But, don't be cruel about it, don't mock, don't deliberately make them lose all the time. You are showing them how winners and losers should behave, being cruel will just teach them to treat others badly when they win.

Let them clean after their mistakes. When they spill things in the house, teach them to clean and take responsibility of what they have done. Help them and do it together but don't let them get away with it.

23/01/2018

So pleased to join this clinic in Parramatta with very experienced colleagues. Keep us in mind if anyone you know needs Psychological services in the area, we are happy to have a chat to see if we can meet your needs. I provide services in Indonesian and English.

11/01/2018

The lack of any arguments is NOT the key to a successful relationship!
Dr Gottman found that 'repair' is the key to long lasting, strong and healthy relationships.
Check out this short video of his lecture. There is also a brief questionnaire to check how well you practice 'repair'

All couples argue. Successful couples repair.

27/12/2017

'Thank you' is a very simple way to show gratitude towards others. Although simple, gratitude has been shown to show many benefits including: improving physical and emotional health, increasing resilience and social connection. There is truth in the age-old teachings of our parents to say 'thank you.'
Check out this article that has 31 gratitude exercises that can boost your happiness.

Use this list of 31 gratitude exercises to develop your own gratitude practice or use these worksheets to teach others about the science of happiness!

18/12/2017

A good friend of mine said that 'Psychologists aren't needed in this world.'

I replied: 'I can't wait for that time to come, maybe I'll become an engineer instead.' (which was another interesting profession I realised later in life).

It is certainly encouraging when people experiencing low mood, anxiety or other symptoms can reach out and seek help and support from their family, loved ones or community groups. However, studies have shown that there are significant barriers to help seeking which include concerns about confidentiality and privacy, embarrassment, misunderstanding and lack of knowledge of mental health and preference for self reliance. Sometimes people are just 'a little bit more stuck' than usual and need some extra help.

Psychologists are useful in a way that they know much about mental health and are bound to maintain privacy and confidentiality. They can also educate and help families to support their loved ones so that no further professional help is needed.