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Sofia Fiotaki - Holistic Social Anxiety Coach, Taroona (2025)

21/05/2025

Do you ever feel like anxiety is always tagging along in your relationships?

Like an awkward third wheel you just can’t shake off? 🙄

If you missed my recent training, “How to Stop Anxiety Being a 3rd Wheel in Your Relationships,” the replay is now ready for you.

And honestly…this one’s a game-changer if you’re tired of feeling misunderstood, disconnected, or like you’re always walking on eggshells with people you care about.

Let’s get real for a second 👇

Ever catch yourself…

👉 Overthinking every word you say or text you send?
👉 Dodging plans or ghosting messages because it’s just easier than facing the fear?
👉 Craving constant reassurance, but never really feeling secure?
👉 Bending over backwards to keep the peace—even if it means hiding your true feelings?

If you nodded along, you’re so not alone. (I’ve been there too.)

But here’s what most people don’t realize 👇

These patterns aren’t “flaws” or proof you’re broken.

They’re actually protective habits—your nervous system’s way of trying to keep you safe.

And the roots?

They run deep. Old belief systems. Inner child wounds. The stories you learned about love, trust, and your own worth.

In this replay, I’ll walk you through:

✨ How anxiety shows up in relationships (and why it’s NOT your fault)
✨ The hidden beliefs and self-sabotage patterns that keep you stuck
✨ How your inner child’s unmet needs still shape your connections today
✨ The real power of authenticity—so you can finally feel seen, heard, and valued for who you really are

If you’ve ever wondered “Why do I keep attracting the same painful patterns?” or “Will I ever feel truly connected?”—this is for you.

Ready to break the cycle and create relationships that actually feel safe, nourishing, and REAL?

Drop 👇 or DM me ‘TRAINING’ and I’ll send over the full complimentary training.

Love, Sofia xx

06/02/2025

My anxiety kept SCREAMING 🫣

Ever wonder why the more you try to shut down your anxiety, the louder it screams?

Why each drink, each pill, each desperate attempt to numb the chaos only seems to make it stronger? 🙃

For years, I drowned every emotion in alcohol and drugs.

Each wave of anxiety? Down it went with another drink. 🍸

Each uncomfortable feeling? Buried under whatever substance would keep me numb. 💊

I thought I was surviving, but really, I was just going deeper underwater.

The anxiety attacks kept getting worse.

The panic more intense.

The loneliness darker.

Every emotion I pushed down with substances came back stronger, louder, more overwhelming. 😔

I kept thinking: "If I can just numb it enough, maybe it'll finally stop." 🙏

But that's not how emotions work.

They're like air in water - the deeper you push them down, the more forcefully they burst back up. 🫧

Rock bottom had to come crashing in before I finally saw it. 👀

Moving to Greece, getting sober - it stripped away all my ways of running.

For the first time in years, I was face to face with everything I'd been trying to escape.

That first time sitting with my feelings sober? Pure terror.

My whole body shaking, heart pounding, thoughts racing. I was sure these feelings would destroy me 🫣

But something unexpected happened.

As I sat there, letting the wave of anxiety wash over me without fighting it, without numbing it... it began to shift. Like a wave that finally breaks on the shore, it started to recede.

Each time I allowed myself to sit with these feelings, without reaching for something to dull them, a tiny bit of their power dissolved.

They became less like monsters and more like messengers 🌱

The real breakthrough?

Understanding that emotions are energy in motion - e-motion. They're meant to move through us, not get stuck inside us.

When we numb them, we freeze them in place.

When we feel them, they can finally flow.

Now when anxiety rises, I don't reach for escape routes. I turn towards it with gentle curiosity. "What are you trying to tell me? What needs to be heard?" 💭

The secret? These feelings aren't trying to hurt you.

They're asking to be heard. To be felt. To move through you. Each emotion carries wisdom, if you’re brave enough to listen.

When you stop numbing our emotions, when we learn to ride their waves instead of drowning them in substances - that's when real healing begins.

Your feelings can't break you. But running from them might.

Love, Sofia xx

24/01/2025

"This is just how I'll always be..."

If social anxiety has ever whispered these words to you, if it's ever convinced you that you're destined to:
• Always feel trapped
• Forever overthink
• Never feel peaceful
• Always be afraid
• Live life from the sidelines

I want you to know something...

