Intimacy Circle

26/03/2025

LOVECOACHING TIP - Adult relationships DO NOT require unconditional love. This is a myth. There are always conditions - like respect, care and nurture.

34 years experienced LoveCoach/Counsellor available for sessions - either one on one in Bellingen NSW or ZOOM.
I work with you to heal and understand yourself better … and then coach you with the communication and relationship skills to first choose wisely, and then sustain your relationships into a long and luscious future.

Bellingen Offices

23/01/2025

When someone cheats, its absolutely possible for the relationship to heal - often even better than before.
As long as BOTH parties are willing to put in the work to both - REPAIR and CONSISTENTLY BUILD the relationship from then on.
As a 34 years experienced Relationship Coach, I'm here to teach you HOW.
Face to face and online sessions available.
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Bellingen Offices

05/11/2024

Safety for men

26/10/2024

Great Values to live by - CHARACTER - COMMITMENT - CONNECTION - COURAGE.

24/10/2024

$ Million dollar Relationships $
…what commitment really looks like
or how much is your relationship worth?

$ Million dollar Relationships $ …what commitment really looks like or how much is your relationship worth? At regular intervals in healthy relationships, one or other of the partners needs to...

19/10/2024

My latest article on the importance of Freedom of Speech
"Firstly, what does Freedom of Speech mean?
It means the right for anyone and everyone
to say what-ever they want,
wherever they want,
despite possibly being wrong,
or someone not liking what they are saying.

So now imagine a world where this god-given right is NOT upheld?
Stop and really imagine it. In the past, we in the West would immediately imagine somewhere like China or Korea, or Russia or Germany during the wars. And though more and more of us now realise that much of the 5I’s are sliding rather precariously into this form of fascism, it’s still hard for many people to realise the repercussions.

In essence, loss of freedom of speech means the end of democracy, law, ethics, community, culture – anything good and true and beautiful… and anything bad, and false and ugly.

And it has to be both sides – the good and the ugly. Because, right now,…( not later on, when we might have all magically ascended or raptured) … we are in 3d Physical. And the whole point of being here, is to experience these extremes… to experience the extremes, so that thru experience and learning, we can come back into Balance and Wholeness and Love.

Woke ideology and its close cousin, Spiritual Bypassing, would much prefer that the world was all unicorns and fairy floss and high vibrations, based on the false assumption that only being’ positive’, and blocking out anything ‘negative’, means you are closer to ascending etc etc. Spiritual Bypassing means we want to jump all the stages and layers of 3D growth…the suffering, the uncertainty, powerlessness, the fear and the rage… and pass quickly and effortlessly to 5D/ Heaven etc.

And here’s another simpler word – DENIAL. The Denial of Truth, of what IS. And what IS on this 3D planet, is all the extremes of everything. How exciting is that! Our soul is just over the moon with the horrifying potential of that idea!

So, to paper-over the so called ‘negative’ (which is often someone just saying something you don’t agree with), is to miss the whole point of being here. Basically, it’s the coward’s way out. By blocking all dissension, we don’t get to have to face our own darkness, our own ignorance and fear. We don’t get to learn.

And so, not only do we stultify our own growth and learning, but we do that to others too. Which of course, is not a very loving thing to do." ~ Frances Amaroux
MORE...http://www.francesamaroux.com/blog/why-freedo…

11/10/2024

Oftentimes, we need to acknowledge, appreciate and integrate our FEAR in order to come to LOVE

Thank Everything!
https://www.francesamaroux.com/blog/the-ultimate-solution

Excerpt from 'The Ultimate Solution' - yet to be written/published. Follow up to ‘The Solution to Almost Everything’. Years ago I did a profound workshop with Arnie Mindell in Byron Bay...

05/10/2024

Unless you have listened fully to someone, most advice is ignorant advice... and therefore less than useless.
Sometimes it is even harmful!

As Covey said, " SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND"

If the person with the issue, bypasses their own experience and wisdom, and acts according to the advice given, they can end up paying for that mistake for ages. But the advice giver doesn't have to take any responsibility for their poor advice.

LESSON: don't take anyone's advice unless they listen to you fully. And even then, keep checking in with your own experience and knowing. KNOW YOURSELF.

CoCreating the New Earth - from Domination to Partnership

04/10/2024

Shine on...

03/10/2024

The Art of Listening - Bernhard Guenther

Most of us want to "speak our minds" and try to convince the other person right away ("win the argument") without really listening first and making the other person feel understood.

We tend to form arguments and thoughts within our minds without fully focusing on listening to the other person first.

This approach often results in various logical fallacies, such as straw man arguments, red herrings, and ad hominem. Things get heated, and people talk next to each other.

It is also often an unconscious way of venting pent-up/suppressed emotions fueled by shadow projections, especially online. We discussed this in our latest podcast.

Constructive discussion necessitates a certain level of emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and the ability to tune into the other person, truly seeing it from their perspective.

It's a balance of right and left brain. Too much left brain results in overthinking, analysis paralysis, and intellectual "arrogance"; too much right brain mistakes feelings for facts or truth and takes and makes things too personally quickly.

Vivek Ramaswamy is a good example of someone embodying the fine art of listening with emotional intelligence and intellectual sharpness.

Here's a great video by Jacob Needleman on the art of listening with an excellent exercise. I've tried to use it with others and with my wife when we get into arguments. It's easier said than done, especially when emotions get triggered.

Needleman is influenced by Gurdjieff's work, which includes the concept of "external consideration," which relates to the art of listening. He also wrote a book about Gurdjieff's work and 4th way teachings.

Complete video at: http://fora.tv/fora/showthread.php?t=969Jacob Needleman, author and professor of philosophy at San Francisco State University, argues that...

02/10/2024

I disagree with this meme. To never talk about one's problems, is to live a completely unbalanced life. We came here for both suffering and joy…
And most importantly, we came here to connect in our authentic truth. One of the most profound ways we connect is by empathising and providing support. None of this can happen if we don’t share our suffering.
And sure talk about your joys, but not at the expense of truth and balance.