That racing heart in social situations?
Those shaky hands when you speak?
That mind that won't stop replaying every interaction?

They're not a life sentence.
They're not your destiny.
They're not who you are.

They're just patterns.
And patterns can change.
Your nervous system can learn new ways of feeling safe.

Because here's what anxiety doesn't want you to know:
Every time you:
• Take a gentle step forward
• Choose self-compassion over criticism
• Listen to your body's needs
• Honor your own pace
You're already rewriting your story

Your journey isn't about becoming someone new.
It's about remembering who you were
before anxiety convinced you to hide.🫣

Love, Sofia xx

Drop a 🤍 if you're ready to write
a new chapter of your story

Share below: what's one tiny way you've
surprised anxiety lately? Let's celebrate
every step forward together 🦋

14/01/2025

That awkward moment….
when someone waves, you wave back... and they were waving to the person behind you 🤦🏼‍♀️

And now you're: 🌀
Replaying the moment in slow motion.
Planning your future waving policy.
Considering never waving again.
Googling "how to wave naturally" 🫣

Your mind spinning with: 💫
"Did I seem weird?" 🙈
"Did they see me?" 🫥
"What must they have thought?" 🤔

And suddenly you're:
Creating alternate scenarios 💭
Rehearsing future apologies 🌙
Analyzing past interactions ✨
Planning personality adjustments 🎭

The truth? That person probably doesn't
even remember that moment.

They're too busy replaying their own "embarrassing" moment from 2016 🫂

Maybe you've felt like you're: 🌱
"Too sensitive"
"Too deep"
"Too much"
"Too intense"

Because who else spends hours: 🌸
Practicing how to say "here" in meetings.
Rehearsing coffee orders in the shower.
Planning responses to imaginary scenarios
(While the barista just wants to know if you want oat milk 🫖).

But here's the truth about your overthinking: 🤍
It's not your enemy.
It's not your flaw.
It's not your weakness.
It's your beautiful mind trying to keep you safe 🦋

Behind every overthought: 🌿
"What if I say something wrong?"
Lives a heart that cares deeply.

Real freedom isn't in: 🌙
Never overthinking.
Perfect responses.
Flawless interactions.
Constant certainty 💫

It's in understanding why your mind
dances in these thoughtful spirals,
and learning to dance with it instead of fighting it.

Drop a 🤍 if you've ever had an overthinking party at 3am ✨

P.S. If this resonates, I'm sharing exactly
how I transform overthinking into peaceful
clarity in todays live training at 5pm Uk time.

No pressure to join, but you're so welcome if
this speaks to your overthinking heart 🦋 ✨

Love, Sofia xx

13/01/2025

"Just don't overthink it!"
(Said every non-overthinker ever) 🤦🏼‍♀️

Let me paint you a picture of what my mornings used to look like:

Making breakfast while: 🫖

Replaying last week's conversation 💭
Practicing future interactions 🗣️
Analyzing my tone of voice in yesterday's call 🎭
Planning responses to imaginary situations ✨
Reminding myself of everything that could possible go wrong in my day ahead 😵‍💫
Convincing myself that I’m better off staying in bed where I can feel safe 🛏️

All before my first sip of coffee 😅

The funny thing about overthinking is
how sneaky it can be 🤫

It shows up as:
"I'm just being thorough"
"I'm planning ahead"
"I'm being considerate"
"I'm preparing myself"

When really, it's: 🎭
Anxiety wearing a productivity mask.
Fear dressed as perfectionism.
Control pretending to be preparation.
Protection disguised as planning.

I remember when overthinking was: 💫
My constant companion.
My nightly ritual.
My morning routine.
My daily default.
My way of passing the time.

Until I learned: 🦋
My sensitive mind isn't wrong.
My deep thinking isn't bad.
My careful nature isn't weakness.
My thoughtful heart isn't too much.
My kindness isn’t a weakness.

Real freedom isn't in: 🌿
Never overthinking.
Perfect mental clarity.
Constant confidence.
Zero analysis.

It's in: ✨
Understanding your patterns.
Trusting your process.
Finding peace with your depth.
Knowing you're safe to be you 🤍

What's the most creative thing your mind has overthought lately? (Mine was practicing small talk with my plants while watering them… just incase hey decide to talk back 😅)

Love, Sofia xx

P.S. Ready to transform overthinking into
peaceful clarity? Join me tomorrow where
I'll share exactly how to do this while
honoring your beautifully deep mind ✨

08/01/2025

How to FIX anxiety 💭

This morning, as I sat down for meditation,
I caught myself in an old pattern:

Racing through the breathing. 😮‍💨
Waiting for the timer. ⏲️
Pushing for perfect peace. 😰

And I had to smile, remembering how this used to be my approach to healing:

Racing towards "fixed".
Fighting for "normal".
Pushing for "better".
Chasing perfect peace.

Until I learned something powerful:

Your breath holds stories 📚
Your anxiety carries wisdom 🧠
Your emotions speak truths 🎭
Your body keeps the score ❤️‍🩹

And sometimes what looks like:
"Just anxiety" is your body asking for attention.
"Just overthinking" is your mind seeking safety.
"Just fidgeting" is energy asking to be released.
"Just aches” is your body holding onto bottled up feelings ready to burst.

Real healing isn't found in:
Fighting your wandering mind 🧠
Forcing stillness ✨
Racing to "calm" 😌
Pushing for peace 🕊️

It's discovered in:
Gentle breaths.
Mindful moments.
Quiet listening.
Patient understanding.
Exploring instead of fighting yourself.

Because your anxiety isn't your enemy.

It's a messenger asking you to:
Slow down
Listen deeper
Breathe gentler
Trust yourself 🦋

Love, Sofia xx

Drop a 🤍 if you're choosing
understanding over fighting today

What message might your anxiety be trying to tell you? ✨

07/01/2025

When you're lying awake at night when… 👀

Anxiety starts spinning thoughts of:

"Is this all there is?"
"Will I always feel this trapped?"
"Can I ever have real connections?"

I remember being there:

Stuck in that mental prison 🪤
Disconnected from any dreams 💨
Feeling lost in my own life 🙈
Unable to see past the anxiety 😵‍💫

But here's what I discovered:

Sometimes what feels like being lost is actually an invitation to create a new vision for your life.

The transformation begins when you:

Stop trying to "fix" yourself 🚫
Start imagining what's possible 🤩
Release the grip of "shoulds" 🕊️
Listen to your heart's whispers ♥️
Stop masking everything and get to the root cause of them 🌳

Because social anxiety isn't just about feeling scared in social situations...

It's about losing connection with:
Your dreams ✨
Your vision 🌙
Your true self 💫

The first step isn't about pushing through fear.

It's about remembering who you want to become 🦋

Drop a 🤍 if you're ready to create a new vision for your life.

What's one dream your anxiety has been holding you back from?

Love, Sofia xx

P.S. If you're tired of feeling trapped in that mental prison, know that freedom starts with a single vision ✨

06/01/2025

Does this sound familiar?
Why New Years Resolutions DONT WORK ‼️

You're sitting there, journal in hand,
writing the same promises you wrote last year:

"This year I'll be more social"
"This year I'll push through anxiety"
"This year I'll stop overthinking"

And somewhere deep inside, you already know:

These promises feel heavy ✖️
These goals feel forced ✖️
These changes feel impossible ✖️

Because you've been here before, haven't you?

Making those same resolutions 😵‍💫
Fighting the same battles 🙃
Wondering why change feels so hard 💭

Here's what nobody tells you about why these resolutions never stick:

They ask you to fight your anxiety instead of understanding its language 👊

They push for overnight change instead of honoring your journey 🌓

They demand transformation instead of allowing growth to unfold 🌱

What if this year, you tried something different?

Instead of: "I need to be more social"
Try: "I'll listen to what my energy needs" 🪫

Instead of: "I have to stop overthinking"
Try: "I'll get curious about my thoughts" 💭

Instead of: "I must push through anxiety"
Try: "I'll learn to listen to my anxiety” 👂

Because real transformation happens in:

Quiet moments of self-trust 🤝
Gentle steps forward 🦶
Kind conversations with yourself ♥️
Peaceful pauses between pushing 🕊️
Celebrating progress over protection 🥳

Lasting change isn't born from pressure, it blooms from understanding 🦋

Give me a 🤍 if you're choosing self-trust over force this year

What gentle promise feels right for your heart today ✨

Love, Sofia xx

04/01/2025

Can we normalize something? 🤍

That it's okay if your perfect Saturday looks like:

Declining party invites ✨
Choosing quiet over chaos 🌙
Netflix over nightlife 🎬
Peace over pressure 🤍
Rest over regret 💫

That moment when someone asks:
"What are you up to tonight?"
And anxiety starts preparing excuses
because "I need quiet time" just doesn't feel like a valid answer.

But here's the truth:

Your need for peace isn't weakness.
Your desire for quiet isn't wrong.
Your perfect Saturday is valid exactly as it is 🦋

Sometimes the strongest thing isn't pushing through anxiety but listening to what it's trying to tell you.

Maybe your soul is asking for:
A gentle evening ✨
A quiet moment 🤍
A peaceful space 🌙
A safe corner 💫

And that's not boring.
That's not antisocial.
That's not something to apologize for.

That's self-trust.
That's self-care.
That's choosing you 🦋

Give me a 🤍 if you're choosing to honor your needs tonight.

Love, Sofia xx

03/01/2025

A raw truth about new beginnings... 🤍

As I sit here sick once again at new years, I’m thinking back to a few years ago, I was spending another New Year
trapped in my own room, paralyzed by anxiety, my fear keeping me isolated from the world.

My room had become both my sanctuary and my prison:

Canceling plans last minute✖️
Watching life happen through my window ✖️
Making excuses to stay in my 'safe space' ✖️
Feeling my world getting smaller each day ✖️
Desperately lonely but too scared to connect ✖️

Social anxiety had convinced me that:

Every interaction would end in rejection 🙅‍♀️
People would see through my shaking hands 🫨
My racing thoughts would give me away 💭
I wasn't capable of real connection 😔
Safety meant staying hidden 🎭

I remember watching everyone's lives
through my phone screen, heart aching
for the connections I was too afraid to make, for the life I was too terrified to live.

Existing but never living, breathing but never free 🕊️

The hardest part wasn't just the isolation -
it was believing I deserved it.

That somehow my anxiety made me
unworthy of the life I dreamed of.

Back then, I didn't know that:

My anxiety wasn't a life sentence 🤍
My fear wasn't my destiny 🤍
My loneliness wasn't forever 🤍
My isolation wasn't who I was 🤍

I didn't know that sometimes feeling completely trapped is the first step to finding freedom 🦋

Today, as I sit here in Greece,
(a place anxiety once told me I'd never be brave enough to reach), I want to share something with your anxious heart:

This year doesn't need to be about:

Forcing yourself into uncomfortable situations 🚫
Pushing through panic 🚫
Fighting your need for safety 🚫
Becoming an entirely different person 🚫

Sometimes the bravest thing isn't changing who you are, but finally accepting and discovering who you've always been ✨

Your anxiety isn't a character flaw.

Your need for safety isn't weakness.

Your struggle isn't failure.

It's all part of your journey home to yourself 🤍

Love, Sofia xx

Drop a 🦋 if you're choosing
self-trust over transformation this year.

Let me know👇 if you're ready to stop fighting who you are, and start understanding instead 💫

31/12/2024

Looking back at 2024, and I still can't believe this is my life now 🥹

Remember when simple things felt impossible?

→ Ordering at cafes without rehearsing 100 times
→ Saying YES to spontaneous friend meetups
→ Speaking up in group settings
→ Actually enjoying social events instead of counting minutes to leave
→ Feeling EXCITED to try new things and meet new people

It’s been another year that has taught me that freedom from social anxiety isn't just a dream - it's a reality I get to live every single day and so can YOU 🦋

The girl who used to:

Cancel plans last minute 🚫
Overthink every social interaction 😵‍💫
Feel trapped in her own mind 🧠
Watch life pass by from the sidelines 🫥

Has become the woman who:

Hosts dinner parties 😋
Travels solo ✈️
Shares her authentic self 😍
Lives in each moment 💫

To the version of me from last December who couldn't imagine many things that I have achieved this year:

We did it, girl.

We really did it 🤍

And to everyone in that anxious space - this kind of freedom, this quality of life?

It's not just for "other people."

It's for YOU too.

Your peaceful, confident life is waiting on the other side of healing 🌱

Closing 2024 with a full heart and open arms for what's next ✨

Love, Sofia xx

Sofia Fiotaki - Holistic Social Anxiety Coach

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